Any one know what to do with a grown child of 34?

My daughter was caught using meth. She and her husband both.
they have taken the kids my grandkids away from them thank god my daughters sister takes care of foster kids in her home and had the kids with her. she seems to think everything is funny about this whole situation.. now she is in jail for driving under suspension.
Now what my question is.. is there anyway i can have her locked up in inhouse treatment program since she is and adult. I want to give her the help that she needs and she won't do it on her own.. everything else to her is everyone elses fault.. I am afraid that she will die if she don't get help. and it is killing the kids that they don't want to see them.. is there some way to force them to get help?
any sugestions from law inforcement or phyciatric help. worried mother. Don't know what i did wrong.

The most important thing here is that the children are safe and in a good environment.

You can have them committed. But, in reality nothing you do will make a difference unless the person you are trying to help wants it. It is totally up to them whether or not in effort you exhaust makes a difference in their life. They have got to want to come clean and change in order for anything done in treatment or out of treatment to make a difference in their life.

You dear do not need to think you did anything wrong. It was their actions that put them in this situation, not yours. You can spend a lifetime instilling good in your child and eventually it is up to them to do right or wrong. Peer pressure follows you throughout your life if you let it.

I wish you luck. Make sure those children get what they need. Teach them early on to be their own person. To be a leader not a follower.

Dear, there is nothing you can do. If a person doesn't want help... sadly there is just nothing you can do to help them. Be as supportive as you can and have as much to do with your grandchildren as possible. I'm sorry. Good luck.

It will take 2 adult family members to have her committed without going to court. You need to find an in house treatment program. Go see them and find out what paperwork has to be signed. I am not sure how it differs from state to state but I know that we had my mother committed, against her will, over twenty years ago. Because she was an adult we could only have her committed for thirty days. Anything longer and she would have to agree to it or we would have had to go to court. Also, we had to lie to her about where we were taking her.

I hope this helps.

You must be going through a terrible pain and no first and foremost YOU"VE DONE NOTHING WRONG!!!!!!!!!! As a matter of fact you are still trying to help your daughter which is right and shows that you love your daughter and want to protect her.

As for the help...in IL there is nothing you can do. My mom is an alocholic who tried to commit suicide. We were going to a concert and she got drunk (not a big surprise) and took a bottle of xanax and an anti diareahal medicine. The ambulance wouldn't take her (she was awake at this time) because my mom refused to go. We asked if there was anyway to make her and they said no if she can make cohereant conversaition we cant force her it'd be kidnapping. I tried to talk to my mom and get her into a rehab (she lost her license, was being evicted, had no job) I told her I couldn't let the kids around her if she was being like this. I wanted to help her. She chose alcohol as a part of life over her grandchildren.

Here's what you can do. Get help. For yourself. You need to talk to a counsler about this an help you get over the greif that is misplaced. You did not do anything wrong.
Get visitiation (if you do not have them) and see those grandkids of yours. I understand they hurt because their parents are like this but they are better off under their aunts care than with their mom right now. I have a friend who got back into meth lost her kids cause her bf started molesting her daughter. Well, she married this guy and they lost the kids. My son and I lost our friends out of this whole mess and it hurts like h*ll. I wish you the best of luck and pray for your daughter to see the way and get off those horrible drugs. I wish there was a better way. I know of none. but please get help and I will be checking back to this question to see if there is a new law I haven't heard of.

** My mom had been in AA twice due to DUI. She'd do enuf to get out and then go right back to the drinking>

We've all heard the saying "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." You daughter has to want to get better for any treatment will be effective. I know you really feel so helpless when you grown child lives such a distructive life and you can't do or say anything to make them see the light.

I will suggest you try finding an Al-Anon Program for you in your area. It's for people who love and care alcoholics and drug addicts. It's great for coping with how you feel about the situation and you can talk to other people going through the same thing.

I go because my husbands an alcoholic and I was always trying to fix him or punish him for what he does.

Oh dear my heart goes out to you,I'm in the UK so i don't whether what can happen here applies to very where,but you can get Dr's to have them certified in to a mental hospital,but have no idea how to go about it,or if your daughter falls in to this category,but she is in need of help asap, could your own Dr advise you on this? and please don't blame yourself for this,it is NOT your fault,I'm really feeling for you here,how awful it must be for you,i would go to your Dr and see if he/she can offer any help,plus all this can't be doing you any good at all,i wish you well,and good luck

Yes, have her admitted to a psychiatric ward by a coroner. Tell him she is a threat to herself. Tell her you will NOT let her come home. She will either get help then, or go to a half-way house for other addicts. Be tough - tough love- or you will kill her. PS If she dies from overdosing away from your home, then you didn't kill her. By giving her room and board and maybe money, you will be killing her. Good luck!

it is highly doubtful you can get her committed without her consent.she has to want to quit.without her wanting to quit it would be a waste of time and money to get treatment.try intervention.com.