If you have weak mental health can you complain about bullying at a lower rate than others can handle?

i feel like i am being bullied but the thing is the bullying isnt bad but the people doing it know i am unwell and still do it

the thing is the things they are saying definately wouldnt hurt anyone else but because i am very week mentally it really does effect me

i hope you know wat i mean

thank you for your help


xxx


vici

Yes, pain is pain. If somebody does or says something that hurts you, you have every right to tell them. It doesn't matter that somebody else might not be bothered. Imagine if you had a sunburn and somebody smacked you on the back. Most likely, you wouldn't think twice about telling them it hurt. You wouldn't think you had to shut up because when you're not sunburned it doesn't hurt! I think your situation is similar- you are hurt more easily than other people.

Two thoughts- do the people know that what they're saying hurts you? Just because you look hurt, or get quiet and just because they know you have mental difficulties doesn't mean they know they hurt you. Some people can be amazingly dense. You really have to say something straight out to somebody's face before you can assume they understand how you feel.

And- it really sucks, but you can't assume that if you tell someone they are hurting you, they'll stop. Or even care. Some people don't want to bother to think about other people's feelings or try to change the way they act. (For all sorts of reasons- they think it'll make them "weak," it makes them uncomfortable, or they just haven't developed to that point yet- even if they're fifty- ha!) And some people *like* hurting other people- it makes them feel powerful. Best to develop a good "radar" for people like that, and have as little to do with them as you possibly can. You'll save yourself a lot of pain and trouble!

One other thing to remember- some of those people who act like bullying doesn't hurt, really are hurt- they're just not showing it. They might even appreciate your speaking up.

So speak up if you feel the need to. If your friends are just clueless they might even learn something. But be kind to yourself too, and don't put yourself in situations that are going to hurt too much. You don't have to be Anti-Bullying Superhero, but if you can say something, that's excellent.

But get support, too. Find friends who do care about you and want to support you. Does your school have any kind of support or discussion groups, or clubs that you might want to join? You deserve friends who care about you and don't want to hurt you! And I think bullies are less likely to bug you if they know you have friends- they're cowards that way.

Just don't listen to them. They're idiots. Ignore them. :)

Totally, I've been told I'm over sensitive all my life, I'm nearly 40 and I'm still over sensitive. I've just come to realize that is who I am and I need to avoid people who try to make me feel bad. Sometimes they aren't even trying, they think they're funny or something... It doesn't make you weak mentally, it makes you sensitive and that can be a good thing around the right people.Go to emofree.com, check out the free manual.
It is helping me.

bullies are lowlifes who do things for their own entertainment. Realize that what they put out will come back to them someday. Sure they continue doing it, and it's just their nature, they will continue doing it whether or not you like it, whether or not you ignore it. It's like a boomerang for them though. What they give out will come back to them, maybe not from you but somewhere in their life it will come back to them.

you know in your heart you are the best and they are just messing with you. Don't be around them. Improve yourself for you and your own future and career. If you keep worrying about them then that takes away from what you want to do for you. They are low life, they want you to be too, you don't want to be, so move on with your own life. "Anything" (no matter what it is) that you say to them will only perpetuate the bullying. You need to train you so that you won't let it affect you. Pretend instead that they are saying something nice about you.

I know exactly what you mean. About a year an a half ago I was really depressed and anything hurt my feelings like if people were just teasing and tryin to be silly you know the kind of things everybody else was fine with. I know how you feel. Oh and I know people tell you to just ignore them and that may work for some but it didn't work for me. Talk to someone that you trust, I like to talk to my mom about, or you could try a therapist. If your are really depressed you can try a antidepressent if all else fails I tried everything I could think before I considered meds, but they reallly helped me a lot. I would do that as a last resort though, and they don't just make you happy all the sudden it's takes time. They also don't make you the happiest person ever but they help take the edge off. I hope I've helped