When we start crying out of grief, should we let it run its course....or put a stop to it at some point?

When do we know the right time to stop. Eventually the tears do dry up, but is it healthier to let it run its full course?

Also, a lot of times, I remember something and tears well up in my eyes, but I swallow my tears, toughen up, and distract myself doing other things. I fight it. Would you say this is healthy?

I think its important to let grief run its course. If you don't, it'll just bottle up somewhere and create more problems or just explode one day for no reason. Time heals all.. and eventually we will know when the right time is for us to stop crying and start moving on. You can't just say stop and lets keep going - our emotions dont work that way. Grief does take a while to work through.. its painful. Its ok to look back at the memories and tear up.. memories are the best part of being human... imagine if we had nothing to look back on. Be grateful for those moments when you remember something happy or pleasant.. let the tears well up.. but then remember to smile and be happy that you had that chance to make that memory.

Are you concerned about how long you've been grieving for?? If it's been too long or its been interfering drastically in your daily functioning, maybe you should seek professional help. If its still been recent, let it run its course. Lean on family and friends for support.. its a rough time, but you dont have to do it alone.

Let it run it's course.

Your doing the right thing. My therapist told me so.

yes, I'd say that's pretty healthy. Me: I let it run it's course and know that I will pull through.

its healthy to cry when you feel the need to but if its something you find yourself doing all the time then you should seek help you may have depression.

Let if flow, of course...!! Just relax and let it all out!! That is the best thing fora healthy mental state. Experts say it..It's N.Americans and British tend to swallow their sad episodes and rather feel embarrassed...Why?

It is a part of our nature..! Don't overdo it either, but do not hide it! It is time we humans begin to be fully sincere at all levels..

When you refrain, troubles may came in different ways, mainly in the form of psychological disorders, even if very mild, but it is something that eventually will make you suffer somehow.

Hope you think about this answer! Good luck !

I was asking myself just that, i lost a close mate, its been nearly a year now, and i still think about him every day, and have to fight back tears, it hurts like hell but you need to grieve, bottling it up isnt healthy, nor is crying at the drop of a hat, your doing the right thing, im sorry you have something to cry about. best of luck to you darl

yes let it run its course, the mind and the body need this.

letting it run its course is sometimes the best option...but there are times when its just not appropriate!
personally, i would just say let things run their course naturally-cry when you need to. it might help. hope youre ok

you are at choice here..

do whatever makes you "feel" (honestly) better..

your feeling is your truth..

i do the same thing i try to not try not to cry but i just end up holding it all in i think its healthier if you let it out.

let it go you need it to heal

keep crying, it is the natural way to heal. Don't let anyone stop you from feeling your feelings. If you do you stop the healing process. Blessings.

In the past I have let it run its course and I thought it was the right thing to do for me. This time after 4 months and went and asked for an antidepressant and Xanax for an acute attack. I was so sick of crying all the time. My husband died and I was told that my cancer was metastasized, stage IV and treatment would be for comfort only. The antidepressant helped a lot. And, I don't need the Xanax now. It is for backup, but I don't think I will need it. I still can get teary but not totally out of control which I found exhausting. Also, I wanted to get on with life as best I could and take control where I could. I am doing that and feel better now. Distracting yourself is okay. Whatever works for you is okay. We are all different and we heal at different rates.

There is an important distinction between repression and suppression. Repression is unwholesome and means that you're unable to allow certain feelings because they're too threatening. Suppression on the other hand is wholesome and means that you retain control over your emotions, which is really the only way to live with other beings.
Strong resistance to the way things are (like intense grief, depression, hate) is extremely draining on emotional stability. That in turn can give rise to many dangerous things like despair, further vulnerability or compensation through substance abuse, sometimes abuse of people. Also it blocks learning through understanding - that's why we try to console people and talk them out of it.
I'd say, make sure it's under your control and a limited indulgence for worthy occasions.