Question about bullying and being cool.?

i go to school , and people are mean to me, and i'm always on the down side, (not happy, bad mood) usually, and I hate it when people are mean to me, and i'm not really mean to them, but my blood pressure rises high i have a short temper, and stuff, and I just want an anwser on how you can get people to be nicer, and respect you more, if you have one for me, please...? ....... and
my temper is real short and i get extrememly mad and can't focus, mood swings, and always in a bad mood.

Hey Buddy I really feel sorry for you. Here are some things that might help you. Bullies like to feel more powerful than their peers. Bullies can make kids feel helpless. It is okay to be scared.

What to do if you are bullied:

Tell your parents. Telling is not tattling. Your parents can help you figure out what to do.


Tell a trusted teacher, school counselor, or principal. If you are scared or uncomfortable, bring a friend or a parent. Your parents can also talk to the school for you. You can write down what happened, how it happened, and who is bullying you.


Do not retaliate against the bully or get angry. Try to defuse the situation and not make the bully torment you even more.


Respond evenly and firmly or else say nothing and walk away. A bully likes to feel powerful and likes to see that he or she has upset you.
How to prevent being bullied: Develop friendships with other children. A bully is more likely to leave you alone if you are with your friends. This is especially true if you stick up for each other.
Develop interests in social and physical activities. This will help you to develop friendships with other people who share your interests.
Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up straight, make eye-contact, and walk confidently. A bully will be less likely to single you out if your project self-confidence.
How to Avoid Bullying Situations
Sometimes the best way to prevent being bullied is to avoid situations where bullying can happen. These are only short-term solutions.Sit near the bus driver on the school bus.Take a different route to and from school. Leave a little earlier or later to avoid a confrontation with a bully. Do not bring expensive items or lots of money to school.Take different routes through the hallways or walk with a teacher to your classes Avoid unsupervised areas of the school and situations where you are isolated from your teachers and classmates.Make sure you are not alone in the locker room or bathroom.

And ALWAYS don't get scared, thats the main thing that will make you even more of a target!! ALWAYS talk to your bully with a loud voice, he will back off.

If you are not in high school, you can do what I told my son to do. Everytime someone hits your, knocks things out of your hands, calls you names, etc. Go to the consular and get them detention. Do not do anything back. Even if they are not your friends they will stop because it is cutting into their free time.
You are going to have to learn to control your temper, even when you are older people are going to irritate you, just look at people driving and cutting each other off. One other thing, if your parents will allow it, ask to take some self-defense classes. They not only teach basic ways to protect yourself, but they also teach you how to use self control.

People will always be mean - look at the dumbass responses you have on here!

Bullying is simply a form to hurt someone else to make that person feel better. If the bullying doesn't affect you - it can't harm you. I was bullied most of my life (and still am as an adult) but I don't tlet it get to me, because I don't want to be cool. I couldn't care less about what people think of me. Sometimes, when I feel like it, I wear a pink tutu to mke myself feel happy. I bought mukluks and wear them with pride and fuzziness. People make fun of me on a daily basis - sometime harshly and violently - but I don't care becasue deep down I know I am a better person than they are and am having more fun!

I am not shallow or mean to others, but I am happy.

they pick on you b/c they know how mad you get and what a short fuse you have. They enjoy wtaching you get mad and get a rise out of it. I'ts not right, but it's true, cuz ppl used to do the same thing w/me..they would mess w/me bc I am the nervous type and they knew it would make me more nervous. When they bother you, have no reaction, fight your anger, and they will probably get bored w/it. Or, you could use your anger to scare them..but maybe it wouldn't work.

Dont mind those bullying you. Just think that these poor fellows have to do so much of their antics just to get your attention (even if it is on a negative way). If they still wont let up, give them a taste of their own medicine.

I remember my husband told me about a kid back when they were in gradeschool. This kid always takes my husbands lunch box and drinks his juice. After a while, my husband could not take this bullying anymore and so he peed on the drinking bottle and let this bullying kid have a taste of his own medicine. He didnt continue being a bully after this incident. And he respected my husband too...

take a anger management class and study it well....meanwhile, ignore them and they might leave you alone.....it will be hard but try to laugh it off...they like to push your buttons, dont let them win....

All of the things you have mentioned are keeping you on edge because of the anticipation of what's going to happen. Kids today are truly mean and mean spirited.. The more they bully and get away with it the more they do it. It's also encouraged by their friends and they see nothing wrong with it.. If they were to have it given back they would see what it feels like.. I fell very sorry for you.. Speak to a counsler for advice and try and stick with your friends who don't behave badly.. Bullies are ver UNCOOL .. Best of Luck to you....

people will always be mean. I know what you mean, thats why I quit public school and started doing homeschool online at www.compuhigh.com plus compuhigh.com is a thousand times easier than a public school.