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Recovery from self-harm?


I am a 22 yr. old female who has been in recovery for anorexia and self-injury for a year. My eating disorder is a lot better but I still have problems resorting to cutting to let out stress sometimes. I'm still in therapy but lately I have been having trouble. I cut myself on my stomach and hips and sometimes wrists. Has anyone else recovered fully from cutting? What has helped?

I can relate very well, I suffered from both anorexia and self abuse; I cut and burned myself for a long time before I finally stopped. What helped me was making pacts with people that I would call them day or night when I felt the need to hurt myself. Their end of the deal was to be there. One person was my psychiatrist(who was also my therapist) who allowed me to call day or night. Another was a good friend of mine whom I trusted and who completely understood what I was going through.
I have always kept a journal. I would always write about how I felt before and after these times, including the times when I broke my pact, which occasionally happened at first. Writing and rereading what I wrote was and still is a wonderful way to release emotion and learn about yourself. It will help you. It will help you understand what leads up to that moment when you reach for the razor blade or whatever. I will help you understand the feelings and experiences that brought you to that moment .
I hope this helps. I wish I could think of more ways to help. I wish you well. It's a journey well worth the effort.

I can't say that I've ever cut, or have ever inflicted any pain upon myself in the form of an eating disorder or anything like it, but my mom is a doctor, and I've heard her professional opinion regarding cutting. Also, one of my closest friends used to cut, and she's fully recovered.

Some of the things that my mother, and my friend have said is that it helps to;

*Put yourself in a place where you CAN'T cut, a public place where you can do something to get your mind off of it
*Journal your feelings, call a hot line, or talk to a friend you can trust about how you're feeling, getting your feelings out through words or on paper will help more then getting them out with a blade
*Try something else that will make you get the same feeling as cutting, except doesn't involve any bodily harm

Also, continue therapy, and remind yourself of the things you are thankful for, and the things you love about yourself everyday in front of a mirror. Face yourself. I believe that ultimately, this is the greatest step towards recovery.
Tell yourself the things you want to believe but don't, find one new thing that you love about yourself every day, which will help you gain self confidence.

I don't cut, but I will pray for you.
Cast all your care on Him for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7

When I was cutting, it was not defined as any kind of disorder, and I never talked about it with any kind of professional.

I would say that I have "fully recovered" because I haven't done it in, ummm . . . well, over thirty years. What helped were two things:

1.) I grew up.

I know that at 22, you sometimes feel quite grown up and, with some of the stuff you're feeling and have felt, maybe you even feel downright old. But time heals many, many hurts in ways you can't even imagine now. The problem is keeping those who are hurting around long enough to actually begin to feel it! <sigh>

2.) Continuous, honest self-evaluation.

While you can certainly begin that process in therapy (and some people will always do it better with a little help), eventually, it should become second-nature. (There's that darned time issue again. Sorry.) And it also becomes a lot less "heavy" after a while.

At least that's what happened for me.

L.

Not fully recovered but i'm working on it.
I've started to play the guitar again. It's something I love plus it helps me release some of my anxiety(which makes me cut). I also paint alot now.
Just find something you really love to do. It might help take your mind of cutting just long enough for the feeling to do it to go away.

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