My 8 yrear old daughter is overweight Is it child abuse (20lbs) overweight?

Im divorced and have been since daughter was 1. My ex wife has made my life Hell to see my daughter and i have spent upto 100 grand in lawyers fees. As my daughter has grown over the last 7 years,her diet is based on chips,chesse and mcdonalds. I really hate this and I dont think she has eaten a fruit or veggie at her moms in years. I have her the typical week dad crap, and to change an eater habits in 2 days is not possible,so i feed her crap so she will eat. I have been able to get her to eat good stuff,but by the next time i see her the learning process starts all over I think its neglect and child abuse...What do you think?

No way in the world I could talk to her about anything. I would be accused of threatening her or some other dreamed up lie.

If you are asking the question, you know the answer... yes.

A child needs their parents to do the right things for them. Not to do the things that makes it easy.
Children need limits, not fries.

The only way you can fail is if you stop trying.
If you have to train your daughter healthy habits for the rest of your life, then you have succeeded!
I am sure she is worth your help.

You need to speak to your ex wife about this. I doubt she wants your daughter to be overweight or unhealthy. You need to decide what she is going to eat and stick to it together (even if you don't get along, it's for your little girl). It's not necessarily "abuse" so don't try filing charges against your ex just yet.

20 pounds over is not abuse. It can be easily lost. But you will certainly need to provide healthier options for your daughter. It is important that she learns to enjoy healthy food at a young age or she will become addicted to junk food when she is older and that 20 pounds will turn into 40, then 60, and so on. Just stay focused on what is really important for your daughter, and not what is easy.

See a nutritionist together. Your daughter is at the perfect age to teach her about calories and eating healthy. If you keep doing nothing, she will grow up to be obese, because she just doesn't know about eating healthy foods, and all about calories.

I don't know if this would be considered "child abuse," but it should! I bet a nutritionist would know! Great question deserves a star. Good luck to your little girl. Help her now. :)