How do you get over the memories of severe bullying and mental taunting ?

iam 30 now, i have bpd. unfortunatly i have had a very miserable life and i havent achieved anything so far.

never had a partner or made any friends in life. never been employed, never gained any qualifications ever.

i suffer with extreme low self esteem because of all the bullying and taunts suffered growing up and throughout adulthood.

i have flashbacks of the incidences where i let people taunt me, where they told me i was no good over and over....where i was humiliated and laughed at in front of others.....i remember horrible things that were said.....the way i was constantly picked apart....made to feel bad about myself....

and i feel really sad when i think of all these things & i feel ' that bad ' about myself, because i know they caused it & i never stood up for myself.

no wonder i have always had extreme low self esteem & never made any relationships with anyone, they have made me feel ' that bad ' about myself.

how can i get over these memories & how bad others

have made me feel about myself throughout my life ?

such painful memories.

i remember one girl who used to relentlessly taunt me all the time, she used to say things to me and get others to join in the taunts.

one time she said ' i was not there ' i didnt belong anywhere, i mean how bad is that ? to a kid growing up?

how do i get over all these painful memories and get my self esteem and self belief back ?

In behalf of those who caused you pain, please accept our apologies.

You need to forgive yourself too for what happened. The past is done. You still have the present to live, and the future to make a better life for yourself.

You need not forget what happened to you in the past, but at the same time, do your best to train yourself when you notice that you are dwelling in past events. Please focus on now, on what is current.

Volunteer. By volunteering, you develop skills (interpersonal and work-related) and you help others too. By volunteering, you will realize that you are important and valuable.

Plant. Gardening is therapeutic. You will observe the cycle of life. You will become more in tune with yourself.

Take a course. Not ready for a big class? Painting, sewing are offered by the local community center. If you are ready to go to school, then go back. Education is for everyone, regardless of age. Approach a guidance counselor, there are plenty of avenues for you to try.

Finally, look to each day as another opportunity to have a better life. It is your life, empower yourself.

Those are terrible and I went through some teasing and tormenting I hope you are getting counseling and getting medication but I learned that when I got older and school was over things changed and the tormenting is over. Its gone and done so let it go and start working on you get up and get involved go to church volunteer change that depressed image you have the power to change your life not sit there and feel sorrry for yourself after a while its only a excuse to dwell on the past its time now to go on with your life.

You may want to seek counseling. Anti-depressants could help but it's not for everyone.

think of a happy place and meditation is very helpful too......... meditate on the bright side of life........now focus on jesus and he will guide you

I have similar issues and assuming that your under a doctors care (because of the bpd) you need to get a referral to a local therapist and worth through your issues. You may even need to look up the people who teased and tormented you and discuss it with them. These things happened while you were school aged and you are all grown adults now and able to discuss your feelings. when I went back and confronted my tormentors it helped alto to talk and let them know just how I was made to feel

What happened to you in life is truly horrible and i'm both sad and disgusted by what happened to you, no one deserves that...please realize that you are a valuable human being and that is why you are on this earth.

You need to seek counseling if you already haven't done so and you will be in my prayers everynight.

forget them that was in the past stay in the present!

This makes two of us but im onley 15
and its been so hard ...depression...self harm, everyone said youd never guess cause i have blonde hair and blue eyes and surf..i mean wtf but anyway
dont go on anti depressant try and do it yourself
you havto push yourself to be social to get a job maybe start small with a yoga class once a week soon get more social it will be tough and a rough time but come out of it one peice youll be so amazed at where you are with your life
you cant forget the memories or the pain but try and make up for your lost time....there are some good people out there you jsut need to find them

That is indeed an awful thing. What a mean spirited little girl! If I had been there, I would probably have popped her in the mouth for you, although it isn't quite the correct thing to do. It would have been my response to her meanness. Everybody has the right to be treated with respect and you were not treated that way. It is a shame that this was ever allowed to happen. I don't know how to help you get over these bad memories, except to let you know that as you make improvements in your life, these bad things will perhaps disappear into the past where they belong. Try to concentrate on better things, things that are more in the now for you. And don't forget to smile when you see someone else smiling. You must learn to share in the happiness of others, it grows on you if you practice it. As your happiness grows in life, it will help to erase some of the bad from your past. Don't just smile because your practicing, smile because you are getting better all the time. And remember, I am pulling for you! How does it feel to have your own personal cheer leader? I hope it makes you feel really good! Hang in there, my friend!