About alzheimer dementia?

my mother has alzheimer and dementia ,my younger sister is taking care of her ,she volunteer to ,but i see that my mother is verbally abusive with my sister ,how can i help my sister? is impossible to try to talk to my mom HELP!!!!!

I observed that behavior constantly with a late aunt who I was
living with at the time. She developed a quick temper and
could be so moody from the time she woke in the mornings.
Some days, I just stayed out of her way and didn't go around
her as much as I could have. She wanted peace and quiet,
and I tried to give her all she wanted. I have seen how cruel
and hurtful someone with dementia and Alzheimers can be.
Others' in the family never saw this side of her, until her last
year when she started having more forgetful moments and
couldn't find important things she normally used. She stopped
driving, thank goodness,and another aunt drove her to the
store. So I guess she felt unsafe to drive at that point. Tho she
never said a word about why she wouldn't drive. During
the last several months of her life, she became abusive to
anyone who visited. Provoking arguments and being gener-
ally unkind. To the point where one aunt who'd been driven
two hours to visit, called within a few hours for a ride home
again. She refused to stay with my aunt another minute. My
'sick' aunt died alone, having a major stroke. And I felt, she'd
died the way she did, out of punishment for her ill tempered
ways. She left no mourners!
I sympathize with your sister. And I'd suggest she call her
mothers' doctor to ask what type of medication she could be
given to quell her anxiety and anger. She definately needs an
attitude adjustment to stop the hurt she's causing her daughter. When they are angry, they just don't care what they
say. And you soon believe they are the devil incarnate. I used
to say Jesus' name in my mind for fear she was going to
actually hit me. And I would want to hit her back. And I didn't
want to be carried over the same edge, that she was. It can
be very frightening to be with someone you fear, because they are out of their mind. It's at that point, someone else,
needs to step in. And they need to be put in a place of
protection for themselves and for others as well. It sounds
like your mother has reached that situation. Medicare will
cover her coverage. So please have her placed into a care
facility. Where she can't do any harm to anyone, if she's
inclined. She's not responsible for what she could do. I have
seen eyes with fire and ice, and it's not a pretty sight.

give your sister lots of alone time. Offer to help out. Be there listen. Your mom is going to be as she is. Alzheimer is a devestating disease. Be compassionate to your mom and sister

Hopefully your sister can develope a tough shell, cuz that's just the way it is with Alzheimer's, the patient can't help it because they don't even realize their doing it. Just make sure your sis knows that your Mom isn't doing it intentionaly, I took care of my Mom for 15 yrs. with this , it took along time to understand, but once I did, I was able to not take it personaly. There's lot's of info at the library, it would do her well to read up on it. God Bless her, for taking on such a task as this.

i work in a nursing home speciallizing in Alzheimers and Dementia and I commend your sister for trying. I know how hard it is to care for. You can give your sister breaks by taking Mom for a while and being there for your sister when she needs to talk.