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I need some brilliant-minded people to help me solve my home care problem for my elderly mother??


Here's my story:

My brothers and I have our elderly mother living in her own home. She is with a caregiver because she has been paralyzed since her stroke back in '96. She is unable to do anything for herself. We pay what we can and some caregivers seem to be OK with that.

Our biggest concern is over the years, after having quite a number of caregivers come and go, we have had soooo much stuff stolen. When my mother comes to visit me here in Canada, we believe her house gets "broken in to" through windows that have been purposely been fixed to allow access into the house. My mother just returned after being away for about 3 months and her big TV is gone along with some other items. This has been going on for years.

Though she can't do much, the TV is really all she has to the outside world. She is devastated. We could get her another TV but that could be stolen as well.

This is so frustrating for our family. What can we do to stop this madness???

We can't put her in a home because she makes too much. WE need some legal advise too!

Make sure to do background check on caregivers that live in.
aslo make sure they are bondable.
report any caregiver you think might have robbed your mom to the police. Call the counsel on aging for all the other info you need to do those things.
Let all perspective care givers know you will need that and a drug screening test, that you will not pay for if they fail it.
People with nothing to hide won't be put off by this.
For the breaking in thing find out about a reliable security system with video surveillance. Don't let the caregivers know its there. Catch them in the act.
Also time to get the things that your mom does not need of any value and put them in storage. less stuff less temtation.

you need to face facts. mom's home is no longer a safe environment for her. time to sell the house and get her into an assisted living situation.

I think about senior citizen's buildings. All of this buildings for elderly people. Some of them for low income people, some required to have some income. However, the point is all these buildings have securities and some medical staff working 24 hours. Also you mom will find other people she can communicate with. + they provide some transportation, if people need it and prepared food delivery or coking. I think it is a good serves for people. I am glad if it helps

Looks like you need a service that is licensed and bonded. And perhaps consider moving her in with you to keep a closer eye on her treatment and well-being.

My father pasted away two years ago. And like you my mother was no longer safe in her home, and couldn't do for herself anymore. Being alone just made things worse. She cried all the time and became very depressed. Me and my husband along with my mother decided to sell her house and for her to come live with us. I work first shift and my husband works second. So somebody was always around. We contacted an attorney. He advised us to put the money from the sale of her home into a trust. If you are not in this situation were no one can take your mother in, then probably assisted living is the best. But before you put the house up for sale, or move your mother in assisted living.
Contact a Lawyer. They can help you decide the best way of handling her money. In the USA a trust has to be in place for six years now, or the state or government can take her assets.
If needed for medical bills, nursing home. The worst case problems down the road.

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