My grandma died in January but I'm still feeling really sad about it. Any advice?

My grandma died in January after a six year battle with dementia, a form of Alzheimer's. The last two years of her life, she didn't recognize her own family. It was so hard. Although I wasn't incredibly close to her when she was alive, now that she's gone, I feel really sad. Twice in the past week, I've had to leave class temporarily to regain control of myself. To cope with my feelings, I've been writing her letters. I think she's up there, watching me. She's a true inspiration.

I know that it's normal to feel sad after a loss, but the rest of my family has moved on, and a lot of people say that by now, I shouldn't still be dwelling on her death. But the littlest things remind me of her and I get sad and shaky and it's hard to deal with things. Any advice?

Gramma must have meant sooo much to you, and a great part of your life is gone,...but gramma wouldn't have wanted you to be sad, ..and I think te letters you are writing are sooo sweet...When you grow up, you will always have something to look back on, and show to your children...a beautiful scrapbook in her honor, is more than any gramma could ever ask for...she was blessed to have a number one granddaughter like you...she is sleeping peacefully, and you are in the mourning proccess now,...I still cry over my daddy, and it's been thirteen years...some of us just take a longer time to heal when a huge part of us is sadly taken away...Pray to God and Jesus to watch her for you, and in everything you do,..remember to honor her...and make her proud...God Bless sweetie,...God bless

we each of us mourn in our own way. you cannot measure your mourning by anyone else's yardstick. You need to keep active and keep yourself occupied, but also allow yourself your feelings, they are yours.

i read a statistic that said on average it takes 3 years to get over losing someone you love. just remember all of your memories with her. it'll get easier with time.

my great grandma recently passed away, and my granpad did a year ago.
After my grandpa died i was crying a lot for a while too.
When he died we went to his house and got some of his old sweaters, and my mom bought some teddy bears, we took them to some lady and she made a sweater for the bear out of his, and she mad him a hat with his picture that says "oh boy!" because he always used to say that. Now whenever i think of him and wanna tear up i just give the bear a hug :) its normal for u to still be sad, i was.
I hope i helped you, good luck!

Perhaps you think your family moved on as they not as open with their own grief, also as you get older you prepare yourself for such things esp if your gran was ill for a time. My own gran died four weeks ago, some days I think of her some I don't, some days I cry some I don't. The main point I am trying to make is it is your grief and only yours. I would suggest you let it happen rather than fight it as it may cause you more problems to bottle feelings up. If it takes you another month or another 10 years, sometimes we don't ever get over those we have lost, we just learn to live our lives without them. Thinking of you.

Yes. I use this technique myself. I lost my Mom in November while I was sitting by her bedside. She was 93 and almost in the same shape as your granny. I have that vision in my head of her dead body which I replace immediately with a vision of her alive and smiling and joking around. If I dwell on her being dead, then depression does set in. You just need to replace those sad thoughts with happy ones. Remember her smile, her cooking and how she looked when she was all dressed up. These memories of your grandmother should make you happy. I feel privileged when a thought of Mom comes floating in. Work on replacing the sad thoughts. I used this same technique 30 years ago when my Dad died. It keeps me in good spirits. Talking with people about their experiences with her can help too. I am thinking you should stop writing the letters for a while and see if your emotions are more in control. Go to your school counselor and tell her/him what you told us here and maybe you can get some good advise. It is so sad that your granny died, but she would never want you to grieve for so long. Honor your grandmother by being as good a person as you possibly can!!

its normal like you said lost is a horrible thing maybe you should get to know her now ask questions about her to your family and maybe stories of her life and that will help you have a better picture of who she was and always think that she would not like you to be thinking of her and crying or feeling sad she would want you to be happy and rather than having a frown while thinking of her have a smile and think that she is with you. and remember everything is okay it doesn't seem like it now but it will be

Grandma's are very special. When mine died she had been sick a long time and didn't seem to know us anymore too. I felt like I lost her long before she actually died.Try to remember the good times you shared and know that she loves you too very much and would not want you to be so sad. You will see her again in Heaven one day.

No, her death was very recent and I don't think everyone would be over it. You are okay. Take the breaks when you need to. Find people you can talk to about losing your grandma. It is hard. Some people are not as impacted by the death of someone as others are. It just is.