How do I approach bedwetting issues?

I have a 15 yr. old that my folks raised but I am now with him as much as possible to try to rebuild our relationship. Im building trust with him and assure him that he can talk to me about anything. He is living with me for the summer. Here is the issue: His room is next to mine and several mornings i would walk out of my room and smell an awful odor coming from his room. I asked him what it was and he says he doesnt know. I ask if he's been keeping his dirty clothes washed. He has. Has he been showering every morning? He has. I take him back to my moms to stay for the weekend and while he's gone, I go into his room and discover a pile of clothes. The jeans have a major urine smell coming from them. I call my moms to talk to him-I'm upset at him for not washing them and for lieing to me about the smell.My mom informs me that he has been wetting the bed for years and that he sleeps in his clothes.I feel terrible.How do i talk to him about this? How can I help him? Please help...

i think the reason why he lied is probably because he's afraid or ashamed of his problem... and probably because he didn't know where the detergent was or how to wash his clothes.

be gentle with him... tell him that you know he urinated on the bed and didn't wash his clothes, and that you know he's had this bedwetting problem for some time. don't ask him questions... he might be "forced" to lie again to protect himself. also when you tell him directly it shows that you know about his problem but still accept him.

discuss with him what both of you can do. perhaps you could present a few options to him.

one thing my grandma used to do was to wake me up in the middle of the night to go to the toilet. she did this from the time i was very young, so i never developed this problem. i think this is a simple solution, but has to be continued for some time, maybe months.

you could also bring him to a doctor, 'cos there might be something the doc could help out with.

the cause of this might also be due to some emotional or psychological stress in his life. if you're not the best person to find out what he's been through or is going through, i suggest that you rope in some other people that he trusts to help.

lastly, lots of other people have asked about bed wetting here on yahoo answers, i suggest you check out those answers too. (but some of the answers don't help at all... read with a pinch of salt and a good deal of common sense.)

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many people have many problems you must remain calm and see if you can work into a personal level with him to find the traumatising event that brings around what ever kinds of nightmares or disgrace that he feels he cannot get up and use a restroom at night.

There are special diapers for bed wetters. However, there is help for him. He needs to see a Dr. right away. There are devices that wake a bed wetter up as soon as a few drops of urine are detected. Once he starts to get used to this routine, he will stop bed wetting. It is not an incurable condition. But he needs help.

Don't be upset with him please, It's probably very embarrasing for him. Bring it up gently. Try to be sensitive to how he's feeling, he may be humiliated that you know. It sounds like you may want to talk to a doctor with him. At that age, it's not accidents anymore. He may have something wrong with his bladder or muscle tone, and he can't hold it. Ask him about it, and be open. Try not to be upset or come down on him.

I would take him to a Kidney Doctor first ...
A member of family had to go to see one and Now he is just fine ... Please rural out anything medical before you get upset it might not be his fault at all ...

A fifteen year old that is still wetting the bed needs medical attention. They have medication now so our children do no have to suffer through bed wetting when they are older. My daughter was given a nasal spray when she was 14 that helped until she could out grow the problem. Please get him help. Unless you have been through this, you do not realize how humiliating this can be.

I think you need to take him to a doctor. It may just be a physical or medical problem. If it's psychological, the doctor can talk to you and him to find out what the issues are. If he needs to refer you to someone else, he will. God bless.

Bedwetting at that age is due to a sleep disorder. The bedwetter does not go through the normal sleep cycles that the rest of us do. There are a lot of sites out there that discuss the issue. I think www.aacap.org/publications/factsfam/bedw... is the best.

There are alarm systems available that work. It helps the bedwetter to reprogram their sleep pattern. It takes at least 6 months and sometimes longer. But the self confidence of the child is worth it.