My dad and cancer aren't supposed to be together in the same sentence.?

MY FAM AND I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY DAD HAS CANCER. HE HAS COLON CANCER AND ANOTHER TUMOR IN HIS EYE. IT'S JUST BEEN SO HARD 4 ME. I GO 2 HIS HOUSE ALMOST EVERYDAY & ACT LIKE AM DOIN' FINE. INSIDE AM JUST DIEING. I WANT 2 JUST HUG HIM & CRY. I HAVEN'T CRIED INFORNT OF HIM CUZ I WANT 2 B STRONG 4 HIM. AS SOON AS I GET HOME I START 2 CRY OR FEEL SO DEPRESSED. I REALLY HAVEN'T TOLD MY FRIENDS OR SPOKEN 2 MY FAM CUZ I JUST DON'T WANT 2 FEEL LIKE A CHARITY CASE. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT 2 DO. I FEEL SO ALONE. I HAVE 3 OF MY FRIENDS THAT KNOW. I JUST DON'T WANT 2 BOTHER EVERY1 ELSE. BUT HOW DO I DEAL W/ THIS. I HAVEN'T HAD A FAMILY MEMBER HAVE CANCER SINCE I WAS 5YRS. OLD. I WAS 2 YOUNG 2 REMEMBER. I NEED SOME1 2 TELL ME HOW I DEAL W/ THIS? WHAT R THE RULES U FOLLOW 4 SOMETHING LIKE THIS? I'M A TALKACTIVE PERSON & WAS HAVE WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT 4 OTHERS. BUT IN MY CASE AM SPEECHLESS. I DON'T KNOW WHAT 2 SAY OR DO. PLEASE HELP CUZ I FEEL LIKE AM GONNA LOSE IT!

i understand and im not going to repeat what others say because i think they gave you really good answers but i will add this....no one wants cancer no one pictures themselves getting cancer but as humans we do and we need to except it , fight , love, live because you never know what is going to happen tomorrow.

u need to be honest with him- ure being fake and he prob can tell or knows it-
be honest- it will help both of u---

my god im so sorry to hear that. But your doing a good thing for him by acting strong. He'll need that. I cant give you many words of wisdom, as I am only 20 years old....im not very wise. I cant believe how unbearably upset you must be right now, but all i can say is, hang in there, be strong, and just take this time and enjoy the time you have with him. I hope that didnt sound rude, i understand you need time to take this all in, but at the same time, cherish each moment because life is but only a speck in this universe.

Perhaps even sit with him, and just spill everything out and tell him how you feel, and just flat out tell him, well, your scared.

You are definatly in my thoughts....i wish you and your family all the best...

It's a hard thing to deal with, i know just what your going thru.

In 2003, they found cancer in my dads lung.

I just wanted everything to just go away.

But there is hope !!!!

My dad had part of a lung removed, under went cemo and radiation.

Then had to under go cemo again, after they found another small growth.

Then he was declared cancer free.

But just two months ago, a PET scan revealed another growth.

Luckly, after further testing and scarying us half to death, it turned out, to be nothing.

You need to call the hospital your dad is going to and find out if they have a cancer family support group you can join.

There you can talk to other family members of cancer patients.

There is nothing you can do, beside being supportive.

I now spend more time at home, often spending the night on weekends.

It's almost like your going to have to be the parent now.

I don't know what to tell you, i never found the answers myself.

You just have to do, the best you can do.

And make sure to offer encourgagement when things get rough.

If your dad is like my dad, he will come to a point where he says, enough is enough, you need to be there to push him thru that and continue.

Given love, faith and good medicial care, hopefully your dad will be a surviver.

I am very sorry to hear about this. Show your dad love, and yes give him hugs, he won't mind. my dad is in a phsiciatric ward with a nervous breakdown. I am facing the possiblity of haveing ovarina cancer. He was an obusive dad when I was growing up, and my sister said to me the other dad that if I die before dad gets out, he will break becasue he dod not get a chance to say sory to me. I have forgiven him. So while you have your dad here with you, show him appreciation, love offer him comfort, and lots of support. You need people to be supporting you too. Have you given your heart to Jesus? Because he knows what you are going though. Is your dad a chrisitain, because if he is do not worry becasue you know he will be in Heaven. If you need someon to talk to you can e-mail me anytime jesusisahoney@yahoo.com.au. May God bless you for being concered and may his face shine upon you. Leanne

You can IM or email me at kute_gurl51@hotmail.com (msn?)me if you need to talk, because you are not a charity case. I know what it feels like in this situation and you need someone to talk to, dont feel bad for doing so.
Firstly, good for you for being strong for him, he needs that at a time like this. The last thing he wants to feel is like he is going to die.

I've been on both receiving ends of this. I put all my frustration in words I wrote poems and stories from my feels. I felt like I had let out something that was suffocating me. I have a friend who was two when he was diagnosed with cancer in his eyes. He's blind but he's the most positive person I know. So if you can't talk to anyone about what your going through at least write down what you're feeling. It doesn't matter how long it takes. Sometimes I spend hours just writing it helps realize my feeling and my tears. Even though its hard to me realize that all this is making you a better person. You're dealing with something that is giving you a understanding that most people will never have.Also realize you are not alone. There are many intranet groups you can join to help you express exactly what you're feeling

Contact the American Cancer Society (ACS.org) and find a support group locally; that is a huge help. No one is supposed to get cnacer, nor does anyone expect to get it, and yet it happens every day. I never dreamed I would get it so I was shocked when I was diagnosed with Stage III uterine cancer in 1998. It was much harder on my Mom; I was focused on the disease so I was busy; she had to think about me dying.
First know that cancer is never a death sentence; look at Lance Armstrong! Also I knew about a man (when I was entering patient info on Medicare charts) who had four types of very aggressive cancer and he survived all of them, incl colon cancer.
You need to be strong for your dad so I suggest calling the ACS right away and joining a support group. I wish I had done that for my Mom!

I know what you are going through my sister had cancer when i was about 10. Try to keep it together around him because he is having an even worse time than you because he is scared but when you aren't around him cry, cry, cry and talk to your friends because it helps. You aren't being a bother you need some help they will understand. I hope this helps and i hope your dad will be okay. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!