Do you know anyone who has died from grief? lovesickness? abandonment? depression? Any of these ?

I have a friend who lives in another state and she calls me and emails me that she thinks she is dying from the grief of her breakup. The doctor said that her bloodpressure was up and she was depressed. She has been taking bloodpressure medicine for years so it is not a result of this breakup. She keeps asking me to come see her and help her. I can't. I work and have children and no one to keep them. What do I do? Do you really think she can grieve herself to death??? Give me some advice to help her. But first answer with a yes or no.

Depression in itself is very hard for anyone to deal with.
I suffer from depression and almost took my own life a few
Years ago. But through prayer and good friends to be by my
Side, I was able to pull through whatever the devil was trying to
Do. I am now on medication to help me suppress some of my
Negative thoughts because they say that more severe cases of depression
Is actually a medical problem. There is a chemical imbalance of cerontonin
In the brain that causes people to have terrible, terrible thoughts of harming
Themselves or others. Which does not make them crazy, just confused and
Lonely.

I had a friend that killed himself horribly because I thought that he was stronger
Than he really was. He would call me and talk to me and ask me what to do. I could
Only tell him about how I was seeking therapy for my thoughts and how he could go and see my therapist as well. My friends only downfall was, that he did not believe in ANY
Higher power and his whole world was crumbling before him. There is a lot more to his
Story but I don鈥檛 want to sit here and tell you of his trials because, all they did was take my friend away. I got a call one day after I had spent some time with my friend while I was in the library and, I was told that my friend had just taken his life. They told me that he wanted someone to tell me personally because he didn鈥檛 want for me to read about it in the newspaper or hear it on the news. I hated him for a long long time afterward. But then I hated myself, and when I then tried to take my own life, his spirit came to me and told me that I did not want to trade places with where he was and I straightened up. Now, I say this too you. PLEASE!!!!!! Be there as much as you can for your friend if you truly
Value your friendship, because in the mind of a depressed person, one never knows when that final snapping point will go. I truly do understand how you have children and how she鈥檚 so far away. Why not invite her to come to where you are so that she knows you are there for her and she does have someone on her side, and that there is someone who values her life and wants her to be here for much longer that she feels she needs to be.

I will pray for you and please tell your friend to give ALL!!!!! Give it ALL to GOD鈥?.and let him deal with it. But once she does that, she needs not worry about it anymore. As far as that person she broke up with, OK yes it hurts. PLEASE GET OVER IT! THERE are more fish in the sea than you want to know. Just take your pick, and if that one doesn鈥檛 work, through his *** back and pick another one. Good luck to you and your friend.

Yeah鈥︹€?, I know it may be hard to believe her, but to tell you the truth I thought that my friend Was just talking nonsense as well鈥︹€︹€?turns out he wasn鈥檛鈥︹€︹€?he was
Really hurting and I didn鈥檛 believe in him enough to push him harder than I actually
Could have. Report It

No I don't. She should see a doctor about getting herself on anti-depressants though.

yes she can. i was at that state in mind once. im recovering from it. it was a friend who pulled me out of it. i beleive that if a friend or family member cries out, try and help them as much as you can. you may not beable to be there for her. but just listen to her let her talk it out. call her when you can...

I believe that a break-up or something that has created a tremendous amount of grief or stress in our life can affect our health. You are not responsible for her state of mind. All you can really do is suggest that she seek help. Her Dr. can recommend a therapist or a support group.

Yes, I think that it is possible for a person to die as a result of the stresses of losing a loved one. My husbands grandfather died in 2004 after a sudden illness. His wife of 50 some years was very depressed and it wasnt long after that when she started having health issues. She died 8 months after he did. These were people that were healthy, traveled, hung out with their family and were active in the community and church. But, when he went downhill, it seemed as though she did as well. I think that the stress involved just eggagerates anything physically that could or is going on in your body already. It weakens your immune system. You dont want to eat. You dont want to take care of yourself, and you dont have the WILL to live. I think that all culminates in "dying from grief". I dont know if she would still be alive if he were, but we all saw a change in her. the light was gone.....and then SHE was gone.

yes
father had a heart attack and stoke and mother died that night after he had been taken to hospital- he died shortly after- but they where also together for 50 years.

I know that when you are depressed and anxious your immune system shuts down, leaving you more susceptible to illness. I had some major problems at work and didn't realize how much they were affecting me until I came down with strep throat, pink eye (both eyes), bronchitis, the stomach flu, and then eventually walking pneumonia all in a period of 2 weeks.

I don't think that being depressed can actually kill you but it can certainly lead you to destructive behavior which can definitely kill you. I would talk to your friend about taking a depression and anti-anxiety medication such as Lexapro for a while. It should help and has very little side-effects. Also, is there someone in her area that you can call to drive by/stop in and check on her from time to time? The distraction might help her. You are not a bad friend for not being able to see her. I would try to see if there is a church group or some type of social service that can go over there if you feel like she's feeling badly enough to do something destructive.

I doubt she can grieve herself to death, but she COULD be suffering from DEPRESSION which could lead her to thoughts of SUICIDE. She needs HELP, from a MEDICAL DOCTOR, this is not something YOU can fix, she needs help to battle depression, or at LEAST needs to find a grief support group, or a therapist so she can talk about her sadness.