I think I hate my 1 year old daughter?

She is 15 mths old
I rarely have tender feelings for her
I always shout at her, hit her, easily get mad at her for the silliest reasons, i treat her as if she is a grown up, not a baby.
My bad feelings started since i was pregnant on my second month, the morning sickness- which lasted 9 months -made me hate her and wish her to die many times, and lots lots of things made me hate her more and more, her birthgiving complications, the caesarian I had, how her father loves and spoils her, her bad mood since she alway cries and wants me or her papa to play with her!! she is so spoiled! she changed my quiet life and sent me to hell, i worry about her safety and food and all i get is noise & crying. I HATE MY LIFE & I HATE MY DAUGHTER i feel so miserable that i started to hate babies in general altough i adored them so much before i get pregnant.
plz do say this is not 'hate' and it will change over time.do you 'mothers' have the same feelings i have? & when it changes to the positive

Please, for your sake, and for your daughter's sake, seek help professionally. Tell your husband to help you get help, if you think he will. If not, seek it on your own. You must get to a dr. ASAP. I will be praying for you. Do it today!

u need to pray and stop being so selfish

If you are really true about your feelings and are concerned about them... you need to get some help.... otherwise we'll probably be hearing about you on the news some evening.

Don't do that....

wow you need some serious help

You need some serious counseling!! Please go before you do something you'll really regret!!

You made your bed now lay in it. Before you kill the poor kid, give her to someone who'll love & cherish her.

It sounds like you have the post partum depression and should see a therapist for some therapy and drugs for it.

Oh wow. What a sad thing to even begin to type out.

I think you really need to get help. For anger management and maybe depression? It sounds as if you have a dose of Post-Partum depression. Along with being a mother comes the stress, the long sleepless nights, sticky handprints all over everything, crying, tantrums and everything else included. I could not imagine hating such a young, beautiful, INNOCENT soul that doesn't deserve an ounce of the way that you feel.

To answer your question: NO, I do not have the same feelings that you have. From the moment my little man was born, I've never loved such a little person more!

U shud immediate seek for therapy. This is utterly abnormal.

I think your problem is more that you sound like you might not like yourself that much, when that's the case everyone else is a nusiance and a burden. What are you doing in spite of your bests intereests? Do you think about the past or the future all the time? Live in the moment more...forgive yourself, your husband your child and try and just soak up what a miracle it is that any of this exists...I'd also suggest contacting a family therapist asap no matter what the expense. I hear a scared mother and a call for help...heed it please.

# 1 praying won't help. you need to get inside your head. know that what you are doing is NOT okay and Understand what is making you do it.

#2 You say you hate your life. Could you be taking this out on your daughter because you think that she made you hate your life?

#3 A disconect between the mother and child does happen sometimes. Change can happen. You just have to be willing to make it.

#4 Go to a therapist. Talk about your feelings. Don't hold it in. That make sit hurt more.

You need to see your doctor as soon as you possibly can and tell him/her how you are feeling and for long you've been feeling this way! If you think you are going to hurt your baby, please call child protective services, or the police and tell them of your intentions. They can get you the help you need, but you have to want their help first. Please don't hurt your poor innocent little baby. She has done nothing wrong...she did not ask to be born..I think you need to remind yourself of these things. PLEASE SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY!!

wow, u need HELP ASAP!!!!!!!! i love my 2 kids with everything i am!!!!! they come FIRST!!!!!!!!! children and babies are blessings and its amazing how they can grow in side your belly. Please give the baby to your hubby and get in the hospital before you kill her... I'm praying for the little girl,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Wow Im nna try to be really nice here...Well first off you knew that the resposiblity to care for a baby was big...and shes not spolied your a tad bit selfish all babies need this care if you dont give it to her in the future she'll hate your guts.Ummsz....all pregnant women go threw sickness and you gave this child to earth and say my mom went threw this when I was a baby every one does,hey are just babies plz...and im kinda sorry but thats hate alright god sees every thing you do and he will punish you for not loving what you gave to the world....I really hope you take the time to think of your daughter when shes older like 9 she will be growing up and trust me you will want her back...i hope my answer really helps you.I hope i make you rethink.

