Is she lying or is this really possible?

Bipolar ex gf and I broke up she gave me most of my stuff but not all of it, i tried emailing her several times to get the rest of my stuff and she never responds I went over there last week and she told me she will call the cops if i knocked on the door so I just left, She then sends me an email saying "I hope I never hear from you again I have filed for a restraining order you cannot come within 100 feet of me , call me or email me, you cannot call or email any of my friends or family either if you do you will be arrested." I have never heard of such a restraining order and I think she might be BSing so because my girlfriend and I break up Im no longer allowed to talk to her brothers who i was pretty close with? does this sound like bs or could she really of swung such a deal. I live in california and I looked up my name on occourts.org and there was nothing against me. Wouldnt she have to show some sort of domestic violence or something wtf Is she bsing me ? How do i get my things?

she could've filed for one but you haven't been served yet. and because when it's originally filed, it's a temporary one, it won't be in the public files.

when you file a RO against someone, you are given a court date. you have to have it served and provide a proof of service before or at the court hearing.

a process server (or someone not involved) has 3 attempts to serve it directly to you. if after the 3rd try and they cannot contact/serve you, they can sub-serve you (leave it with a family member or work or whoever answers the door).

they have to have this proof of service in order to make the actual RO go through. if they do not provide this (or show up to the hearing) the court will throw it out.

IF she does file this and you are served, MAKE SURE you file an answer AND a RO against her. if you do not have one against her, she can torment you all she wants and you can't do anything about it.

btw, looking at this later...she said that you cannot contact her friends or family with her RO. that isn't true. you can in fact contact her friends and family as she would only be the protected person. sounds to me like she's drama and trying to ruffle your feathers. however, if she did get the RO and you do get served, see what i said above.

and unless your things are extremely sentimental or expensive and you cannot live without them, forget it. it's a controlling mind game she's playing. if it's something you must have, you can request to have an officer escort you to the house you get your stuff.

You would be given a document by the courts...she is lying.

well im not a expert but she is playing mind games with you and bipolar is very treatable well good luck and if her brothers and u are close then continue to speak to them when she is not around

It sounds like she is trying real hard to keep you away without going to court. Sue her in small claims court, if the total dollar amount you are missing is $5000.00 or less

um....she needs like court papers and the court would tell u if u were restrained---shes lying but then again bipolars are very hard 2 understand

Go to the police and ask them.

if she had a restraining order I don't think she's allowed to email you either...

I believe you have to be notified of any action against you. That said, she's sounds pretty serious about making your life miserable if you get anywhere near her...

If you can live without the rest of your stuff, do so. But if you can't, you may want to try to contact one of her family members that you aren't in conflict with and ask them if they would be able to retrieve your things or assist you in getting them back. It could be as simple as having one of them vouch for you to the police that you actually are an ex boyfriend that is just trying to get his stuff back, and the the police can accompany you...

Good luck.

Go to your local cop shop and tell them you want your things and you need an officer to accompany you to her apartment.
This not only protects you, but calls her bluff about the restraining order which I am sure is false since you have not been served paperwork. Good luck and don't date psychos!

If she had a restraining order against you, you would know it. Restraining orders have to be served to the person they are against. Call the cops and ask them to escort you to get your stuff or take her to court. If it's little stuff forget about it and move on.

Why do you keep asking the same questions?