My husband wants a divorce?

I went through a depression period and now I am better. He said that a falsly advertised myself before we got married as being a strong person. He wants a divorce because he said that i was too emotionally dependent on him. Has anyone had a similiar experience and if so what happended?

Unless you had different vows, but I believe there is a part in there that says, "For Better, For Worse, In Sickness and in Health". If anything, he is the one that advertised falsely. All real men would have stuck through it in your time of need and continue to support you in your remission stages. Sounds like he has other issues and he is looking for any excuse to end it with you, and he is looking for a reason to blame it on you, just so he can feel better. Or, he is looking for a reason to pin it on you so he doesn't have to pay child support or alimony to you for something he is doing that he knows if he gets caught, he will be hung out to dry.

My wife was depressed around 92 - 93 (can't blame her, she was married to an out of work alcoholic) and she ended up seeing a pyschologist for about a year. Then I started to go with her and it helped as a starting point for recovery. While it was a small drain emotionaly, I would have never left her at the time.

Whoa! He sounds rather manipulative and unsupportive, to say the least! Let him go. YOU don't need HIM!

Fortunately, I have not had this experience. But honestly it sounds like your husband needs to go. Part of marriage or any relationship is being able to lean on each other. Sounds like he cant be bothered. Do yourself a favor and let him go....there's someone more worthy of your love out there.

Let him go! Take me!!! tfw

Chasing another human being is futile. Find things that make you happy and go do them.

Truth be told-if the word can actually be said without remorse then yes-divorce is the only option.

Sorry you had to go through that and all, but he has to realize that even strong people have periods in their life when they are vulnerable. I consider myself a very strong person, but there was a time when I was weak and i needed someone to lean on, fortunately my husband was there for me. You are a strong person and I think that if he can't handle it anymore then you're better off without him. he's supposed to love you for who you are, help you when you need help, be there for you no matter what. If it leads to divorce, then be the strong person you are and go out with your head held high, and when it's over, he'll realize what he lost. You can do better and you deserve better.

get rid of him he sounds like a horrible person to be married to

imagine what he'll be like in a few years time

it sounds to me like he wants an excuse out. maybe he's met someone else or something. i dont know im speculating but its a bit dodgy

What a pig! Let him go on his self-serving course! Anyway, HE is supposed to be the strong one, not you! If he is that insecure, what kind of support could he possibly lend you anyway?

I am sorry for you that you are going through this. I am sure it is very painful for you.

I am gathering that you have not been married to this man for very long. And perhaps you did not have a long enough engagement prior to the wedding, in which the two of you could have gotten to know each other better. The "for better or worse" part of the wedding vows you both took.

I feel like there is much more going on here in your relationship with him. I feel when you love someone, you are willing to work out the problems, as long as both people are willing to try and change.

I am curious as to what triggered your period of depression. Sometimes it can be caused by a chemical imbalance, meaning that you could experience an episode again. This can also be due to heredity.
Or something in your life upset you enough to bring you down for that period of time, and it was a one time cycle of depression. And that is very normal. We all have bad days.

You need to get to the heart of the matter in the sense of what is really going on in your husbands' mind. It sounds like he may have a fear of taking care of you, should you become ill. You both made a committment to each other, and you need to know now whether this man is in it for the "long haul". He could also find himself one day with a physical or emotional problem, and I am convinced you would stand by his side.

If you are both willing, I would suggest to see a marriage counselor who can work with the real issues inside both of you. Perhaps if you battle bouts of depression, you can also see a counselor privately.
Should he ask for a divorce, it could trigger another episode of depression for you, and it would be good for you to have established a support system.

My story that may help you: I was very depressed off and on for a long time. At that time I was also in a very unstable relationship with a man who had a drug addiction that I later discovered. I was so in love with him, and I hoped each day for almost 12 years that he would change. As his habit got worse, so did my depresssion. I felt trapped.
Finally, now, I have moved on, but it has been a very painful emotional struggle for me. I first had to begin by loving and respecting myself enough to be convinced that I deserved better. And then things changed for me and continue to in a more positive direction. I am still alone, but I have accepted it until at which point I feel ready to trust again.

Think about yourself first. If you have children, you must consider what is best for them as well. It is so important to be mentally healthy, and happy, even if it means being alone for awile.

Please take good care of yourself. You'll be okay. Take care.