A neighbor has a sweet 6 yr old boy I watch , he says mommy and daddy fight alot, she drinks heavy, and dad?

is depressed alot. Now the little guy asks me why his dad looks at mags and movies of naked ladies ! If I report them I will lose contact with him, and at least he's safe with me.I don't want him in foster care, I have seen too many horror stories to trust that. I did tell the mom about my concern about the porn, she made little of it and I don't want them to fight about it in front of the boy. What can I do?

Yes I am very sure the mother is an alcoholic and proud of it ,it consumes her life . If I push ,she will keep him away'she's already found others to watch him ,who drink also.I'm not perfect,I used to drink also ,just got sick of it .I don't want to take him, just don't see how to reach her without losing him. I love the little guy, he's so cute. But he's glad we don't drink and fight he says. He told me he pours out alcohol at his house.He's just a baby and yet so old already, its so sad, its like I know he doesn't have a chance in this life.

The best piece of advice I could offer is be there or the child. If his parents will not be good role models for him then maybe you can be. Spend time with him. Show him constructive ways to spend time. Set ground rules for your home explaining these are the rules at your house. Give him real answers to his questions. Be careful not to tell him anything that will alienate him from his parents.

All you can do is try to make this world a better place... one person at a time.

Why don't you report them and fight for custody of the child. there has been cases like this where people like you win.

I would say unless you can verify to be factual the mother has a serious drinking issue then it's not of your business. As far as the father looking at porn it's not against the law. It's bad taste for him to let his child see however, I don't think there is anything you can do about that. Be careful with your choice. It may seem your heart is in the right spot but you could be harming the child more by misplacing him in another house. Suggest AA to the mom. Spend time with the child; read to him be a good role model. Good luck with your choice and your concern is truly respectable.

Ok first chances are the child WON'T be removed from the home. Child abuse is not considered child abuse unless the parent is causing physical harm to the child. This means breaking bones or leaving perm. scaring. I know this because I called CPS for myself and siblings a few times. Basicly the only thing you'll be doing is getting this child in a world of hurt and trouble. I don't see the porn the father is watching as such a problem. You have no idea if the child has actually seen the porno movies or if he's just repeating what his parents are fighting about. My concern is mainly with the mother's drinking. You might want to urge them into counciling or rehab or something along those lines. You addressed your concern with the mother about her hsbands porno but said nothing about her drinking. If you're going to say something its best to get it ALL out. Maybe offering a shoulder to cry on or a friendly ear may help a lot. They have enough anger in their house and it doesn't seem to be helping try a new approach. Good Luck and keep looking out for him!!

There must be a Child Protection Agency in your area, contact them, request temporary custody of the child.
Their will be an investigation, the alcohol problem will brought to the fore, and have to be dealt with.
As for the porn, that is a personal issue. My question to you about that is, why you did not share you concern about it with the man? All that would be required from him would be more discreet. The mothers' alcohol problem is a much more serious.
You must bring the authorities into this, if not the situation will become more complicated, and possibly dangerous for both you and the child.

Call your local Child Services Department. Ask if there's a foster parent list you can volunteer for that would allow you to care for the child while they investigate. Even if they don't let you, you owe it to the child to report it.

This situation is none of your business. Are they causing physical harm to the kid? Not by your story. You had no right to tell the mother about the father's pornography. For all you know, they watch it together like my husband and I do. And even if they don't, it's none of your concern.

Keep your nose on your side of the fence and don't make calls that have nothing to do with you.

You're good to be concerned. Child abuse is a huge problem and too many people close their eyes. That said, what you describe does not sound like something that the authorities will act on unless there's physical harm or clear neglect. Shy of that, foster care would likely be worse. The best thing you can do is leave the parents alone and be a role model for the kid.

report her. there both not good parents theres a problem!

I THINK IT WILL BE BEST IF HE IS WITH YOU I MEAN WHAT IF HIS MOTHER AND FATHER HAVE A REALLY BAD FIGHT AND HE IS AROUND AND IS HURT I RECKON IT SAFE TO TAKE HIM AWAY FROM HIS FAMILY IT IS THE BEST THING FOR HIM AND YOU WOULD BE DOING THE RIGHT THING TO TAKE HIM AWAY SO HE IS SAFE
WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE DO THE RIGHT THING FOR THIS LITTLE GUY.