Being abused...dont know what to do?

For as long as i can remember ive always been hurt, whether it was physical, emotional or mental. I am 15 and i have 2 older brothers (26, 30) I live with 3 younger sisters and mom. My life is a total nightmare. Ive been hit with plastic stools, belts, shoes, a lamp, drill, pool stick, in the past but recently my mom has been punching me in the face alot more. If you knew me, you would never know this, im an optimistic person and have confidence in myself. I dont how i do it. As of right now im seeing a therapist for something that went on in school. My mom uses this against me and im always put down by her and my sisters. Im torn, i want to let the therapist know about the abuse (shes knows me and my mom/sisters do not get along ) but i dont wanna go into foster care thast the only thing...help

my mom is extremely agruementative and i dont like to argue with her so sung to myself and she got angry and i got punched. im called *****, fat ***, whore, everyone tells me im not wanted here, and she tells me she can wait untill i turn 18

If you cannot contact CPS, ask someone to do it for you.
I grew up with similar problems and did nothing about them.
I am now 30 and just starting to "get over it."
I was using alcohol as my security blanket, sober six days now.

GO to you guidance counselor or social worker at school. It is mandatory for them to investigate allegations of abuse. They can help you alot.

call 911

Get evidence and TELL SOMEONE. The bruises or such... get a witness... get a friend to videotape it through your window or something... and tell someone!

Go to the police or a teacher with evidence.

Well it would be in ur best interests to tell the therapist. Best for you. Worry about what happens after.

Sweetie - tell your therapist. There are mechanisms in place to protect children. Please take advantage of them - no matter how scary they seem now..they can save your life. Be strong.

Please tell someone! Nobody should ever have to go through abuse, so please tell your therapist .

omg, that's terrible i really dont know what to tell you. You need to tell someone who can help you like your older brothers maybe. You need to tell your theripist a friend family meber not you mom. And talk it out i dont know u but i care okay. so please find some help. if you ever need to talk e-mail me ant antenille90210@yahoo.com or IM me as antenille90210. TAke care. but promise youll do something!

If you don't feel comfortable talking to your therapist about this, I would suggest calling an anonymous child abuse hot line, like 800-4-A-CHILD. The hotlines are staffed by people who are trained in these issues and will probably be able to help, or at least give you good information about things you could or should do.

You need to tell someone, honey. Maybe see a school counselor, or tell a friend. Do you have relatives you could move in with that would treat you right? It'll be all right. You just need to get through the pain. Trust me, my life sounds a LOT like yours.

Tell your therapist. Then take one step at a time. I know you are afraid and don't want to go to foster care but if you take one step at a time you may find that you can handle whatever comes your way. Instead of jumping from A to Z (by that I mean thinking A=tell which jumps right to Z=being taken away), go from A to B (A=tell which leads to B=advice from therapist which leads to C, which leads to D etc etc etc). Don't be afraid. Be proactive in your life.

Well one thing is for sure you need to tell some one. Im 23 yrs old old enough to have grown up a little but young enough to rember beeing 15 in full clarity. When I was in High school I had 2 friends with simmular situations and they ended up comming to live with me and my mom (coolest mom ever!) You should tell your therapist but also tell them that you are affraid of foster care. @ 15 there are allot of time some alternatives to foster care. You are almost old enough to pay your own way one way or another....Chores job @ taco bell if you have good strong relationships with your friends and there parents I would try going to another adult also. Maybe they can find alternative places for you to go other then foster care. Good luck. (((((Hug)))))

you dont need a therapist they can only make it worst. And the best way to quit being hit is clonk her back, she will think twice about doing it again

hi,sorry your going through this,you do not deserve to be treated this way,and most likly its going to continue.if you say something its going to get worse and if you dont say any thing about it shes going to keep doing it,,please reach out to someone,this is abuse.she has no right to hit you.i agree with others,,get pictures,,get proof,,cause its going to be her word agaisnt yours.if you go to counselor they will report it..have a back up plan of where you can go,,i agree to call a hotline and get some advice seems to me your mother need some help asap.she has anger issues.you are a human being you do not have to live like this,,do you have any other family memebers you can go to?please take care of yourself.

