Caregivers?

Has anyone here taken care of their elderly parents or grandparents that have alzheimers for a long time?? If so how has it changed your life? Do u live with them?

My father had it and now my mother has it. Dad was sweet and gentle and so very afraid that he would become a burden. He had health issues that overrided the AD and ultimatley Mom put him in a nursing home which was his biggest fear. She did not like taking care of him with his special health needs and I had small children and was unable to take him in.

Mom is a different story. She is mean, bitter and spiteful. No one wants to take care of her. She pretends there is nothing wrong with her even though she takes her medicine wrong and does not follow any of her doctors instructions. She has paid help but will end up in the nursing home in a few years probably as I will not take her in as my husband would probably divorce me if I did. I have to take her to the doctor and then try to make her understand what is going on. I have to deal with her at the grocery store as to why she can't buy all the candy and ice cream she wants as she is diabetic. I have to deal with when she joins book clubs even though she can't see well enough to read. I have to deal with phone calls from her neighbors and friends when she does or says something mean or selfish. She actually called a friend to come tuck her in at night. She called her pastor at midnight to come pray for her and when he got there she was naked. The caregiver was asleep.

There is a very good book about this subject called "The 25 Hour Day" . Contact the Alzheimers Disease Foundation and they can help you with many resources.

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why do people post that kind of stuff....the answer is what im talking about...that was an answer to one of my questions....about 2 wks ago

my grandmother had alzheimers, she would call me my sisters
name, or she didn't recgonized me , at first i was hurt but i knew
it wasn't her fault plus i work at a hospital so im used to seeing
people in those situations.you just take care of them the best
way you can, and its hard when its someone you know, you miss
them

It no joke if i did not love my father i would of probably put him in a nursing home, but i remember when i waz young that he said never to do that, It's hard getting home care also he also had a stoke and is unable to walk, forget who you are and everyone is taking from him, bothers the kinds and sometimes is just nasty to everyone, I don't hv company or entertain the way i did before he came worker are in and out of my house, i'm up checking on him all times of the night its like my having a new born baby

But I love my Daddy

I have been a cna for over 20 years and know that will be the worst thing to go through for a family. to any and all whose lives are touched by this tragedy, you have my thoughts and sympathies