Genital Herpes...I'm scared...?

I was dating this guy for a couple weeks and we had sex 2 times. Which is something I usually don't do. Anywho the other night he was talking to me about his ex and he said that he found out she was cheating on him, because he saw that she had developed genital herpes. As soon as he said this I started flipping out. He said he didn't have sex with her after he learned she had it. He also said that he had been tested and he was clear of any STDs. Still, I can't stop worrying about it...so much that I don't even talk to the guy anymore. I don't know whether to trust him. We used a condom both times, but I know you can still contract herpes even with a condom. But what are the chances? Does anyone have any percentages they can share to help ease my worries? I know many of you are just going to say "go see the gyno"...but it's not that simple, i'm 20 and i don't even have a gyno to visit...and i can't really talk to my parents about my worries, cause they are extremely conservative.

thanks for all of your answers...my mind is more at ease now :)

That your partner's ex had genital herpes does not mean that she cheated on him. There is not test for genital herpes unless someone has symptoms such a sores on their genitals. People can have the herpes virus and get symptoms/sores right away, years later or never, but they still have the virus and can pass it. When someone has sores those sores are examined and cultured during and exam. There are blood tests for herpes but they are highly ineffective as they don't decifer between genital herpes and oral herpes, which causes oral cold sores, and they frequently have false positives and negatives. So, his ex may have just gotten herpes, or may have had it for some time but never knew because she didn't have symptoms and wasn't able to be tested. Your partner may or may not have it, there is no way for him to be tested unless he develops genital sores. Just as there is no way for you to be tested unless you develop genital sores. If either of you ever develop sores make sure to get an exam ASAP so you can accurately be diagnosed.
Unfortunately, for the both of you there is no way to know whether or not you have it. Continue to use condoms, condoms are very effective for safer sex. The herpes virus is located in the sores so as long as neither of you or any one else for that matter has a sore present the possiblity of passing the virus to another is very unlikely. If you ever see sores, get an exam and abstain when sores are present. Also, bear in mind that 1 in 5 Americans, 20%, have genital herpes so that likelihood of you meeting/dating someone in the future that has it is great. The key is communicating with your sex partner and taking precautions such as condoms and abstaining when sores are present. It is very easy to have one partner with herpes and another without it and stay that way. Use this an an oppotunity to educate yourself and practice safer sex, try to stop worrying. I am NOT concerned for you--you have been making good choices already by practicing safer sex and having a partner that is communicating openly with you. Keep in mind that you can still have regular STD screening for other STD's such as chlamydia, gonnerhea, HIV and Syphillis.

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100% escrewed. theres your percentage. dont sleep around or give it away after just a couple of weeks have some dignity. poor some beer on it

If he tested negagtive after her and before you...then I wouldn't worry about it.

There is no reason not to trust him.

Thats a lesson learned
u never know who ppl have been with or what they have done !

wear a condom
or
dont have sex

Masturbate
its the safest way

don't take a chance. go see a doctor immediately!!! sometimes we do things that we would never do! he may not have any kind STD but you have to see a doctor immediately. it is normal for your be going nuts... any normal person would!!! just end all your worries, see a doctor. you will again nothing out of worrying!
Just walk into any clinic! im sure they have free tests for HIV everywhere! they may even have some test to check for herpes. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE somehow go get a check up! this is about your life. don't let any tell you you were wrong for doing it or anything like that. you trusted him.. you cant be punished for trust.

Check out this website
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Herpes/STDFact-He...

If you are 20 and having sex, you need to get regular paps.
Check out a Planned Parenthood clinic. They do well woman checks and have sliding scales. Plus they are the best at talking about STDs.

First off, normal, healthy 20 year old women go to a gynecologist. This is important.

Secondly:
If you had sex with him only twice, used a condom both times, he didn't have any outward signs of herpes, he may not even had sex with his ex while she was infected.....
Yes, you could have it, but not very likely.

well there is no way to rest for herpes until you have and out break and by that time well you know. dont have sex with ANYONE for and least 6 months yor should know by then

Condoms are only about 77% to 82% effective against preventing pregnancy and transmitting STDs.. So, to be on the safe side if I were you I would go get tested. You can go to your primary care physician, a gynocologist, or go to the health department to get tested.. but you really should if you are worried.

OK, chances are if you used a condom you shouldn't worry too much unless you saw any funny blisters around the pubic area. BUT its not 100 % If you find a dept of health in your area..(look it up on-line) OR a planned parenthood you can go to either one and get tested. Planned parenthood is low cost depending on income but the dept of health is FREE.

No matter what anyone says on here you should get a gyno or go to the dept of health because you having sex already, no one is going to ease your mind any better then he or she can.
Good Luck

You will be o.k. With him not having an outbreak and wearing a condom, you should not have any worry.

As long as your skin didn't touch his (genial 2 genital) you should be ok. But personally i don't trust those blood tests for Herpes, they don't always show up. I read somewhere the the best test is if the get a sample of the herpes pimple when you have a flare up and they test that.

if the condom didnt break then you should b ok sweety, relax