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How do I cope with stress and grief?


Stressed by:

School (whether or not I'll manage to graduate this year)

Family (issues with my parents, high tensions in a strained relationship)

Money (or lack there of)

Crystal Meth Addiction (I get more stressed with every failed attempt at recovery)

Grief:

My friend was murdered on January 28th. His death is hard enough to handle without being reported in every news paper as being related to drugs, gangs and organized crime. Every article I read makes me so sad because they report his life as having been one of crime, saying he was a cold gangster who was well known to police. That's not at all who he was, my memories of him are of a funny peaceful stoner who's name Sunny suited him perfectly.

Please help me... I cant take it all for much longer...

Your primary need is to be free of the addiction. all other things will fall into place in time.
Please enter rehab assoon as possible

Your life sounds out of control, much having to do with your bad choices (meth, "friends" like Sunny, etc.).

We prove that we are mature adults when we make responsible choices in our lives. Start to make them and you will be happier. Begin by not "attempting" to recover, but get real and do it right. The money you save on not buying drugs you can use for other things. Your family tensions I am sure come from your bad choices, so once you get your act together that should change too, same goes with the schooling too.

Time to grow up and get your act together before it's too late.

i have talked to the folks at suicide prevention hotline---you may find them compassionate

Hi guy.....you have a lot to deal with!! And to be so young, too.
It's a good thing to hear you say you actually want to graduate.!!
That makes me smile and feel proud for you!!

All of the above are related to one thing: your Meth addiction.

I'll tell you the truth.....sometimes we don't want to hear the truth. It is easier and sounds so much nicer sometimes if it is a a lie.

Only the truth will set you free, however. Guaranteed!!

Give your friend a silent hug, a pretend kiss on the forehead and let him go.

The truth in all this: You have no control over any of this!!!
There is only one thing in this whole life that you have control over. That is yourself. You can't control your environment, but you surely can control how you respond to it!!

Your friend is dead. At this point in time, it doesn't matter how he died or why. Who he was or was not. Only that you considered him your friend. If he was your friend through drugs, I am sorry for you both.

You know by now that drugs of any kind will indeed ruin your life. Like alcohol. There is absolutely nothing good that can come from doing drugs. It takes your money, your family, any friend who is not using drugs too, and it can take your life as well.

You can control yourself to not watch TV. Why watch it knowing they will talk about your friend. You are only hurting yourself. You can control that.

Your parents know nothing of your addiction? They only know they've lost a son. You are not up to your potential. They know it.......you know it. They are hurting too. They love you so.

You can choose to give up Meth. Easy????Hell no. But I'll tell you what, you are young yet. Take my word for it.....nothing in this world worth having is easy. Absolutely NOTHING! You get to chose the easy way out of life which will lead you to nothing and even death. Or you can chose the hard way which with hard work will lead you to a proud future, filled with monetary and personal successes and true love.

See? It all means you have to make a decision about your own life. Nobody else can make it for you. Be strong!
Have faith! You need to know Jesus. He's there. He'll help if you want Him to.

You'll not change your drug habits unless you change your life entirely, and unless you WANT to. New friends, new hang-outs. New environment entirely. Don't kid yourself into thinking you can quit and keep the same ole, same ole. You'll fail. Guaranteed!! You've tried and failed your way. The choice is yours. So make your choice. Live the right life, or end up like your friend. Either way, stressing over it won't help a bit!!

Ain't easy. Just don't cry over your life when you aren't willing to sacrifice to change. I mean sacrifice hard. You need to sweat blood and tears to change.

You can stress out all day. Stress never changed anything, son. Go stress yourself and wake up to another day like yesterday, only a bit worse.

Begin by swearing to a new tomorrow, then make it happen. It won't "just" happen because you wish it would. Because you stress over it! Drink lots of water!!!, begin by bringing home bunches of homework! Study, study, study. Lay off the music stuck in your ears 24/7. The video games. That is escaping!. Look reality in the face for once. Every waking moment when you are not in school, you need to be doing homework, or helping mom/dad or someone else in your neighborhood less fortunate than yourself. Someone who can only thank you with a tear in their eye. Get a "high" off life for once. Get a "high" off doing what Jesus wants of you for once. Feel how good it feels. Get your mind off yourself!!

You have too much time on your hands. Begin working out. When was the last time you did 50 push ups? 25? 10?
C'mon!! You're a young man! Play sports!! Jog a mile, two, three....Learn to do something productive and stop feeling sorry for yourself!!

MAKE A CHANGE! NOW!

I'm sorry I don't have a magic answer. Just God. Just choices...

Go hug your mom.

I am an RN

Hey wake up!
Your problem is drug if you are an addict get out from it and your life in 15 days time stay well and you can carry on.
Bad friends are bad problems and always bringing drugs by middle.
Turn round and go straight ahead

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