Is there anything that can help me through this grief??

My mom died a month ago and I can't focus, work, sleep, eat or do many normal daily activities. I feel like I'm in a fog. Everything I read says this is "normal" grief. Does anyone who has gone through this have ANY suggestions that might help me feel a little better? I know I just have to go through this, but I can't even seem to have a single happy thought anymore.

Try to go to a support group you may not want to but force your self,they are free and you may just need a few visits to express your feelings to someone who is feeling the exact same way as you are and will understand what you are going through.

Sorry for your loss. I advice you to be very open. Talk as much as you need to, cry if you want. Do not try to hide it deep inside, that'll be very bad. Loss is a part of life, we can't avoid it. Stay positive.

It's all normal. You've lost someone who has been a major figure in your life for your ENTIRE life. That's not an easy thing. It's one of the great losses in life next to a child or a spouse. Your grief will go on forever. You probably won't go a day where you won't think about her. Grief is a one year cycle. You have to go through every first birthday, every first holiday, every first special moment without her. Each one will be so very difficult in it's own right, but once you've experienced those firsts each one will be easier after that. As long as you just don't get stuck in the sorry, in the depression, in the loss. Each day will get better. Keep pushing yourself through your day. The days will pass and the despair will lessen. If you're going beyond 3 months to where you're crying daily, have no motivation, to where your life is actually being affected, see a therapist. Even just a talk counselor - no medications. Just someone to unleash your feelings onto to get them out and recognize them and deal with them in your own way.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I agree that you should check out a local support group. Even if you don't feel comfortable sharing during the group it is still helpful just to listen to what others have to say. They never force you to speak if you don't want to, so don't worry about that. Good luck!

It must be bad and you must be really sad. I can see that. But first you need to know something.
1) You have to move on:
From what you've said, i know that you acknowledge the
fact that no matter what, you still have to be strong and
continue with life. It's part and parcel. It might be hard to
concentrate for a period of time, but time will fade
everything.

2) Know what your Mum wants you to do/be:
I'm very sure that she'll want you to stay strong and be
happy. Do what she likes. Afterall, you want her to be
happy too right?

3) Take up a hobby:
Learn something or take up a hobby. It'll distract you from
your thoughts. Preferably, an exercise. Exercising can
give you a clearer state of mind and will enable you to think
through everything and recollect yourself.

4) Be strong. Use this experiece to help others. Know that
there are many people around the world experiencing the
same feeling as you. Share your grief with them.
You're not alone.

I hope that helps. Please really stay strong. God Bless.
I will pray for you.

I dont know your circumstance but. I have no one to turn to when tragedy strikes me. So I have to deal the best I can. Six months ago my grandfather died. He was basicaly all I had left in the world. I'm still greiving. I still cry. Even after so long I suddenly remember events surrounding his death. But I try to tell myself that life goes on. If he was still alive he'd want me to be happy and healthy and I know even now that hes gone he'd still want the same thing. So I try to strive on and live for him. Stuff like this is just what life is like. It sucks sometimes but your still alive. You should never live like your dead. Although If you feel you can't bare the way you feel you should consider talking to a professional. (Therapist) Hope this helps.

Your experiences are normal after a major bereavement.

You will start feeling better at times, but you may experience grief periodically for a long time. If you are dealing with her affairs or estate, the grief will be more intense - same on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries of her death.

There is no magic solution to grief, except that you will return to more normal functioning. Try to look after your needs even if you don't feel like it. Seek out friends who will listen you you and care about what you are going through (without making platitudes or giving 'advice" you don't want.) As you feel able, return to activities that interest you (and there is no shame is saying, "no, I am not ready yet). Try the local help line, or see other helping professionals (grief group at the hospital where your mother died, clergy if you are religious).

If you feel that you cannot cope, then consider professional help. Your doctor can often make a referral for you.

You may also benefit form a professional grief counseling group, though many intended to begin 3 or more months after the death.

You are going through the normal grief cycle, but find a support group at local hospital or church. They can do you a lot of good. I lost my wife 4 years ago, and attended a support group for a year. All of the discussions are confidential and you can spill your guts. Keep in mind everyone grieves at different levels and length. After support groups and doctors, it took me nearly 4 yrs. to work through all the guilt of me being the one left to live.

I'm sorry for your loss. You've already received some really good answers.
I just wanted to say that later (it's probably a little too soon right now) you might want to consider writing a mom journal. Just write down all the things that made her so special. Everything that comes to mind. Not all at one time but a little every once in a while. This will help you a little and it will also be a wonderful way for you to let your children know their grandmother. Sad as it is to say your memories might fade (not diminish) after a while too but you will always have this to look back on.