Well,despite you not wanting to hear it.It will change over time,but you have to change it and you can change it.I think that you should get psychological help.I mean,they can help you realise if it is really her that you "hate" or if it is even her that you "hate".My opinion is that you hate how your life has turned out,not particularly because of her,but because of your own personal reasons.Alot of the time babys cry,and when they cry it is important that as the mother you stay calm.They can feel when you tense up,or have other feelings besides comfort for them.As i was reading i also noticed that you said one of the reasons that you "hate" her was because of "how her father loves and spoils her".That to me sounds like you feel as if he is neglecting you and giving her all his time.A new baby is hard on the both of you and he is pulling his weight through this.Yes,she is still a new baby even if she is 15 months old.It takes quite a while to adjust.I think that you and her father should spend some time together.You should relax take a breather and go to dinner one night a week or twice a month what ever works for yours and his schedules.You asked when it changes also at the end of your details.It doesnt change unless you change it.If you do not change it she will dislike you even more when she gets older and is able to realise the bad feelings you have for her.I urge you to honestly get help before you end up doing something you are going to regret and going to prison.This is an issue,that actually has nothing to do with your baby.It has to do with you and your emotions,and mental state.They can help you turn your negative feelings into something positive and how to deal with them in a more positive and more realistic way.You really need to go get help now.See a therapist and speak your feelings there but please dont take it out on that innocent child.Good luck,and May God Bless You.

You need to get help! As young as your daughter is she perceives your animosity and dislike of her. I work with teenagers who have behavioral and emotional disorders. Many of these kids are emotionally damaged because they grew up in a home where they were hated, unloved and unwanted. The emotional trauma is acted out in various forms of behavioral problems (drug/alcohol abuse, sexual promiscuity, running away, cutting, suicide, poor school performance ect) do yourself and your daughter a favor, GET HELP!

With help you may soon come to love your daughter. I applaud you for recognizing that your behavior is wrong.

I am sorry for the way you feel.
You need to call a professional to help you sort out and work through your feeling toward your daughter. Your daughter is only one years old yet you are expecting too much from her.
If you are shouting and hitting her you have lost control over a situation that I am sure seems horrible to you. Your husband if you discuss this with him would probably not understand how you are feeling.HOWEVER the first concern is for the safety and emotional well being of your daughter. You must for your sake as well as hers seek immediate intervention. You are in a crisis at the present. I nor anyone else can help you with words on this forum HOEVER Please heed my advise to call someone ASAP so that you can get some help with your feelings, so that you can work thru and come to some resolution with them.

I wish you all the best in this difficult time and hope that you are able to seek the help that you need for your own emotional health and the safety of your child.

i agree with sandyg go see the doctor

You are really suffering mentally now...you need to get into a doctor..and the first step was to cry for help here....before you start abusing her terribly, and then it will be too late...you are a child abuser and it is all you can do to keep from doing something really horrible to her....I don't think that you really hate her,...i think you resent her and you're taking out all of your anger about the whole thing on that innocent child...I would like to know if the father knows that you feel this way? You would be far better a person to get a divorce, and give him custody before you ruin his life, the babie's life, and your life..or get into some intense counciling..and start praying..you sound so selfish, I can't believe it....everything is about you...how she has come into your life and how YOU have to cater to her little needs. Please, you need to get some help quick,..or give her to the father and move on with your selfcentered life.. Please pray on this..and get moving fast before you kill her.

