My husbands health has drove my crazy!?

Hi there, My husband got Pancreatitis from having gallstones in his pancreas duct. They did an ERCP and thats how the pancreatitis started. My husband has had yellow jaundnice, pnemonia 2 times, his liver bile backed up and they had to put a bag on his side to drain the bile from his liver, he ended up getting a pseudocyst the size of a football ,they waited 6 weeks to go in and drain the cyst, they said his pancreas looked like mush, he is only 35 years old and has been through so much, when they did the surgery his pancreas was infected with MERSA, if you are not sure what that is its a staff infection. He had it in his blood as well, Here is the problem he is home now and I am so paranoid that he is getting sick I am driving him nuts, I stick a Thermonator in his mouth 50 times a day, I take his blood pressure and check his sugar so much I am just scared to death, I wonder if the staff infection is back ,I cant sleep and I am a nervous reck, how do I calm down?

Also he was on a vent for 13 days and he doesnt remember a lot of what happen to him, before the vent he was in so much pain he really cant remember much so he doesnt understand why I am so scared. I am scared because I almost lost him and I am still scared maybe I need to see a doctor?!

My patients and their families always get upset when the patient can't remember parts of being really sick. I always tell them that God protects us from the really bad stuff, it is a good thing we do not remember. Who wants to remember being helpless, with a tube down their throat and IVs?
I understand that you are a wreck, I would be too. But you have to calm down. You are going to make yourself sick, and your husband will be so sick of you that he might not tell you if he does get sick again!
Do some research, learn the signs and symtoms of infection. No, I'm not going to tell you, you do it, and give your husband a vacation away from you for a few minutes! Getting Knowledge is the best thing you can do for hubby, be his advocate!
Doctor should have sent you home with instructions on how often to do blood sugars, follow those instructions. If he didn't, call and get them!
Take the temp once in the morning, and once in the evening, and if you spot any symptoms in between. Temps often arise during the evening, as any on call doctor can tell you, and are often found in the morning, too.
Find some distractions for yourself, cook him balanced nourishing diabetic meals. Go online, do research to find the right foods. As soon as he is able, and doctor says it is ok, start an exercise program with him. Walking is great exercise, and making it not boring is a good job for you.
For his blood pressure, same thing. First thing in the morning, and after exercise, and if you see any symptoms of high blood pressure, or as the doctor told you to. Again, go do the research, I'm not going to tell you what they are.
Look at it this way, if you make yourself crazy, or sick, or both, your husband is in no shape to take care of you. And you will not be able to take care of him!
Sneaky trick: for instance, watch tv with him, and turn your chair so you can see him, and the tv. You can peek at him, and not drive him nuts!
Good luck, and try to keep calm, you are not helping him get better being nervous, him being upset about you or his condition will slow down his progress!

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You sound like you're in need of some rest yourself! It's really difficult being someone's caregiver. If possible, you should make an appointment with YOUR doctor to talk over your anxiety and possible treatments for it.

Anothing thing I suggest is getting some home visits from a nurse (if he needs one), or his mother, or a friend, and just get out of the house for a few hours.

take some time off for yourself. you're paranoia is not helping your husband's health in any way, shape or form. in fact, you may be overwhelming him and hurting him in other, more subtle ways. let him be and let him come to you if he needs your help. spend some 'you' time by taking up one of your hobbies or going out with friends. anything that will take your mind off your husband's illness.

You should call the doctor! im so sorry may God be with you!

get your husband involved. make him take his own temperature and blood pressure, get him to draw up his observations on a chart and see if he thinks he's well or not. May i suggest you get a patient advocate involved to answer any questions of what went wrong with hubby's treatment. You need a contact such as his primary doctor to act as the go-between for all the departments and staff involved.

First, I'm sorry to hear about your husbands failing condition. I pray that he gets healthier. My mom is in the same situation but with her mother. It's driving her to be depressed and angry b/c she is relied on so much to care for. I personally don't believe in psychological medication so I asked my mom to get off of it. I'm hoping you will not get on them either.
I believe in prayer and being positive. I always tell my mom she needs to get help from either family or hire help. Maybe you should do that too. Maybe one day a week you can have a social night with a few close friends to help keep your mind off of him and his sickness.
Good luck.

that is a natural thing for you to do. you love him so much that the idea of losing him breaks your heart.. just tell him that.. be honest that you love him more then you can say and you want to make sure he is ok and will be with you forever.

You need to really think of your husband.. The more he sees you stressed the more that affects him.. You need to just breath and relax becuz that will help him too.. It hard on both of you I know this.. I'm helping my 24 year old Husband battle Testicular Cancer.. But you have to be strong.. So maybe calm down with sticking the thermonator in his mouth and maybe just sit down and talk instead.. I can't tell you how many times we just layed in bed and talked or maybe watch a movie together in bed.... Those are the moments you live for.. Doing that kinda stuff helps get the mind off it too..It is scary.. I know.. But as women we need to be strong for our men when they can not be for themselves... We can only take it one day at a time..

You are both very fortunate. You could have easily lost him! I'm so sorry that you both have had such a difficult time. You're bound to be scared for a while...but try to get past it! If you can't do it on your own, see your family doctor...a little medication to calm you down might not hurt. Ask the Doctor. Take care and God bless...and take his temperature FOUR times a day (if you have to!), but not 50! Really, ask his Doctor how often you should be doing his Blood Pressure. Unless something is really wrong, 1-2 times a day should be more than enough. And ask about the blood sugars, too...I think your doing it way too much, but let the Doctor tell you!!!
KJL

I just prayed for your husband and you. And I know God hears my prayers and He will release your husband of that. I also prayed that you would be loosed of the fear that you have. Fear opens the door. Stand confident in my prayer and I assure you that you will have peace. Close your eyes and turn to Jesus. He is the redeemer, the healer, the Savior, the name above all names! I love you both!

1 Peter 2:24
Isaiah 53:1-5
Matthew 8:16-17
Psalm 103:1-6

Alcohol, and lots of it.

As for the staff infection, are the maids coming down with the flu?


(staph, btw) :P