I have a husband who I found out was cheating on me with a 15 yr old girl, and he wants a divorce what do I do

He wrote me an e-mail telling me, that he was with her and I told him to choose, and he wrote me an e-mail back saying he wanted a divorce, but I really don't care, but the 15 yr. old girl was my next door neighbor and my husband is 21. Should I tell the judge about it? Should I take her to court too? We also have a baby on the way and he is in the Military and cut all my benefits off, especially my enlotment. What exactly should I do?

The age of consent where I live is 17 yrs old.

i am very sorry you have to go through this, it must be very hard, especially with a baby on the way. unfortunately, this happens sometimes, my brothers wife went through this (except his girlfriend was his age ) the best advice i can give you, is to get rid of the cheating pervert (you don't need someone like that in your life, he's just going to do it again) i would tell the judge, he would have to know about a child molester (hey, she's only 15) this is serious, try to get her parents involved, and send this guy to jail!
as far as benefits, you could go to the state and ask for help if you qualify, try to get your parents to help you, you are going to need as much support as you could possibly get right now.
good luck to you and god bless

The age of consent varies from state to state, so 15 might be old enough in your state. If not, your husband is breaking the law!!! Tell the police!

You should divorce his a**. And you should find out the age of consent in your state and have that guy arrested. He threw away your marriage to sleep with a child. In court...make sure you get yours.

Call the police on him and smack her around a little.

Because your husband is military, the Uniform Code of Military Justice lists infidelity as a punishable offense. If you do want to collect alimony and child support (which you are entitled to, especially because of his cheating) just make your lawyer, the judge, and his supervisor or flight chief or whatever aware of the circumstances. Not only will he be forced to pay alimony and child support but most likely he will receive an Article 15 or reduction in pay or rank. The age of his mistress is a completely different issue and if you live in a state that considers sex with a 15-yr-old statutory rape, he will definitely get in trouble for that and may be discharged from the military. Even though you're not too concerned with the circumstances surrounding the divorce, you should be concerned with you and your baby being taken care of until you can make provisions to do otherwise. I would also suggest getting tested for STDs since he was cheating. Better safe than sorry!

cool down and since he is attracted to the girl and now the things would never be normal... learn to live with time and just bring up ur kid and give ur husband 2 years to come out of it... if he doesnt then dont spoil ur life ... find a decent guy and settle down with him... forget the past... if u want to live in future

Adultry is a BIG deal in the military. Depending on what you want to happen to him you could talk to his sergeant or whatever. Definitely report him for the 15 yr old. Have you spoken to her parents? If he want the divorce let him have it. He definitely has no right to cut off your benefits if you are married and expecting a child.

Your husband is committing statuatory rape if the age of consent is 17 where you live, and it's a felony. You should go to the girls parents, and to the authorities, both local and military if this is happening on base. Your husband sounds like an immature idiot, especially since he doesn't have the guts to tell you to your face (e-mail??? Whatta man...). What he's doing is wrong, and that girl should be protected because she's a victim. Don't worry about the benefits, you could apply for other forms of assistance if you really need it. Please don't wait - you should act on this immediately. Best of luck.

I am pretty sure that sex with a 15 year old is called statutory rape in any state and I would absolutely give him the divorce.Tell the authorities if you want but if they pick him up and try him for the statutory rape he will go to jail and then have no income. If you just divorce him he has to pay child support plus alimony to you and the military will take it right our of his pay. I wish you well and hope like hell you have the strength to leave his butt. Don't blame the girl she is too young to be responsible for what he did.

Your husband is in the Military so the law for him is she has to be 18 years of age the state law does not apply to him at all the military says you can be 18 to smoke but in the State of Alaska you have to be 19 so the military guys get away with smoking there (I used to live there). Now what you do is get proof of her age and proof that there is a relationship give it to that states Child Protective services and he will get charged with having a inappropriate relationship with a minor and you can then use this against him with the Divorce with visitation of the child to be. You can do so much and he will also get kicked out of the military as well. Everything is in your hands Oh yeah even if her parents say its ok for them to be together then you go to the military they will do so much. Remember he has a different set of laws and he will get 3 times more harsh punishment then those not in the military.

give him the divorse and get his *** arrested he is a pervert

I'd like to know where are the parents of the 15 year old. They should have put a stop to it. I would call a lawyer and ask him what you should do. I would probably file for divorce at the same time. And have that lawyer get you some alimony until the baby is born then get his *** for some good child support and insurance for the baby.

A 15 year old? He should go to jail.Thats against the law for one. Take him to court, tell everything. Bring any proof you might have to back you up. And leave the man

In my opinion, you need to do what is best for you and your baby. I'll tell you what, tell the judge, take her to court and get your enlotment back. Also about him telling you that he was with her was a mistake by him, what a idiot, he is just digging himself a hole into some deep ****, because what he has done is beyond any control that he will be able to handle. This will hurt him more than it will you, you will benefit from this, he will learn from this (I think he will anyways, hopefully, then again maybe not.) I may not have much incite about the Military and Government policies and regulations, but what I think is, what is right is right and what is wrong, is wrong. As for your husband's case he has done wrong and he will eventually get what is coming to him reguardless of the outcome. As for you, you just worry about you and your baby everything will be alright in the end you will see. You have friends and family that care about you and will help you get through this. Take care of yourself and remember someone out there loves you and cares about you. Also please hope for the best and always prepare for the worst.

As for the 15 year old girl, as from what replies I have read, you need to get her repremanded, she would probably be sent to juvenile detention center and parents may likely see child-endangerment charges. Thats how see it, I may be wrong, but anything is possible. All I can say about this situation is that everyone pays a price, it is just the ones, who are willingly to take the risks to pay for it, for your husband and the 15 year old girl, they will pay the ultimate price.

As for my opinion, interpret anyway you want, take it for what it is worth and always remember two things. Pain and suffering, and mental abuse are temporary feelings, you will get through this through hell or highwater, and remember someone out there loves you and cares for you always.

Please take care of yourself and your baby.

Your friend always and forever,

- Tone Tone