Is this considered abuse? Please help my mom is crazy!?

Everyday my mom calls me an asshole and swears at me. She says,"no wonder noone loves you" and ignores me.Thats not the worst part though. She is a complete controlling manipulating mother. I say one thing like,"whats for dinner?" and she explodes saying she doesnt like my tone of voice, my facial expression or the words. I try so hard not to upset her. I even practice how to say things so she wont explode. Nothing I say my mom will except. I think she deliberately does this to start a fight. Then I tell her to stop and she screams at me and threatens to put me in foster care. She gets mad in the car for every little thing and threatens to blow up the engine or crash and I get so scared I tell her to stop but she goes crazy and goes 95 mph screaming and swerving the car. She says shes going to kill herself and drives away and says shes never coming back and that I ruin her life when Im only trying to help. Please help what should I do?

And I cant get help from my dad because he hates my mom and never cares about anyone else. He lives across the country from me and I hardly ever talk to him.

it sounds like your mom is crazy. Some sort of mental disorder that is not treated. Tell your school counselor. Especially the part where she is driving and screamng swerving and saying she wants to kill herself. You need to tell someone. This is beyond what you can do. She needs professional help. Or call 911 next time she is acting that way.

If you describe her accurately, she's a sick woman. You should consider going to live with your dad or another relative. She could be a danger to you and to herself.

you need to leave. go live with a friend, but get the hell away from your crazy mother. or just fight back and scream bloody murder.

i think you shoudl talk to another family member about it like an aunt, unclee, grandpa, grandma

I agree with Karol, she needs counseling by a professional.
You are not being disloyal to her but trying to help both of yourselves. Good Luck. God speed.

I read the first sentence, "Everyday my mom calls me an asshole and swears at me. She says,"no wonder noone loves you" and ignores me"

YES. This is considered abuse.

"he gets mad in the car for every little thing and threatens to blow up the engine or crash and I get so scared I tell her to stop but she goes crazy and goes 95 mph screaming and swerving the car. She says shes going to kill herself and drives away and says shes never coming back and that I ruin her life"

This screams that she needs serious help.

Now, how to help her: You need to call your local hospital, police station, or child protective services and call them RIGHT NOW. Why? The next time she goes nuts in the car could be the time she decides it all isn't worth it and she slams into a car killing you, her, the family of 4 in the other car, and who knows who else.

You have the ability to prevent her from hurting you, herself, and everyone else.

I am certified in BSA Youth Protection, my wife is too, and she is state certified in Child Abuse and Neglect.

Please do yourself and your mom a favor and call now to begin the helping and healing process...

you need to contact someone at school if you are not old enough to leave. They will contact child services and have someone go to your house to interview her and if she is deemed unstable you will be placed in another home or with a relative or neighbor until she can get herself together. Not all "foster" care is bad. in the meantime, try to stay away from her, watch her especially with knives or matches and if she seems like she is really going to hurt you call the cops and get out of there immediately.

good luck to you!!!

Wow. It is not your fault the way she is. I guess she's just messed up in the head [no offense]. Has she always been this way?? I think you should go live with someone else, because if she threatens your life- you never know what she'll do. =[

Definately talk to a family member first someone like an Aunt or grandma. Make sure its someone your Mom trusts not an ex or an in-law . She may feel defensive if its not someone she really likes.
If that doesn't help you may have to tell a teacher or counselor att school. you re Mom may have a chemical imbalance and just need a little medication to make her feel better I will be praying for you and your Mom

In your case, this is definitely abuse. Your mom may be experiencing a form of mental illness. You need a support circle, and your mom needs therapy fast! You may very well need to be removed from that environment immediately. Talk with relatives. On that same note, there are always two sides to every story.

sweetie, your mama needs help. and yes, that is abuse. mental abuse and emotional abuse. to me, that is almost worse then physical abuse. the pain and bruises will go away, but stuff that is said, stays forever. also, from what you described about the way she drives, that is child endangerment. you both need help. is there another relative, besides your father, that you can turn to, to talk? family friend? priest, school counselor? you need someone honey. cause this doesnt sound like it will get any better or worse. good luck to you. god bless

Your mother has either depression ("major" depression) or bipolar disorder (does she ever have manic-depressive mood swings, radical swings?). She needs professional help; and you need to get yourself out of that dangerous situation. Have you ever sat your mom down and told her, "Mom, I love you, and I know you love me; this isn't you, and I think you need help, what can I do to see that you get it?" Catch her at the right time and you may have some luck in getting her to admit she's depressed and in getting her to agree to seek professional help.

You need to call your dad and tell him flat-out that you feel you are in a very dangerous situation; and tell him that if he will not help you, AS A FATHER SHOULD, you will go to the authorities. Then do it; if he doesn't step in and help you get out of that situation at least, call child protective services. Write down everything that has been happening so you remember exactly what to tell them. IMO you would be better off with another family member, or in a foster home, than you would with a severely depressed, possibly bipolar mother who could do virtually anything without warning or provocation.

Yes it is abuse. I have had this relationship with my mom. It would get to the point where we would both start hitting eachother pulling hair and slapping. She would take her problems out on me. I had gone to school and told them what was going on ... also i moved i went to live with my granparents it was sooooo hard because i had to leave my 13 yearold brother behind but i could not stay anymore it was not safe i live for years go through that. and its weird cuz one day i asked my mom whats for dinner and she flipped calling me a b*tch and all this other stuf i was like can u clam down i just asked you a Q. the point is that you have to block it out i did for years it is very hard but anyoone can do it. i spent a year were all i would do was stay in my room... if i was not at school i was in my room i would never speak to my mom becuase it would become a fight. do you have a younger or older brother or sister (you have to keep them inmind)... is there anyone else you can live with if not think and think good about living with someone else.... maybe foster care would not be as bad but only if you cant handle it at home ... try as hard as you can to do so block it out be strong you can do it and if you want you can e mail me ljmclean2003@yahoo.com i am 15 now and still confussed about it and when i talk to my mom over the phone it kills me because we sound happy and i no if we live together we would kill eachother it is sad but there are lots of people goin throw the same thing or even wores so be strong you can do it

This is verbal & emotional abuse with the threat of physical harm. Go to someone you can trust, or even the police, & tell them. I do not know how old you are, but you need to get out of that situation as you do not need to live like that.

I would be the last one to tell you that you should report her but isn't there someone in your family that you can talk to that can reason with her to get some help. Someone that can intervene so that she seeks some help. You need to be with family not be taken away from your family. IF you call the police or even tell at school that could happen.

Now I am not saying that you should tell no one, but if you have family you start there first.

If that does not work and your mom continues then you will have to tell someone outside of the family and take the chance that you will get put in protective services custody for a time till they make your mom get help. That whole experience should scare the crap out of your mom and she will want to get the help and get you home as quick as possibly.

good luck