i dont think you hate her,you say you worry about her safty and food,would a mother who trully hatted her daughter be worried??i think you may have a case of postnatel depression ,you maynot realise it like most mothers with it dont no they have it untill they feel signs of resentment for there child.the mother,like you suffered disstress wich you feel was caused by your daughter during your pregnancy and through labour.the only was you can get through this would be by seeing a doctor and explain your feelings you will be shocked how much it helps.deep down you love your daughter very much you just need to bring it to the serface,take a moment each day to watch her play,suck her thumb(if she does)or watch her sleep,remind yourself this little girl depends on you,im sure she is very beautiful ,the little girl that you maDE,FEEL PROUD,maybe you need some more bonding time with her,spend some one on one time with her,make her laugh.it will help you both alot.you say she cies alot,this will be due to the fact she feels the upset as she can feel your vibes of uneasyness with her.i wish you all the best.if you wanna chat feel free to email me at sammydeea@hotmail.co.uk ,view my website were i explain a little about myself freewebs.com/sammydeea.i hope all goes well for you.this feeling wont last forever.all the best

Give me ur child because you dont deserve her at all u waste of life

You should get counseling and/or put her up for adoption before you do something you'll regret. You could lose custody and face jail time.

it sounds like u have postnatal depression u need to get help
how didnt ur hubby noties u are not well

I THINK YOU NEED TO SEE A DOCTOR AND CONSIDER ADOPTION BEFORE YOU SERIOUSLY HURT YOUR BABY PHYSCO

Sounds like post pardum depression and can become as serious as any illness..Its nothing to be scared to talk about. In the morning you should call your ob or regular doctor and work out a course of treatment best for you.

I was raised in an abusive household. My mother tortured me and I've been dealing with healing from that for 43 years. DO THIS: STOP READING ALL THESE ANSWERS, PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL A HOTLINE, OR THE POLICE OR YOUR DOCTOR OR YOUR CHILDS PEDIATRICIAN AND TELL THEM THAT YOU ARE UNWELL AND THAT YOUR DAUGHTER IS IN DANGER OF BEING HURT BY YOU. DO IT NOW!!!!! DON"T WAIT ANOTHER MINUTE OR DAY OR HOUR.......IT MAY BE TOO LATE BY THEN!!! PICK UP THE PHONE NOW AND GET SOMEBODY TO HELP YOU!!!!! DO IT NOW BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING YOU WILL REGRET FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WHICH MAY END UP BEING SPENT IN PRISON!!!! STOP READING THESE ANSWERS AND PICK UP THE PHONE NOW!!!!!PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE!!!!!

You are not abnormal. You may be suffering from depression that is making you feel this way. Surely you are saying all this but deep down you do not hate your child. If you think your child were to die and not be in your life again that you would be happy, wrong, you would be as miserable as you feel now. Life is too short in this world. Cherish everything you have. Some people can not even have babies, you should appreciate the smaller things in life. Dont be a depressed heap, do more things with your child. Also talk to your partner about it. You may be feeling like this because you are not getting enough attention from him or he is not treating you well. You have to thing about all these things but first and foremost show your child love, kiss and cuddle and play with her and you will realise what you have is a diamond. It seems you are suffereing in your relationship aswell-try to seek counselling. I am saying all this from experience because my mother went through the same ordeal with my younger brother. Stay strong and do things with your child but also make time for yourself and friends. I know its hard but that is life. You cannot think negative all the time because you will never succeed. Hope all the best for you.

You're repulsive, revolting, despicable, immature and should have your daughter removed from you immediately and be permantely sterilized!

you are one of those people that should not be allowed around kids let alone be allowed to have them , you honestly should , for your daughters sake, just leave now ..get out of her life and never look back ..you are selfish and arrogant and a straight idiot
that baby doesn't know what she is doing what she wants or why she is crying all she knows is that her whole life so far when she cries she gets a response and that is all she is looking for .... get out of her life as soon as possible

WOW!!!!! Speaking as a mother I really don't understand how you can say or feel those things that you described! I guess some people are not cut out to be parents, but if that was the case why did you have her? What you fail to realize is she is a gift from GOD, and so many people out there want what you have!!!! You really need to get help ASAP!

Sounds like you are jealous of her attention and you are spoiled. She is just 15 months old. What has she done to make it that bad? She is a BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You need to wake up **********. There are people out there that would kill to have what you have! You better thank your lucky stars I don't know you.