Bereavement counselling?

does it really help?
i lost my dad in april and havnt even started grieving yet!
will counselling help?

I understand your loss. Grieving is handled different for everyone. I truely understand this now. I lost my wife and after 3 years I am still grieving, but it is better than 3 years ago. I also lost my dad at age 7, so I know what is like to grow up without a dad. If you want some email support write to me at altonbimale@aol.com.

Good luck in your journey in life!

everyone handles grief differently some need help others don't if you feel it would help[ give it a try

I lost my Dad two years ago, so I kinda know what your talkin about, do whatever you can to get help. If you ever want to talk drop me a line.

it may do, it may not work for everyone though. i would try it and if it wasnt for you there would be no problem if u decided not to continue with it.

It can help, most of what you feel in normal, try CRUSE if you live in the UK

It helped me untold, but it does'nt suit everyone. It does take time tho.

Definatley a good idea, its good to talk to someone you don't know sometimes rather than people you do know , I have had a few people close to me die and I believe it helps , good luck with that ...............

I wonder what you mean by "haven't started grieving yet." Do you think there is a specific process you need to go through called "grieving?" I know Elizabeth Kubler-Ross popularized an analysis of the grieving process, but that was an outline of generally what people go through; it's not a script.

Many times, with parents and children it's especially hard because there may have been a power struggle going on. But that's true of marriage relationships, too, so you deal with it. Guilt over "I should have said" or "I should have done" can come up. This is especially difficult for the survivor if the person died by his or her own hand, as My Steve did.

Of course there are practical matters to deal with, and the vague sense of being disrespectful or greedy or whatever for dealing with them.

Yes, there are counselors. There are also grief groups (inevitably), many if not most run by religious organizations. I went to a grief counselor for awhile after Steve's suicide, and it helped to have someone I could talk to in that way. Neighbors and friends have a different, much more biased, perspective.

Sorry you lost your dad. Counseling helps, but time helps more. Consider that it hasn't been that long and we don't exactly bounce back. Sometimes it is two steps forward and one step back. Listen to everyone, but realize that everyone grieves in his or her own way. There isn't a right or wrong way to live through loss.

my boyfriend's sister was killed in a car accident and he told me that he doesn't like going to the counselors and support groups with the rest of his family. he thinks it's easier to talk to me or a friend than pooring his heart out to complete strangers and then feeling guilty because something much worse happened to someone that they lost. i would have to say that i agree with him... i went to one of the compassionate friends meetings with his family and what happens is you share your stories and what happened to the loved one you lost. we all explained that his sister was killed in an underage driving car accident and then shared some stories, and it goes around in a circle with all the people. it ends up coming to this lady who's son had been murdered by his two best friends that his family had known all his life. it just makes you relive everything that happened at first and feel sad for all the other people. my boyfriend prefers living in the present and always having the great memories of his sister other than dwelling on the past. if you're not greiving maybe it's a good thing, but if you think you could be suffering from depression or anxiety i would see a doctor. good luck!