Depression.....?

What is the best thing to do to get rid of depression.. I'm on antidepressants but don't want to take them for the rest of my life ... And i'm single coz blokes don't understand/ can't cope with how i'm feeling . But i'm a decent person .. blokes get scared off...

no1 is taking this serious are they ?? !

I am also a patient of depression. Do u like to chat with me.

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soak yourself in a nice tub of water with aromas you like..

Well, yeah antidepressants help (I'm on light ones myself) but I've found they don't do it alone. You should also seek some therapy (it doesn't mean you're crazy) and to be honest - here's the book that got me out of my depression. Feeling Good by David Burns. Seriously, nothing got me out of my depression as fast as that book.

Try taking St Johns wort,also certain foods can boost serotonin ,like bananas.

Can't help but i hope you overcome this.

Hard to say. Meds can be a good thing but yes nobody wants to be on them forever. Find love and happiness within yourself an know it doesn't matter what others think.

Go to India and do some meditation and meet some nice people there. It helped Beatles specially George Harrison.

hey honey, it won't just go away be taking meds, I'm 17, on antidepressants and I'm in the process of finding a good psychiatrist, I recommend you do the same. Otherwise, if you just need a friend who understands what your going through, email me nemofiddler@yahoo.com
I'll be glad to listen and give advice where appropriate! Don't fight this alone!

i was depressed about 12 months ago and tried to avoid taking any medication for it but i can understand where u are coming from not wanting to take them for the rest of your life. Do things that keep u happy eg: play Ur fave sport or listen to music keep Ur mind off the things that are hurting u. and the main thing is talk make sure u talk about it. don't keep it to yourself because if u do this then it gets worse. don't have caffeine cola and coffee makes u edgy. I'm not a doctor just someone who has been through it and was told no medication just positive thinking. but i hope this helps and good luck with it. It will get better

Treatments for depression are basically: Psychotherapy (talk therapy with a good therapist), Pharmacotherapy (antidepressants) and Shock therapy for severe depression.

Psychotherapy is the best and has the best results. Different ways of thinking can affect your brain biochemistry and can affect further thought patterns. See the wiki page on cognitive therapy. The trouble here is that it is hard work and dedication that gets the job done. Most people just want to take a magic pill and have things fixed for them and are not about fixing things themselves - this is just NORMAL people, but especially so in depressed people.

A good book on cognitive therapy is "Beating the Blues" S Tanner, J Ball

Pharmacotherapy involves antidepressant medications. These take some time to come on and have an effect. They tend to work 50% of the time and rely on the patient being compliant and taking the right dose at the right time - mostly pretty easy but of course when you are amotivated and couldn't be bothered well it doesn't always happen. See the wiki page on antidepressants

Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) was brought about by the observation that people with epilepsy rarely get depression. It transpires that if you induce a small fit, you can fix depression over time. Only for SEVERE depression.

Good luck!

Keep on with the antidepressants - they take time to work. Consider exercise - walking is good - there is a lot of research to suggest it helps. Make sure you are eating good food. Alcohol is a depressant. Right now focus on yourself - a partner can wait. You probably won't need antidepressants for your entire life. But even if you do, it beats the alternative.

Best of luck,

Sue

I dont know what sort of assisatnce you have sought, but try the Australian website for mental health its www.beyondblue.org.au. Hope this helps, oh and one thing, though you may not believe it at the moment, you can get through depression. But you cant do it alone if you've had it for a while. Take care adn hang in.

my girlfriend was on them when i met her but she got off them gradually so if you want to stop them dont just stop do it gradually..i have also been on them and it dont make you a mad bad person just try eating more vegetables, fruit go walking anything just do more to keep your mind occupied at all times get a good hobby making thing's or just any good hobby. i could go on but i may bore you but i realy hope you get what i am saying and realy hope you get better soon as you sound a realy good person.

Seriously, depression is so common now that most people suffer from it at one time or another. Clinical depression or one of the manics are a different matter though.

A lot of well meaning docs out there see a female coming and just assume depression so unless you have been tested for this don't just assume that is what you suffer from.

Antidepressants are very helpful if this is your malady and there is no stigma attached to taking them any more.

As for blokes, who really cares if they like you or not? Is it your ambition to marry one of them? If so then take your meds and get on with your life.
If you are still depressed after the pills then you need to see your doc and get evaluated as they are not working.

Firstly depression is treatable, taking the tablets may help ease the feelings, but counselling and talking are excellent ways of working through the original cause.

Men do have a tough time understanding,however its much more important you know why you feel the way you do.

Think about managing the current situation and not nessaryly changing it till you have all the answers.
Good luck, best wishesx

have depression and am currently on 12 weeks sick leave...collapsed at work...see your doctor..mine has me on the weakest anti depressant,..as I'm only 81/2 stone..........i can continue doing things ....like drive .....and shopping it just seems to stop negative thoughts....don't know how..but they work

you haven't said wat you are feeling. depression as a illness wat you really need to ask yourself is are you looking for love and understanding. if the answer is yes then just go with it . you will find it when you least expect it.

Hi there. Understand your problem. I to suffer with depression. I don't like taking anti-depressants, I take them when I have to but get off them again as soon as possible. They do not cure depression but give you the mental space you need to find some kind of balance for yourself.
I also attend a psychoanalytical therapy group.
As for the blokes running, the ladies do it too. Very few people can handle being around people with depression, especially if they do not understand it. We've seen people on here with comments like 'pull yourself together'. Idiots, do they think we want to suffer like this.
I wish you well and hope you find the path you need.

