Is there a disorder for children who enjoy pain?

My daughter is four years old and seems to enjoy pain. She is forever hurting the children at school and feels no remorse. She constantly comes to me and tries to "hurt" me and asks me if that hurts. When I say no she tries harder. On occasions, she'll walk with her toes in where she walks with her toes under her feet. This seemed very abnormal to me. She was recently diagnosed with ADHD and has a lot of trouble focusing. Is there any such disorder out there that has to do with this that she might have?

Is there a chance that this is a way to get attention? If a child craves attention they don't always differentiate between positive and negative attention.

I am not suggesting that she does not get enough attention, only that she might need or crave more for some reason. I don't believe that she is into pain as most of the pain she inflicts she is not feeling.

Especially if she has been diagnosed with (and possibly medicated for) ADHD get her assessed by a well-recommended child psychiatrist and get on the path to a positive situation for her.

She is so lucky to have a parent so willing to help her. Parenting is so difficult at times and I wish you and your daughter the best.

I don't know man. All I can do is pray for her.

I was about to say masochism, but not in a toddler! Kids don't develop empathy until they are about 8 years old, so she may not realize fully that it hurts you.
If it continues passed 8 years old they may test her for personality disorders. There are some possibilities.

I am not sure.

seems a bit early for her to be a masochist, you should probably ask a doctor.

There has to more to it than that.
No sure ...
There is one, where they feel no pain.
But, that is not this case.

Sadism.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadistic_pe...

demon child j/k

she probably want your attention give her love make sure she knows who's boss though discipline her too not all children are the same so pray Buddie pray.

take her to a therapist. they can figure out if this is a disorder, or some weird 'children thing'.

l can`t be to positive on that one.. try taking your daughter to a doctor to see what kind of help you can give her. talk with your doctor cause there may be treatment for her that only your doctor would know of.

The term we use for adults is sadism. But I would not put a label such as this to a young child. She seems to have some emotional issues right now and maybe goes through changes in her life (very emotionally painful changes). Anything different in her life lately?
Is she angry at you? She is under a lot of pain, emotional pain that is.
Please seek the help of a specialized child psychologist, one who will not rush to put a label on your child and pop some pills on her in order to fix it.
The best remedy of course is a loving and patient parent with secure limits and a big chest for your daughter to rest on.
Good luck

Honestly, that doesnt sound very strange. Children want to know what the limit is involving pain. SHe is just experimenting to see how she is affecting you. Kids hurt each other all the time- it is part of the emotional growing up- she hasnt developed empathy.

IT is a neat experience to walk differently, and she is just experimenting.

If she begins to activly hurt herself (scratching, cutting, banging her head hard-not just cause the wall makes a funny noise) then bring her to the pediatrician.

Most children who inflict pain on the same adults who correct them for hurting others, are doing it solely for attention. They want to be the focus of your life, and if they feel you are distracted, or distant at all, this is a typical method of getting focused attention.

To combat this, you need to give her persoanl attention when she's being good, (ie- nice dress, honey, I like that one on you... you make it look pretty, etc) and then punish her when she's bad, by putting her in timeout and essentially ignoring her while she's timed-out.
If she wont stand still in timeout, have her do it in the next room by herself. she needs to equate negative attention with NO attention at all.

Also, I know it's hard (I have a son I went through this with) you need to correct her when she tries to hurt you. "It's bad to want to hurt people." It's sometimes a game that they learn, and ANY game they play with you, will be repeated onto her playmates (schoolmates) as best she can.

If you play even a LITTLE bit rough with her, she'll scale it up and do it to her friends..

I used to play wrestle with my son, and had too stop because of his daycare behavior. Then I discovered that the daycare staff would also play wrestle with him, and I had to talk to them about it. It was upsetting because he shrieks with laughter when you do that, and for awhile he used to try and get me going again, but I couldn't do it. He eventually settled down.

Another thing that helped my son, in terms of getting him to stop playing rough, was to personalize what he'd done.

"Do YOU like it when someone grabs you and hurts you? does it make you smile? what does it make you do? Is that a good thing? Does it make you afraid of that person? DO you want people to be afraid of you?"

Obviously kids will be kids, and if she's mad enough, she'll be sure to say that everyone in the world hates her, and that she doesn't care.. but next time she's on the receiving end of something like that, you need to say, "honey, I'm sorry that happened.. this is why we keep telling you not to do this to others.. it hurt you, and it made you angry. Dont ever forget how bad this feels, because remember last week? you did this SAME thing to someone else. It's a bad choice to make, and you want to make GOOD choices, because it means you'll have a happier day, right?"

I don't know.. that's the kinda' stuff I did, and it seems to have had an effect on my son.. he seems very empathetic now, which is good because he's a big strong kid and can certainly hurt someone without even meaning to..

she is a bully. you need to discipline her because she should not put her hands on anybody.

narcissism