How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?

How could you handle this grief, words, time,friends hugging you, a stranger grief support group? When together over 40 yrs, how can one adjust not having that person around. Is it normal to want another companion, is it disloyalty to the spouose of so many years? Does it help overcome the lonliness, or just feel guilty?

Some funeral homes / mortuaries provide to the family the possibility of seeing a grief counselor as a part of their services.

Christian ministers are also willing to speak with you about your grief and the types of questions you ask.

I agree, the pain can be intense. Sometimes in our effort to not feel the pain we push away the very people and moments that others come to offer support or prayers. As hard as it seems at the moment, when you will allow even one or two people into your trust to simply sit nearby, it can take the edge off the loneliness of being alone in the house. Desiring a companion's presence is very normal. Marrying quickly, though, making permanent decisions during a time of intense grief may be misguided and a poor choice. Do find an old friend and appreciate each other's company as the next year passes so you can heal.

not so simple to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better u search for a good frnd...............

there is an old saying. time heals all wounds. i lost my wife almost 10 years ago. just now finally getting over the grief, denial, and guilt. each person is different, support groups help some, others it dont. you just have to find out what works for you by trying them out. gl, i feel for your loss since i have been there.

We all handle grief differently,I feel that the reason you are looking for another companion is that you want to fill an empty void,which is very normal,The thing about it is no one will ever take the place of your spouse,Jumping into a partner type relation ship will only worsen things on you,You are not being disloyal you are only going through a grief process and it will take time,My advise is to see a counselor and make some friends that can help you out,I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope that everything works out for you,Just think of the times you had and be grateful you got to be with that person for so long,They would want you to be happy 8-)
Chin up and God Bless you!

First of all I am sorry and my prayers are with you. My Father passed away a few years ago and it was really hard on my Mother. She kept really busy..and cried quite a bit but after about a month the down episodes seemed less and less. She still has her moments but I think it is normal. Jumping into another relationship probably isn't the answer. You need to go through the grieving process. Spend time with friends and family..and talk about how you feel with your close friends...they are the best support you have at a time like this.