Baby at the age of 35?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year. He's 25 and has one child never been married and I'm 35 with two children from a 10 year marrage. When I turned 35 I said no more kids for me. But after all the care we took in trying to prevent there was a slip and I got pregnant. After 10 weeks though I lost the baby. Now my kids were looking forward to the baby, same as the father and I but I guess the timing was off. Now as I heal from the miscarrage my boyfriend and my kids are saying things like: Next time we will wait to tell the family in case, next time you should get more sleep, mom next time we'll help out alittle more.

Should there be a next time? I was worried that something like this would happen because of my age. Twins, my health, the health of the baby I couldn't stop thinking. I did everything right this last time but what about next time? My kids are 13 and 11 and I had a normal pragnency with them. Can I have that again at 35?

I wouldn't worry, you see people now in their late 30's and 40's having babies, I know you have to be a little more careful durning the pregnancy but, I don't see why you shouldn't be able to. My neighbor is 43 with an 18 mnth old and an other baby due next month! But, if you want to have a baby, eat right and take it easy. you should be a high risk due to your age and the fact that you recently miscarried. Hope all works out for you, and I wish you the best. Take care

ok I don't know why I'm getting thumbs down for my comment. I wasn't rude. anything is possable now a days. age doesn't define reather or not you can have a baby, as I said my neighbor is 43 and is having her second (past 40) And anyone one that is a little older with history of miscarrage is considered a high risk, hell I'm 28 and am high risk. I am not pretenting to play doctor here, just saying what i know from exprerance and what I know. I am not saying if there should be a next time it will all be perfect or that it won't be, give hope and support is all I'm saying. As I said before, I wish you only the best.

Sure! I didn't have my first baby until I was 36 and my ob told me that half her practice (and I live in a large city ... Chicago) is made up of first-time moms over 35.

yes, if you want you can.
now you have this expereince and you have to talk to you doctor about this next time to prevent any problems in the future if get pregnant again.
it should be not problem to have a child if you want to have one..

sure...nothing should go wrong

I understand what you're going through. I'm 29, have one child and have gone through 3 miscarriages. My husband wants more children, but I'm scared to go through another miscarriage. You are the only one who knows if they'll be a "next time". The most important thing right now is to relax and let your body heal. I don't think that being 35 was a major issue in losing the pregnancy. It just happened. No one can say if it will happen again. It might, but then again, it might not. Hang in there. There's no use in worrying about the "what ifs" in life. If you want to have another child, the best thing to do is not worry. If you decide you don't want another child, then that's just fine. It's your choice.

Of course everything can be alright. As long as you take good care of yourself. The important thing is if you want to have one, not because the kids say so or your boyfriend. If you do, and you have one best of luck and joy. They are a lot of work but they are worth it.

My one and only was born when I was 36. Miscarriages are really not uncommon... 50% of pregnancies end that way but normally they are so early the woman is not aware without a HPT. In the not so distant past, within your adult lifetime and mine, any pregnancy that didn't go till 2 weeks past your date was never detected - it's only been since the advance of HPTs in the 1990s.

If it's bothering you, explain to your kids that you want them to back off with the comments... that you and their father will decide when and if there will be another child and you would prefer they keep their comments to themselves as it hurts to be reminded all the time... they are old enough to understand.

BTW, having a child this "late in life" is so awesome in some ways... you may not feel as energetic, but they have an older and wiser parent who can emotionally give them all the love, security and understanding they need - right from birth - and selflessly too.

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