Would you please describe to me ways that are positive in handling grief issues?

I believe in prayer, have been through counseling, but still, after over 10 yrs, still cry buckets. What do you do to help alleviate the grief of losing a loved one, especially during the date that they passed on?

The lose will always Be there no matter what, it does get easier with time. But still hurts like H*ll, Remember this poem........When time is my only pain, until I see you once again, I can go to a place in my mind where you'll always be the same. And I'll always have you near me until that special day. Both our minds and our hearts will be forever locked away! Hope it helps. Peace be with you!

get over it and move on.

I hope you keep in mind that you WILL be able to be with that person again someday. This isn't as permanent as it seems. In the mean time, it sounds like you're doing everything right, continue to pray, God WILL help you, and counseling is good! Other than that, I say maybe get into a support group for people who've suffered a tragic loss. Being around other people who are going through the same thing as you will help you cope better, and to know that you're not alone.
God bless!

my little sister just died on April 23...so i've only just begun to grieve. i haven't cried yet except when i was with her when she died...but that was from relief...she was in so much pain..i just thanked God for taking her..people tell me i'm just numb from shock..but i don't feel numb.this is the first time i've lost someone so close to me so i don't know.I'm just so thankful to have had her in my life. I guess i'll get counsellling if i feel the need..i've been blogging about Chris on my 360,but i've been having trouble posting new ones. i'm sure i will be praying alot about it.

Everyone handles grief differently. We as humans are selfish creatures and when we lose someone we love, we lose a bit of ourselves. Prayer was a good start. Try to think what this person would say to you if they knew after 10 years you still grieve. On days you miss them and the date they have passed. Think of all the joy that person brought to your life. Smile on the love they gave and say thank you for being my friend. And live your life as to make them proud.

There is no time table on grief. You may grieve forever. And that's okay, there isn't anything wrong with you.

Give yourself permission to grieve fully. For example, allow yourself to greive all day, cry all day, kick, scream, beat the walls. Allow this for as many days or hours that you reasonably can.

Maybe do it while you're alone, so everyone else doesn't think you've lost your mind. But really, really let yourself feel the grief. Notice how it physically feels.

When the physical side of the greif starts to go away, then decide to put that grief aside until a later day, when you can devote your emotions fully to it.

In the meantime, find something worthy to live for and devote your life to, it may not be as easy as it sounds, but it worked for me.