I have just had the devastating news that my daughter's husband is a drug addict. He has been using cocaine

for a very long time. Everything has come to a head as he is heavily in debt and very troubled. He is getting support from everyone and visiting a clinic. But, what are the chances of him coming clean. He has a tendency to be addicted to everything else, eg cigarettes, gambling, blue movies, etc. I want to look positive but obviously my daughter's future has to be considered. She has just had a baby too. With help, do you think he could ever get back to how he was. This is a very, very sad situation.

Once a scumbag, always a scumbag! Get your daughter away from this parasite!

Yes, some people recover and never go back to coke. It can happen. Be supportive til you have a reason to be otherwise.

A sad situation indeed. Sometimes tough love is required, but people can bounce back from these things.

However, it will take a monumental effort n the part of everyone involved....him to clean up, and the rest of you to support him, especially through the darkest days.

The baby's welfare must come first, of course, but I expect you already know that.

Good luck.

I think that it's now that you must help him so that they can carry on thir life.

If he has an addictive personality he's never going to get clean until he comes to the route course of why he's addictive to everything, I would suggest visiting a physciatrist as well as his drugs councillor. Look on the bright side though, cocaine addicts have a much better chance of rehabilitation than many other drug users. Your daughter needs to keep hers and his finanaces seperate until you can trust him again.

Unfortunately, he is unlikely to change. Unless he is 100% committed to his treatment.

oh u must support and help
if its not for him
than its for ur daughter and grandchild
tell your daughter that if anything happens
she is welcomed to stay at your home
and if she refuses
but u find it bad for the child
than u must care for the child

I think your son in law is capable (with everyone help) of overcoming this latest trial. He certainly sounds like he has the "addictive gene" which usually makes for a weaker character. He will nee a lot of time, help, patience and support.....You (and your daughter) will need....the total cooperation of your son in law.....this will be the ultimate key to a positive outcome.

Get him and yourselves some professional advice, help and support.

Keep positive and good luck :)

Very few people with an habitual tendancy to dependency go on to live full lives, raise families, or be good people. It's just too hard.

I would personally advise you not to give up on your daughters husband!!! I can understand how this can be troubling to you. The main thing to consider is that people that engage themselves in addicting habits normally do so for a reason. The main point to consider is that unless he is 100% willing to give up the habit, for example he was not convinced to, he will not acheive giving up. I think it would be good for you to know what exactly cocaine does, so i shall do my best to explain as i have had many friends in the same situation. Cocaine aka Methylbenzoylecgonine is both a stimulant of the central nervous system and an appetite suppressant. Specifically, it is a dopamine reuptake inhibitor. It gives a feeling to what has been described as a euphoric sense of happiness and increased energy. It is most often used recreationally for this effect. Because of the way it affects the mesolimbic reward pathway, cocaine is addictive.

As i stated before i have many friends that i know have kicked the habit and it is not easy but as long as he has the loving support from you, his friends and his wife then he will have a much better chance of returning to normality.

There is one option that i can suggest that will make sure he will stay off Methylbenzoylecgonine (Cocaine) and that is running. The reason for this is because of the advantages it posseses, and they are:
Reduce the risk of premature death (by as much as 40%!)
Reduce the risk of developing and/or dying from heart disease , Reduce high blood pressure and the chances of developing it , Reduce high cholesterol or the risk of developing high cholesterol , Reduce the risk of developing colon cancer and breast cancer , Reduce or maintain body weight , Reduce the risk of developing diabetes and other weight-related conditions , Build and maintain healthy muscles, bones, and joints , Reduce depression and anxiety
Feel good about yourself and generally enjoy life more.

These are just some of the good points furthermore runners like myself view their running as a remedy. The psychological benefits of running far outweigh the physical demands. In fact, running is often used to treat clinical depression and other psychological disorders. Furthermore, some doctors claim that running works as well as psychotherapy in helping patients with clinical depression. Running makes patients less tense, less depressed, less fatigued, and less confused. It gives patients something other than their depression to focus on, as it removes from the world around them into their own liminal zone. While studies show that running is a natural tranquilizer, its effects on patients with clinical depression, addictions, and disease are remarkable. When used to treat addictions to drugs and alcohol, running has also shown outstanding results. For example, Rob Simbeck, marathoner and former drunk, was able to overcome his addiction to alcohol by replacing his daily drinking binges with daily runs. For Rob, running was able to "fill a lot of gaps in my life after I quit drinking". Completely on his own, Rob gave up his addiction to booze, and instead "became addicted to that hour or so of cardiovascular exercise each day". This remarkable story comes to a climax upon the completion of Rob鈥檚 first marathon "on a cold December morning in Huntsville...[when] after nearly 11 years without taking a drink, my soul, which had for years known only profound weariness, was somehow freer". In cases such as Rob鈥檚, running is an effective and affordable way to treat illness, both psychological and physical. I hope that this helps you and that you succsseed in helping your son in law realise that there is more to life than addiction. Matthew

Addiction is a disease. It is not the result of weak moral character. Your son in law is sick.

Until and unless he is willing to admit he has a problem and is willing to do something about it his chances of recovery are zero.

What can you do to help?

Watch the TV show Intervention, its on A&E Monday nights, It may well shed a new light on this matter, and if you think he is not as bad as some of those people, just wait he will be.

Addiction is a family disease. You have to let him hit a bottom. Stop enabling him. Cut him off from everything do not support him. Make him choose between the drugs and a life.

If he is honest about this whole process then his chances are good, until then they aren't.

Ultimately, it is your daughters decision as to whether she stays with him - so think carefully before interfering in their relationship. The best you can do is support her and let her know that you are there for her and the baby no matter what she decides to do.

Some people are capable of giving up drugs for good, but not everyone is. If he has a tendency towards addiction the chances are that he may not beat it, or will just replace it with something different, like alcohol or gambling for example. You need to make sure that your daughter has realistic expectations and understands what life could be like in the future if he doesn't beat it.

its helps to talk so try talking and working things out.

I agree with British Plumber..... GET YOUR DAUGHTER AWAY FROM HIM.........

give him a great big slap