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about a year ago,when i was in 8th grade,i was molested and then put into foster care.during that time,i got really depressed.i began to resort to cutting.there was this boy,i hate him,he hates me.well,he knows about everything that happened.
got it?
well ,now,i have a boyfriend,who has made me smile,no matter what i'm going through,and he takes everything slow.(knowing what i've been through).my boyfriend doesn't know about the cutting,just about the molestation.
well,my boyfriend has a twin brother,who's friends with the boy i hate.
well,the boy i hate,told my boyfriends, twin brother,that i like him and that i used to cut!
i feel so miserable right now,i just got our relationship together,and my boyfriend's twin brother,outloud,asked me if i used to cut.i played it off and said no.but i kno my boyfriend probaly believes.
i don't know what to do.i would talk to my boyfriend,to see if he believes,his brother,but he's so quiet,he doesn't voice his opinion alot.someone please help

I know the feeling when my husband found out that I was a self cutter it kinda freaked him out. But he really loved me and cared for me and he just didn't like to see me hurt myself. You and your boyfriend are kinda young, but if he is any kind of a friend he will be understanding you have been through a lot and you need to find other ways to deal with your pain. It sounds like this boyfriend has helped you do that, but of course be honest tell him so he don't have to hear things from another source which will not be as good as hearing it from you.

sometimes it's best to get things out in the open. Tell your boyfriend about it. Let him know that you lied b/c you were ashamed and he should be alright with that. Hopefully you are still not doing the cutting thing. If you are Please seak counseling. Since it's already out into the light , there is no since in trying to hide it or lie about it. You will feel so much better getting it off your chest.

I will be brief. I am sorry about what happened to you.
If you USED to cut yourself, it is great that you have become strong enough to stop. We all have things that we are not proud of, but you got through cutting yourself. So good for you!
I'm sorry that someone had to "out" your secret before you were ready to. The best thing for your relationship is to come clean o your boyfriend and tell him tthat you did, how you felt, and how you feel now. tell him why you said you didn't. Tell him if you were embarrased. You'll be suprised how much better you'll feel getting it out.
If he doesn't understand give it time. If he still doesn't, well then he helped you through a short while and made you feel better about yourself during your time together. Don't worry if he says nothing. whats important is what you say, because thats what you truly have control over - your life :)

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