How can I help my friend who is out-of-control?

One of my friends is 15 (I'm 16) and she is totally out of control with drugs, drinking, partying, and sex. She comes to school about half of the time, and she was recently drug tested and came positive for weed, and perscript. drugs. She said her mom didn't really "care". I think she does, but she knows that her kid is really screwed up so she doesn't do anything. I know it's ruining her health and she smokes cigarettes almost all the time now, and drinks A LOT. I don't know what to do, and I know she wants help because she told me before. I don't wanna seem "dumb" and tell her to stop because she will just give me a dirty look and call me a baby. How can I help her? She's also bringing cigs and drugs to school and I wanna tell administration so she'll get busted again and hopefully stop. What should I do?

Talk to her Mom about it and suggest drug rehab. Getting kicked out of school will only make matters worse. Where is she getting the money to get the stuff?

talk to her then just hand it over to god, and stay away from her.

smack her in the face

Talk to her mom and see if you can help with an intervention. She needs treatment.

no dont tell on her she just going to hate u. Just talk to her. maybe she got problem and the only way to solve it is to do that so she can forget

I would definitely tell an authority figure. This story reminds me of Montel yesterday, an out of control teen was on it with her family. It was serious and by the end of the show they boiled down that it was a family issue not just the teen's issue. Your friend needs help. There is a reason they are acting out that way, but it may not be clear why on the surface. She really needs to talk to someone. You are a good and true friend for being concerned. I commend you on that.

Certain things should not be your responsibility to take control over. If her parent(s) are not actively involved in controlling her substance abuse problem, you should talk to the principal at your school about it. Tell him/her you don't want to be the bad guy and not to disclose who gave him/her the information about your friend.

Your friends problem is very extreme, and had it been a slight problem i.e. some occasional light drinking on weekends I would have suggested you talk to your friend about it, and try to get her to see what this is doing to her health and people around her. But this issue is way beyond that. You need to get the school involved. She doesn't just need to get busted again, she needs rehab.

I hope she gets help. Good luck!

My personal thoughts, and I am no expert, is that the first thing you need to do is save yourself. I know that you love your friend and want the best for her, but you also need to make sure that the down side of her actions don't fall onto you also.

You can help your friend by loving her and talking with her parents and other adults that may be able to help her. Sometimes, it is easier to listen to people who can force you to do things than your friends.

Maybe set up an intervention. Her parents can have authorities involved. Cops and other organizations may seem extreme or may even make her hate you at the time, but maybe getting the law involved will scare her or atleast keep her clean long enough to snap out of it.

One thing you have to understand, is that you are you and not her nor an extension of her. Please don't let someone else ruin your life because of their mistakes. This includes dragging your emotions down with hers.

Good luck and I hope that you find answers and that she is helped. People do change.

http://www.interventioncentral.org/

I would tell someone in administration at least, other than that there's not a whole lot to do if she doesn't want to help herself. Maybe tell her you can't hang out with her anymore until she straightens up cause you are tired of her messing up her life. Sounds like she does need treatment but unfortunately you can't force her to go. :(

Mind your own business.

You can try your best to help her out, but there are two things you have to keep in mind.

1. She's not going to change unless she truly wants to and is willing to make the effort.

2. This could cause her to be angry with you and potentially end the friendship.

If you want to give it a shot though, your options are to talk to her, her mom or a school counselor. You can also find some other options, such as non-profit rehabilitation and counseling centers in your area. Even if she won't go to them, they can still give you tips and advice on how to handle her behavior and how to try to persuade her to stop.

Ultimately, she's going to have to make the effort though. You can't force someone to change; they have to change themselves. If she isn't willing, then there is nothing more you can do and may have to just stay away from her because her actions could get you in trouble even though you don't participate.

Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best!

I would express your concers to her and ask if you could help her stop or if she needs other help then you can talk about finding a program for her. there are alateen meetings or go to adult meetings and listen to thier stories then hopefully she would really want to stop

SECRETLY REPORT HER HABIT TO THE SOCIAL AUTHORITY OR ANY SOCIAL WORKER OFFICER IN YOU COMMUNITY.