1st outbreak genital herpes...Is my husband cheating?

I just recently learned that I have genital herpes and trichomoniasisis. I am alsocurrently 7 1/2 weeks pregnant. My husband and I have been married just short of a year. I have been completely monogomous with my husband since our brief courtship which started just a little over a year ago. I was very promisquous prior to meeting my husband. However, I never had any sort of STD or anything of the such, not even crabs and to my knowledge nor has he. I have now had my first outbreak with genital herpes for about 2 wks. I had never suspected my husband of cheating 3 wks ago until an incident that occurred involving his 8 year old son wanting to be dropped off where daddy was supposed to be so I called him to find out for sure that he was still there and to let him know I was bringing his son to him and he threw a major attitude and accused me of "checking up" on him. That sounded like a guilty conscience. He works out of town over night sometimes so he would have opportunities.

First of all I am sorry that you are going thru this. I also have herpes. My bf of 7yrs cheated on me on our 2nd yr. I know exactly the day he cheated because it was the day we got in a huge fight and he ended up confessing that it was on that day that he slept with someone( he confessed this 5 months later). A week later we got back together and I slept with him without knowning he had slept with someone else. EXACTLY 10 days later I had my FIRST outbreak. As per my understanding thats how long it takes for someone to have an outbreak. If you've been 100% faithful then I am sorry he must have been fooling around. I have never been comfortable with man leaving out of town for work. To me its always a great opportunity for them to cheat and us never find out UNLESS you contract a disease and why even wait for that? All I can tell you is to see a dr get the facts. The baby will be just fine. Take this time and dedicate to you and the baby and let him figure something out. I dont understand why man think with the wrong head. My dad also cheated on my mom while she was pregnant and gave her HPV. Take it easy and get ready for the arrival of the new baby that is going to bring you lots of joy. Good luck and hope you find a resolution fast to your problem =)

I think you know the answer to this one, don't you ?

i usually stay out of any situation like that but to me that sounds like he has been checking someone else's oil. if neither of you have had any problems according to what knowlegde has been shared between u two. he has stepped out

you need to make him go to the doctor also. he could be reinfecting you and putting your unborn child and you at risk......
Hmmmmmmmmmmm sounds like you got a choice. live in la la land or look for the truth. I think you have a very good r hunch about this. Set this man down and have a come to Jesus talk. something isn't right here

No, the thing about that disease is that it effects far more people than experience symptoms. Its a logical deduction to make but not an absolute one. So watch out for him.

the genital herpes could have laid dormant and you could have had it and just gotten the outbreak.

you had to be exposed to trich to get it though and it is sexually transmitted.

SOMEONE has stepped out on this relationship.

Generally speaking, you will experience your first outbreak soon after infection. Usually about 2-3 weeks after. Although it is possible that either of you had prior asymptomatic and therefore undiagnosed infection from previous relationship, recent infidelity is the much more likely scenario. Now I wont play sherlock here and decuce that he's being unfaithful based on your recent outbreak alone, but it certainly points in that direction-- Especially if he has other signs of infidelity. Herpes aside, you will simply have to confront him about possible unfaithfulness if you otherwise suspect it. Dishonesty is a far more painful condition in a relationship than a herpes infection and I hope you find the resolution you desire.

See your doctor (without your husband) and ask what the chances are of him cheating and giving it to you because he could have had it without knowing it (thats VERY common) and gave it to you that way OR you may have had it and just now got an outbreak. One doctor told my sister in law it takes several months to show. You need to go to the doctor anyways to get them removed. And dont worry, its a common thing and more people have it than even they know. Its easy to get rid of and you most likely wont get it back and if you take care of yourself eating right, not smoking, etc. (lots of greens!) it will eventually leave your body. Good luck! P.S. Dont jump to conclusions on your man...as easy as it may seem him cheating is the answer...if you're wrong, that could backfire so i would suggest just keeping your eyes open and your senses aware until you find evidence.

It is 'possible' that your husband has been seeing someone else and has brought herpes home to you. However, it is also possible that you have had it for a long time and this is either your first outbreak, or the first time you have connected genital symptoms with herpes. And, then again, he may have had herpes for some time too and either been in denial, or asymptomatic and completely unaware.

Your husband needs to get tested for herpes too because if he doesn't have it, you will need to take measures to reduce the risk of passing it on to him. And if he does. . . then you need to talk.

You also need to discuss this further with your doctor. If you have had herpes previously (and been unaware) then you will have some antibodies built up which you will pass onto the baby, this reduces the risk of passing it on to your child during childbirth. If this is in fact your first outbreak you may need to consider having a Cesarean.

Best of luck

Jeannie