Hi darling,
Sounds like you'er going through a very tough time. It must be be terrible when all the abuse are going on. It is not easy to maintain confidence and a strong belief in hope under such environment, you should be very proud of yourself girl! You will grow up to be a fine lady, definitely^^

1) For now, if you ever find yourself reaching the brink of tolerance, please try calling a helpline before attempting anything. Have trust in them. It does not mean you're weak or putting yourself down, just that you're wise enough to know when you should seek help.

2) I can't be sure of what your family had been through; they may be having some troubles or bad memories deep down inside them too. Try tidying up the house, or anything to make your environment more pleasant, they may or may not thanks you for it, but they will definitely appreciate a change for the better.

All the best, Girl!^^

Your mother souonds extremely disturbed. You are a survivor and don't deserve to be abused. First speak to a teacher/counsellor/nurse at school. Please come to www.thenook4pds.com. You will meet adult women who have been in your situation growing up. They can offer you some help and provide a place where you can speak about this in a non-judgemental setting. You have done nothing wrong. It is NOT you. Your mother is the one with the problem.

You don't deserve to be treated like that. These kinds of situations don't get better on their own. You need to tell your therapist or some other trusted adult. Life could be so much better for you if you got out of that situation. Please tell someone! I hope things work out for you!! You're 15 so there are other options than foster care. Just tell your therapist that you're afraid of it and they can work something else out for you.

Call 911, go to your school guidance counselor and tell her the truth about what is going on at home...TELL...TELL.. TELL til someone listens and gets you removed from your home and into safe protective custody!!!!!!!!!

Get out and get away from the situation! You have GOT to tell somebody! Besides the fact that the situation is terrible for you now, when you turn 18 and leave the house, GUESS WHAT SHE'LL BE DOING?! She will STILL try to excersize control over you, doing and say anything and everything to keep you around. Let me guess, she is like Jeckyll and Hyde, presenting the most sweet, unassuming face to the rest of the world but when you come around all hell breaks loose? Stop the cycle, Now! She doesn't want you for anything but to use you. I'm sorry, some people are terribly sick inside, and they wnat to mean well but they just can't. Get away and find yourself, find your life and your happiness, you must do it for yourself and for the people you love.

I think you need to tell your therapist everything about the abuse. Let her help you. She can't do as much if you don't tell her everything. Ask her to get you the right kind of help. Tell her that you don't want to go into foster care. Is there a family member who would take you in and help you? Or any body who can take you in until things get straight? As last results; some foster homes are very nice and are very good to kids. You could at least consider it or maybe go and see a couple that may be possibilities. My uncle and his wife took in a lot of foster children over the years and did a great job with them. There are a lot of good foster homes out there. Only a few that are not. Just think about it.

You are a precious human being.You need to call a child help line or speak to a teacher. Never forget that you are wonderful person who deserves to be loved and treated with respect. Sounds like your mother has lost the plot - she needs talking to from someone in authority. Dont worry things can be sorted and it may not result in you going into care.

Godbless

Star

You need definite help right away....this type of abuse is taken very seriously. You should tell your counselor immediately about this problem. This is definite child abuse and if authority were to find out, your mom could be put in jail. If necassary, call the police and explain to them....My friend was going through the same thing but she told the counselor and the counselor told her if her dad ever hurts her again to run to her nearest friends' house and call the police.

Sounds like my mom sometimes when shes mad ive seen here beat my older sister and me b4 but just because i smart-off or say somethin, im almost 14 now, u should just try to avoid talking to her, dont try to start an argument and just stay in your room most of the time and just atlk to your friends about it and a counselor.