What to do when counseling, grief support, and family doesn't help with grief?

I lost my daughter over 2 yrs ago & everyone says time heals all wounds. It is getting worse everyday. I wake up go to work & spend nights w/my son. I have tried everything possible from counseling to support groups, my family is no help on either side, to me. My husband & my son are my back bone, but I can't stop feeling like a failure. I failed to protect my kids. I have read many selfhelp/grief books & I just don't know what I am looking for to help me get past this nightmare I am living. People tell me to move on, HOW, to me they are telling me to forget her, I can't live without her, I need both my kids, not just 1. I am on meds for depression, anxiety, & insomnia. HELP ME PLEASE!!! I don't know what it will take to live. I can't help but feel I do not have the right to be happy anymore, but I pretend for the sake of my son. I can teach him to live life but i can't teach myself. I try to follow him in what I taught him. My mind plays tricks with me or me with my mind

There are no words that can express your loss. Your a Mother that had been given the most precious gift of all, your child. God had decided that your daughter had given exactly what she needed to give to this world. I believe the wings of the angels are holding you through this ultimate time of dis pare and hell. The greatest gift of Gods, was his only son. I am not a preacher just a believer. People say the darnedest things, because ...** they don't know what to say** We are all dumbfounded by what occurs around us. In the awe of what the hell and that is exactly what it is **HELL** Coping with this loss is all up to you! When the time to grief is done within yourself, you will be open to the teachings that (will) follow. Did you ever here the saying "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger" that comes with you. Your fate is up to you, not anyone else. Support your loss, yet be joyous that you had her. Your lucky to have these memories. Nearly everyone with empathy has a greater loss of the heart. You should let her be free. There are no worries for her now. Peace is what one craves for without knowing it. Your peace is over due. Parents want to continue to help there child when they have moved on, to make sure they are safe, its natural to feal this
agony. Yet you are to move on and give others your gifts to help them in there time of dis pare, because you now understand the pain u feal it and you can say honestly you know it!! I wanted to express my pain towards your loss. You will make it!! I promise
Taking the first step to release you from your responsibility is the major one. Within your question you answered your questions. Your family is there another child and a husband they both are grieving all the loss also. You all help each other. You started this family of yours and it is still a family. Help them to help you is
one of your gifts....... remember.........** your a gift also** never forget that...

there are stages of grief. You will never "get over it". I am sorry for you,I lost my son. it is terrible just to wake up every day Report It

Your loss is very sad, and there is nothing that can be said that can relieve your grief. I can only recommend that you try to learn to narrow your focus to the task at hand and not to think about things outside that task. That is one skill. Another is to learn to forgive yourself. You did the best you could. Finally, it helps a lot to have faith, a religion to help you through hard times. Try to find faith and forgiveness.

I dont really have a good answer for you. I used to be scared of all kinds of stupid things. But when I had my daughter, my fears were for her. I could no longer imagine anything more horrible than losing her, or her having to endure any kind of pain. I used to think if she died I would go with her, because I couldnt stay alive without her. I can only imagine the kind of pain you're in. And all I can say is live one day at a time. You'll never forget her, and you'll never get over her. Put your energy into your surviving child, just like you have been. Cherish him. And allow yourself to be happy when you know you should. That doesnt make you wrong, just human.

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