I'm looking for information on treating domestic violence?

do u know of any websites where it tells you the steps you need to take the start over coming your domestic violence. my fiance went through counseling but is now starting to show the signs that he's slipping back. is there like a AA for domestic violence. can i get him help for free or cheap over the net or should he reapply back into anger management. just wondering. thanks for your help.

ps. he was phycicly abusive with his ex. he has never done anything to me but has started saying that he know's im just going to leave him, says that i'm having an affair, always wants to know where i am, does not want me going anywhere without him ect. he's not violent toward me at all. i brought all of these things up to him last night and he just got very quite and asked if he was really that bad. now this morning he just did'nt say much and said we'll talk about it when he gets home from work.
he is open to counseling becuz he know's if he does not i will leave him. he has very low self

esteem. he's always afraid that i am going to leave him.

Make sure he gets professional help. Reading material, although helpful to you, will not help him. I've had to deal with more than my share of abusive guys. I'm a firm believer that although the intention to change may be there, and I'm sure he's a great guy right now, I'm sorry to say, people don't change. At the first sign of controlling behaviour, or abuse of any kind (emotional or physical) get out right away.
I know you care about him and don't want to abandon him when he needs you; but the sooner you cut it off, the easier it will be on both of you.
The longer you drag it out, the guiltier you will feel, and the more danger you will be in.
Please be careful, and put your own well-being first.
Good Luck.

as much as you love this guy, its important that you get him back into counselling. he must have some anger management issues even though he hasn't been abusive to you yet there is always the possibility that he could hes already on a downward course be cause of the accusations of you being unfaithful if he allows these thoughts to grow in his mind its a possibility that he may become abusive towards you i am not condemning the guy i am worried that with his trail of thought of you being unfaithful could just just erupt in his mind and he may hurt you for his on benefit and yours get him help.. he needs a professional person not books or things he has to reason out on his own its easier to speak to a third party and use them as a sounding board

Hi it doe's sound like your husband doe's want to change and I am glad to hear that he has not hurt you. I have found one site online that says that victims of violence are not the only ones that need help so do the perprators. Before I looked up these sites for you I would not have agreed and said to you to get out of this relationship no one can change but after reading through this I have changed my opinion. I hope your husband finds this usefull and well done to him for wanting to get better and agreeing to counselling. He has recognised he has a problem so taken the hardest and first step. I will give you the web address and hopefully there is something on there that can help both you and your husband it tells you all about whats available for your husband but please make sure you get help to if you need it.

www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/domestic_v...

once you type this in go to the link that says help for perpetrators.

let me know if this isnt any use and I will see what else I can find for you xxx

He has low self esteem and it seems to come from how he was treated as a child and he may be fearful because his mother was not always there for him
I know you care for him and if you want to stay with him remind him frequently you love him.