My dad's Grief?

My mom passed away this past August of Cervical Cancer. We are all devastated because it happened so fast and she suffered towards the end of her battle. My dad is beside himself with grief. He talks about dying everyday and cries everyday for her. They were together for 50 years. I took him to see a Therapist last month and he refuses to go back. He does not want to attend any support groups and he basically wants to die. He said that he will die of a broken heart. He has no interest in his 3 grandkids and does not want to spend the holidays with family at all. He cried all over my 7 year old a few weeks ago, which upset me. My 7 year old did not know what to do and looked so confused. My dad is 62. I don't know what to do about this situation. Is this normal to grieve this way?

It is very normal, I think, and the idea of dying of a broken heart is very real.

I lost both of my parents in July. After 66 years of marriage, they both died of natural causes, within 12 hours of each other.

Just imagine what kind of love they had, too. In this day and age, that kind of love story, and that of my parents, is very rare.

Your dad may come out of it, however, and you can keep trying.

God bless.

Oh...my heart gos out to your Dad! Normal to grieve that way?? Yes! I can not believe that you would ask!
I suggest you get him some help before you loose him as well, if he refuses to go to a therapist, then get one to come to him.I suggest a grief counselor.

Your poor dad, Oh and you bless your heart. Your dad is apparently depressed and he needs to get professional help (before you loose your father as well) It may be a good idea for you to get help as well because it sounds like you have lost your mother and father. I will pray for your family, I hope you are able to tell your father that you need him and he needs to start helping himself because he is still living and so are you and your family and all of you need him.

Ask your Dad " what would you want Mom to do if it had been you instead of her"? Would he want her to give up and not enjoy what time he can with the Grand kids, or would he want her go on in life? I'm sure that he would have rather it been him but life is like that.Remember, "What would Mom want him to do....Good luck and God bless...

have my sympathy..and extend my sympathy to your dad..God bless his heart..it is perfectly normal ..but he will need some time to grieve....

Oh, your poor dad! I feel so badly for him :-(
It's only been a couple of months, give him time to grieve, be there for him, listen to him. He is older and lost his companion of 50 years! That is a terrible, terrible ordeal. It's going to take time for him.
You and the rest of the family need to ease his transition from being a husband to a widower. He will need you now. Even though he wants to be alone, don't let him be alone. Make sure to visit him and he will come around eventually. The first year is going to be hard, though.

Dear Friend, I know how your dad feels, i lost my mom recently . It was very devastating, it was also from cancer. It is very normal for your dad to grieve this way. my parents were together 49 yrs, she died a week after their anniversary. im sorry to say that people can die from a broken heart. if he has lost the will to lvie there isnt much that can be said or done. i wouldnt give up on him, try to get him to a grief counselor for help, but you cant force him to do anything. im sorry that your children are being ignored, your dad dont know how else to feel or express his grief. i will pray for him and you and ur family. i know how painful it is to go thru this, especailly during the holidays coming up, its gonna be so very painful for you and my family also. if you beleive in GOD, my friend then pray for strength and for your dads well being.may GOD protect you and ur loved ones. love and prayers .... SM

I can barely write this, Im so sad. It breaks my heart because I cant even imagine what he's going through. Im so sorry for your loss. Please I know you have you own family now but your dad needs to be with people right now. Dont leave him alone because it will only make it worse. I'll pray for you and your family and trust and seek God through this difficult period.