I can't get over my BULLYING inncident which was 3 YRS. AGO & i don't want to go to school b/c of it!?

It was 3 yrs. ago, thankfully these girls don't go to the same school as i do now, but the pain of it can't leave my mind, and im afraid to go to school most days , i think that i willl get bullied again. My attendace is very poor, and my grades r poor because of this anxiety of 'future bullies'

3 yrs. ago , 2 girls in my school were spreading rumours about me that i was having sexual relations with this guy in school, (I was not, they were just making fun of me and laughing)...they said i give blowjobs to this guy ...(I'm not that kinda of girl at all, but i was extremely shy and quiet , and i just 'ignored them' even though they still made fun of me...i would cry at night, and even now thinking back upon it...

3 yrs. ago , that was the first time i was ever really bullied, and i couldn't take their meaness , so i went home and tried to commit suicide, i was hospitalized

no one knows that i tried to 'hurt' myself because i was bullied.

how can i get over it!

No i would never commit suicide again. Also what was to b jealous about me, i was the quitest, shyest in the class, a loner too...

Teens your age can be cruel and think nothing of making up vicious gossip. I think they come up with the worst rumors just for the shock effect and they themselves want attention. My daughter is very sensitive, just like you, and she has a very hard time some days at school. And she never forgets a wrong thing done to her either - - - even after it has been months/years.

I wish I could help you grow that "second skin" that would make you less sensitive to what people say, but I can't. I'll pray for you though. And I hope you have a mom, dad, brother or sister that will be a good listener. You need someone to talk to every day. Maybe they can arrange for you to get some counseling so you can at least deal with your feelings. Also try talking to a teacher you can trust. You can't continue to jeopardize your education and well being.

You asked how you could get over it? Well, believe it or not, it sometimes starts with forgiving others who hurt you. Forgiving doesn't mean excusing what they did, but it just means that it releases you from the anguish and rage remaining inside.

plz don't try to kill tourself anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!when ppl make fun of other ppl they are jelous becuase they arn't that person.they are jelouse because u are who u are.that should make u prouder,stronger,and have more slef confidence,all that shows is that all that bullying shows that they want to be u beacuse they have notgn else to do

be yourself and find friends where you can be yourself. if anybody gives you **** again stand up for yourself. you and your closest friends know the truth.

i know this sounds hard, but i've done it, it really works. you need to ignore it, forget it. you need to tell yourself that you shouldn't care but everybody else thinks.

you just need to be comfortable with yourself. you need to know who you are! i know that sounds corny but it's true! YOU know that what they said was wrong, and that should be enough! They are just jerks who don't know the first thing about you, and they were just trying to get attention.

you shouldn't let these things get to you, and i'm not saying that you are wrong for letting them get to you. it's perfectly understandable. but you need to get teh idea in your head that you don't care what anybody else thinks! you are going to be away from all of these people in a few years, you will never see them again!

it sounds to me that you're also having self-esteem issues. i don't know, and i don't want to presume, but if you go to school adn really try, and get good grades, that will help your self-esteem.

just live day to day. don't worry too much, it just causes unneeded stress.

beat the **** out of them, its the only Way to get back the respect you want. But please, don't try to kill them or anything, just try to beat them up very good. But try to get them to fight you first like, spill something on them, give them a middle finger, mooned them,called them names,make fun of them by saying something that will offended them by using their most valued thing as a weapon, or do anything else that you girls do to try to get in fights with other girls. you could call them slugs or something, that will really will pushed their buttons or in guy terms, to pissed them off.

Sometimes, its really important to either fight them or to make fun of them back so they won't make fun of you anymore,so when they are making fun of you, try to make them mad so that you can fight them and uses your friends or other people to fight with you. For strangers, please make sure their not crazy first and then try to bride them to fight with you because 1 out of 2 girls are off the odds that makes your changes to lose the fight even more.

I'm assuming you go to highschool and it can be so hard for some people. I know what it feels like to have something like that plaugue your thoughts and feelings, and you're totally justified in having anxiety because of what you went through. If I was you I would let someone at the school know just because if your grades and attendance are poor this could once again affect your future and those bullies have no right to do that to you. Often, if you talk to your school about this they will cut you some slack, hopefully, also maybe let your friends and parents know so they can support you. Please don't ever try suicide again, I know things get hard but there's so much out there other than the stuff you are going through, to relieve anxiety try exercising a bit, even if its just going for a run or for a walk, think as positive as you can, listen to inspirational music and write your thoughts and feelings down. The important thing to realize is that this can be overcome. goodluck - oh and don't hurt them or try to get back at them, trust me this is only going to hurt you in the end, move on

Take lessons from Chuck Norris.

Yeah I had verbal abuse for 2 years. Also false rumors unrelated to those 2 years.

I think we should talk... 0ne with a zero for the O. Send me a message via Yahoo! Messenger.

i'm quiet and shy too and even now as a senior in h.s. it's people like that that get on my nerves but i just don't have the stength to speak my mind. i keep it to myself thinking that one day i'll get far in life and they won't. what you lived through is painful but keep yourself busy. focus on school work because it will help you. make friends because i assure you that not all girls are like that especially if ur in a new school. don't be shy to talk to someone new because you'll make friends that way. spend time with people and enjoy all the good things that you are living. i have you a friend you went through an expirence she can't forget. when i hear it i get so mad and wish that i coud have helped her. her case was pretty serious but i can't say it becasue i respect her private life. she talked to a school counselor and a psychologist to at least let out what she was feeling inside. it's something she will never forget but with the counselors & pyschologists help she can talk about it at times. even thought her parents aren't much help her friends are there to listen and help her. it's what friends are for.

have you thought about a GED instead..if you were highest enough like 11 grade you may pass if not you could still go to college and get it or a Jr college..i know what your talking about .. they should make this people ac-countably for what pain they cause others as well as the teachers who look the other way..i felt the same way and i knew i would quit in the 3rd grade as soon as i got 16 and it took yrs to get my ged..the teachers was just as bad as the sudects..worst sometimes..and parents never listen to kids when it comes to teachers..least mine did not..if you wont a chat buddie who understand what your going through my msn is invisiblebunny219.@hotmail..just put in your message we talk about school bullies on yahoo .. that way i know who you are.. some times my bf brother uses my computer for some pretty wild stuff

Dont hurt yourself again. These girls are the losers.They are jealous.Isuggest you talk to the school counselor.The girls are not at that school so going back should make it easier for you.Just remember you are a good person and the chances of this happening again would be rare.Try and make some good friends. Get involved in activities.The more you think abou what happened to you the harder it will be to move on. Focus on the future and what you want to do with your life.If you stop still they would have won and you will be the poorer for it.Best of luck.Hold yourhead up highand dont be afraid.

im not a girl and i dont live in a place where spreading rumors is the worst thing you can do (no offence but americans are a bunch of *******) but i can tell you to do is, although its hard, you gotta say oh **** it and keep go on, dont be hurt if someone tell something to you. if you feel someone say hello in a mean way, just say hello back in a happy way and maybe ask how you doing this morning and stay happy.
if someone say something then go along with it and you can add something or give back.

like if someone tells you to suck his **** just say, sorry but yours is not big enough.

if you see someone that bug you if he see you but he is in your way, just keep go on and forget about that someone.


giving good insult back can really make someone be quiet - someone did something annoying to me in class and a friend told them to stop bugging me and i sayed no its ok, that guy is very funny always have jokes soooo funny (he always tries never make anyone funny) and later he said in the same lesson a tried joke and i said here is another really original funny joke, i dont know how you get stuff so funny like that and i think everyone heard it. it shushed him for a very long time.