Are you adding more pressure by coming on to your partner who has erectile dysfunction?

If you suspect your partner has erectile dysfunction because of very infrequent sex and have found erectile dysfunction "herbal" remedies around the house, what is the right way to deal with it? I haven't talked about it with him because I don't want to cause any weird feelings. I have not come on to him or initiated sex because if he can't perform, then it will make him feel even worse. So I've backed off completely because I'm trying to be considerate and not put pressure on him. But at the same time, I wonder if that's the right thing to do? Am I going to make him feel like I don't want him by not initiating sex? I really want to approach this the right way and I don't know what to do :( I need a guy's opinion here. Sex seems like it always has to be "planned". So I feel like if I just initiate sex out of the blue and he's not "prepared" then he may not be able to do it and I will be the cause of him feeling like he's letting me down. I don't want that.

I would fix the underlying problem and let nature take it's course. Typically the reason for this problem is bad fat digestion and clogged organs of the digestive system and also blood sugar issues affecting the endocrine system.

When the body is under stress, the last thing it thinks about is sex. Sugar, white flour, hydrogenated oils all contribute to the body's inability to produce sex hormones. These hormones are produced in the liver and are steroid hormones. If the person is on a LOW FAT, High carb diet, no red meat, it's no wonder he has this issue.

The liver needs good fats to produce sex & thyroid hormones and if he is under stress (including nutritional stress from high carbs), his adrenal glands are going to do a "pregnenalone steal" that will use up the pregnenalone to produce cortisol rather than sex hormones.

Get all VEGETABLE OILS out of his diet, except for Olive oil and eliminate ALL hydrogenated oils. Get rid of ALL TOFU! Tofu was developed to greatly reduce the libido in monks. It works. Get rid of ALL soy products, except fermented soy like that found in miso and soy sauce.

Buy the book, "Nourishing Traditions" and read it. Get him on a good diet and you will see a huge difference. After you read it, tell him about the book and encourage him to read it. He will start understanding what his problem is without you ever having to say a word about it to him.

good luck

I am not a guy but have went through this with husband. You are doing the right thing according to him. He says small moves can let him know without pressuring him but only you can know what moves are small with your man. Let him be the 1st to mention that something could be wrong. He says by not pressuring him you aren't letting him feel like he's letting you down. Good luck.