Bullying???????

I used to be a victim of bullying. I haven't been bullied for over a year now. I've had conflicts, but no hardcore bullying.
I've realized how much healthier, happier, and better I am.
I have been looking at my past, and I have noticed how a LOT of problems were caused by bullying, and how I rarely have any problems anymore.
I went to a private school from k-4 (worst decision my parents made). Then went to public for 5th, didn't get bullied, but I was left out a lot. Then in sixth grade, I got bullied a little, but made peace. In 7th grade was when my problems started. I got bullied more, and I got scared. I didn't want to go to school, hated my life. Then in 8th grade, I got bullied a LOT. By at least half the classroom at once sometimes. I got messed with by a bunch of different people. It was then that I just...snapped. I was really weird, got really perverted, I started acting out. (Plus, a lot more **** was going on in my life)
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But then summer hit, and I tweaked out a LOT (homicidal, stole without reason, started vandalizing ****, serious thoughts of killing my family, destroyed a lot of what I owned, I hated everybody, acted REALLY weird, hated my life, I NEVER went anywhere without a knife, and I would use it without question)
Then highschool hit, and I was violent, and would fight at the drop of the hat, I got into a fight the first week of school, got into another fight a few weeks after. Since I became so violent (among other things) I stopped getting picked on. I still had weird quirks, I still brought my knife with me, I tried to get expelled, I acted out. But since I stopped getting bullied, I became a lot more stable, and throughout the year, I became more normal, got friends, got a life, found passions, stopped acting out, started loving life.
And over the summer, and now in my sophomore year, I am perfectly content with my life.

But my question? What are other common mental effects of bullying?

It's ok kid. You'll find later in life that the ones that were doing the bullying will turn out to be complete losers in life. They'll be working serving you fries at McD's and you'll get the executive job. It turned out to be the case in my life.

Life is like a boxing match. Even if you lose round 1, you still have 14 rounds to go.

im in year 8 this year and i am getting bullied. i have got lots of help. but this girl wont stop. now she is throwing paper around the school saying mean stuff about me. i got so angry i punched a wall and i broke my hand. i dont know what to do anymore!! Report It

i was too and i was sexually abused as a child i suspect you were too, if you weren't , then u had it better than a lot of people be thankful and help those that went through it

I got bullied when I was in school....It takes alot of years to get over properly but when you do you do realise..... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.....sorry it's a bit cheesy but it's true.... good luck for your future and all the best!

I know that when my daughter was being bullied in the 4 and 5th grade she had severe self esteem problems and she didn't do well in school. When she finally told me what was wrong and I spoke to the parents of the children involved and it stopped her self esteem grew and her grades got better. But even though I was an adult I wanted to take those kids apart and that so wasn't me. I was forever telling my Girl Scout to find another way of dealing with bullying and fighting. But this time I wanted to take those girls a part myself. I was really angry and I don't ever really thought that I could hate someone so much as I did those kids.

Sadness that continues into adulthood
Distrust of others.
Thoughts of unworthiness.
Withdrawal into self.

I was bullied by my birth family as well as at school!

Solution:
Preplan how to spare any future children you may have from bullying (I homeschooled my daughter for high school and sent her to college before her bullying peers from her private grade school) Very empowering ~to right the wrongs for the next generation! Preplanning how to spare my own children while I was going through the pain was very helpful.

If your family is part of the problem create a loving nurturing family situation within your circle of friends. In my "family" of six that live together, I am only biologically related to my daughter.

Realize these negative experiences will leave a lasting impact, so develop appropriate self help strategies.

(I am a 45 year old female)

I was bullied a lot "mentally" with a "so called" friend of mine last year in school. She would tell me I wasn't good enough and made fun of my appearances, told me I was too fat, short, whatever. She would never treat me w/ respect. Some friend, right?

I was hurt, but surprisingly, it didn't bother me as much as I expected. I moved on, as like it sounds like u did too (congrats and good for you!), and I told myself that I was better than she was. I know that bullying is tough, especially when you are the victim.

If I would have taken the effects of the bullying and let it get to me, I would have been a wreck. Sad, lonely, and constanly being "put down" and neglected. But I told my parents how I was feeling last year too, and it helped me a lot.

Also, I wrote a letter to my district superintendent to stop bullying and violence. Now, the teachers patrol the hallways like noboby's business so no one is harmed or hurt.

Feel good of what you accomplished. It is amazing how you feel after you move on from a bullying experience.

Good luck, and congrats for your acheivements :)

I got bullied too when I was a kid and I think I did because I was a bit shy and noble.

I found the formula to stop the bullying and I recommend it to everyone:

Study martial arts, go to the gym and put on some muscle, try to be as social as possible.

Even if you fail to be social nobody will mess with you because you know how to fight, and even if the bully is bigger an can kick you ***, you can still do some harm to him and he will prefer to choose other victims.

Yeah it caused me a lot of psychological problems but I am getting over now, now sometimes I get in trouble at bars or nightclubs, I learn that if you act submisive they will try to fight you or insult you, if you don't you can just back off without being submisive and won't get harmed.
If the guy is not bigger than me I will beat the hell out of him as long as he doesn't get supporters, in that case I tell my friends to prepare for battle.

i used to bully but stopped. most of my former victims were depressed, lacked self confidence and suicidal and angry