I have suffered from depression for over 4 years now, The best thing I ever did apart from finding a psychiatrist was to start exercising. I know it may not be what you want to do right now but it does help. I am now off my anti depressants and although I still get down it's not nearly as bad as before. It releases the happy chemicals in your brain and has been scientifically proven to work.

Unfortunately, psychology isn't an exact science. Finding what works to help you is generally trial and error. As someone who has struggled with depression much of my life, I can offer these suggestions:

- find a therapist you really like and trust. it is important to have someone who is objective monitor your moods. you need to figure out _why_ you're depressed
- take antidepressants under the guidance of a psychiatrist and therapist. don't make changes to the dose or stop taking them without guidance
- get a physical and rule out any kind of medical problem
- become as educated as possible about depression
- exercise. seriously. just walking 30 minutes a day can do wonders if you aren't already active
- find something you are really passionate about and do it. this has probably helped me more than anything. find something you like that will make you happy to do it. whether it's painting, cooking, learning something new. sometimes when you're depressed you get kind of immobilized. when you just _do_ something it helps so much. and then you get that feeling of accomplishment
- resist the urge to isolate yourself. hang out with friends whenever possible
- practice relaxation therapy, meditation, and breathing exercises
- modify your diet. make sure you are eating properly. this is a HUGE one. if you aren't getting all of the vitamins you need (especially B-complex), this can result in depression. a good book to check out is _You: The Owner's Manual_ by Michael Roizen, MD
- drink in moderation. remember alcohol is a depressant
- you may want to consider herbal remedies like st. john's wort or SAM-E. however, they can interact with antidepressants. read up on them first
- be kind to yourself.

know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. it will take some work, but it will get better!!! it's hard for people to understand what you are going through if they haven't been through it. maybe right now is not the time to be in a relationship. you need the time to focus on yourself and get better. and it _will_ happen!!! good luck!!!

Hi,
The best way to get rid of depression is to begin to understand what is causing it. You also have to accept that depression is a self induced state arising from many circumstances in your life. A qualified psychotherapist would be able to help you make some discoveries and help you out of depression. Sorry I can't give you an easy way out, because there is not one! But you can achieve what you want, and be free of antidepressants. Bear this in mind....once you can really love and accept yourself, you will be able to have a successful relationship. Good luck!

You should take antidepressants for as long as the doc says. The DO work and you will eventually come out of the darkness. Good luck and never stop taking them without your docs permission as it can make you feel quite ill. Even if you feel better you should keep taking them until he says its safe, this is usually a gradual process and despite what is said at times, they are not usually addictive.

I have taken ciprimil for 3 years. No side effects. No problems. If a guy is scared off because you are on medication, he's not worth it.

have you tried posting the most stupid questions you can think of at least twice a day? I suffer from depression and some of the stupid answers I get really cheer me up.
oh and you wouldn't scare me unless you went psycho stabby norman bates style while chanting "I'm a little pixie my name is satan" repeatedly in a high pitched voice while walking backwards in a circle with a bible taped to your head.

i have depression if you want to talk I'm here for u

I have been depressed for most of my life. I have had a "so called" handle on it most of that time (I don't take any meds., nor to I see anyone about it). I went to a psychiatrist when I was in my early teens as the hospital required it. I had a physical issue not mental, but the hospital's procedure was for everyone (I guess because of my youth) to see someone.
I still, sort of, have a handle on it, although I just don't care about things anymore. I am supposed to take medication (heart ailment from my teens), but I don't take it all the time anymore. It doesn't bother me not taking it or it's possible consequences, I have no fear, nor do I care about anything anymore.
Since I waited too long, it is probably too late for me, but to answer your question, I would take your antidepressants as your doctor prescribed, and continue to see him/her.
People can't cope, because most of society doesn't understand, or is unwilling to understand. You will find someone sooner or later, but again don't wait (I'm single too, as I waited too long), just listen to your doctor, and eventually things will turn to the better.
Good luck to you.

BINGO! Your question echoes my own situation almost identically. I decided, after years of antidepressants (I have taken almost every single different kind) that I wanted to get off them and not take them forever. I was on Lexapro and stopped it but i guess i tapered off too quickly (see my Q&A about Lexapro withdrawal). Now I am suffering from extreme withdrawal and it sucks.

I came to realize a while ago (but forgot until now) that depression is a MEDICAL condition. I think people like you and me need to realize this and stop worrying about taking meds for the rest of our lives, and just do it. If we had diabetes, would we say we don't want to take insulin forever? No.

I am learning now in my current state of being (not good on this withdrawal thing) that the side effects of meds are not as bad as feeling sh*tty like I do now.

ALso I understand how others don't seem to understand. I wanted to join online personal ads dating service but all the ads say they want someone "happy" or "with a zest for life" or "enthusiastic" but that is never me. However, there ARE people (blokes too) who like others who are more sedate and low-key like you may seem. Trust me they are out there but harder to find.

try exercise even a good regular walks

it depends wot is depressing u,u can either sorted out or moveing on is da best way from it.jus think of a new goal 2 work towards!

It can be hard to motivate yourself to do anything when you are depressed. I think the best thing you can do is go to your local gym or class and do some exercise. It's a good way to meet with other people too.You will feel really good, both mentally and physically after a good work out. Try it, what have you to lose. You say you don't want to stay on anti depressants forever, so give it a go. You will feel better for it

just snap out of it