Can you ever get over bereavement?

My employer seems to think it only takes 3 days.

Never 100%, but time will heal it maybe 80%.

It helps to have a hope in something more.

You can probably never get over it 100%, you just learn in time to live with it. Try to think of what the dead person would want for you - probably a happy life for you and not one in which you're upset.

You never really get over it...it just gets easier to live with. Sometimes group therapy can help. Churches and other organizations have bereavement groups you can join.

That's very tough to say. My brother died almost a year ago, and I'm still not ever it. You'll truly never get over it, but it will get a little easier in due time.

it takes a long time to get through grief, especially if you're grieving for someone very close to you
it does get better with time but even when you think you're past the grieving things sometimes happen that bring back some of the sadness; it's usually not as bad, though, & doesn't last as long
my mom was killed in a car accident in 1985 & there are still times when I cry because something will remind me of her or a special day will come around & I can't stop wishing she was here
allow yourself to grieve fully; if you don't let yourself do this, it'll just take lots longer
also, be sure to take care of yourself; this makes the process a little easier

I don't think we ever get over a loss. We just learn to deal with it better. My best friend died 9 years ago and I still think about her and sometimes get upset when I hear a song that was kinda like "our song".

The intense and impairing part of bereavement in general lasts between weeks to 2 months or so, but that part does get better. However, to say that the memory of loss goes away is, of course, not true. We never forget the loss of a relationship--rather, the nature of the relationship (to their memory) changes with time.

There are certainly some counselors and psychotherapists who will treat cases of bereavement, but in general, most people recover to where they want to be within 1-2 months.

Best wishes.

No, I dont think you ever completely get over it. My mom and 2 little sisters died in a car accident 16 years ago and I still think of them ALL the time. Little things will remind me of them and I will feel really sad and miss them alot. But I dont cry anymore. So I guess you learn to cope with it.

Hi, Myra. I'm sorry about your bereavement. I don't know whether you lost a spouse or a parent or someone else, but I know what it's like to lose someone you love.

You'll never go back to the way you were before, as if it hadn't happened. You'll probably always feel some sadness about it. But the memories will be less and less painful and more sweet as time goes by. You'll be happy again, I promise.

You'll be able to make happy new relationships. Someone else can't ever replace the one you lost, but a new relationship will be good in its own separate way. And your relationships will be richer because you have the experience of this person you loved and the loss of that person.

Don't be surprised if your feelings go up and down. Recovery isn't a straight line. You might feel one day that your sadness is passing and everything looks bright, and the next day back to the worst pain and sadness. Anniversaries might be especially hard. But overall, over time, it gets better as you go along.

It helps to talk to people about it. You might consider joining a support group or get counseling.

I have lost many people who have been very close to me. I live a full and happy life and hopefully a long and healthy one. However, from time to time each one of these dear ones comes into my memories and there is an ache in my heart sometimes and a tear, other times they bring a smile to my face. They never totally leave us and do we really want them to.