Is my MOM PSYCHOTIC?

I'm 23. Ever since I've been alive, my mom has been very abusive & kind of sadistic to my brother & I. My brother moved out once he turned 18 & now disassociates himself from the family because he hates her. Now that I am older, my mom has stopped beating on me, but she still tries to terrorize me phsychologically anytime I'm around & start explosive arguments. These days she mostly steals my identity & tries ruining my credit. Every relationship she's ever been in has been a complete failure: full of abuse, disrespect, jailtime, alcohol, marijuana, etc. She's usually the one starting the fights & puts all of her energy into manipulating and ruining the men that she is with & then claims to be victimized. My 60 yr. old grandmother, who just successfully got out of alcohol rehab is now living w/ my mom, & my mom is buying her beers all the time and I don't understand why. The wierd thing is, she's kind to animals.

WHAT IS YOUR ANALYSIS OF MY MOM'S BEHAVIOR?
WHY DOES SHE DO THIS?

ALSO...
She has a lack of ambition and gained massive weight, keeps the house FILTHY, she is very unethical at work and is on the verge of being fired, which she doesn't understand why. She never sees herself as being wrong for anything. She's always the victim.

To answer your first question: Yes, your mom is very psychotic. All I can tell you is flee far, far away from her, like your brother did. But don't do it in a way that you're keeping all your demons inside you. You just have to realize that kind of unnecessary stress and s hit in life you truly don't need around you, and you have to let her go in that way, so you can peacefully get on with your life. And make sure you never turn into her. Let your kids have a better life than you had.

All my best.

I'm sorry....



Good Luck.

Your mom may have bipolar disorder. It's a psycological disorder that causes irritable human beheavior. Take her to a shrink....if you can. He most likely will pescribe medication, and that will calm her down.

Sounds like mom has some serious issues.
It's sad b/c you dont make it sound like she would be willing to go and get help. I am not a doctor and can't put a label on your mom's behavior, other than to say she has some serious issues that will never be resolved if she doesn't try to get help,. and even then, they may never get resolved.

Good for you for living, and dealing with it for 23 years. You may want to think about going into therapy, for nothing else, then to be able to talk openly, express you feelings and deal with all you have going on.

And I would get out of her house ASAP, if you haven't already.

Good luck

Yes she does need to have her head examined. I would break all ties with this woman. I know it is hard because she is family and your Mother, but you risk getting hurt each time you are around her. I would fear for my life. She needs to get help and you need to report the abuse you and your brother went thru. Maybe she will do some time and get the help she needs.

I agree with everyone's answers soo far, except for the part about leaving her alone. She could hurt your grandmother even more than she is already doing. She sounds kind of like a sociopath to me, which basicly means she has no conscience. I would get her to a psychiatrist, who will most likely send her to a mental hospital. When/if she gets more stable, they will most likely let her out. Honestly, it may be hard to do, but it is the best thing for everyone at this point.

I would say your mum has some issues. Issues that were there before you and your brother were born. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like she's going to change.Call the police on her for your credit issues. If you don't put your foot down you are telling her it's alright to treat you this way. My suggestion is to follow your brothers path. Leave those two to their disfunction and abuse. Take care of you, get counseling and let go of your mum. Best of luck

No joking at all but you really may need to bring your family to the Dr. Phil show. I've seen him deal with people like your mother before and this could be a big wake up call for her. There has clearly been some trauma in her life directly caused by a man and she doesn't value herself at all. That is all that I can tell. Also, misery loves company which is why your mother is encouraging your grandmother to drink again. I'm very sorry that you and your brother went throught such a terrible experience. The best thing for you both was to get away from her so good for you. Also counseling individually could work wonders too. Simply to keep you sane and gain understanding about your feelings. I hope that you can do something to show her how she really is because she could really be mentally disturbed and needs to be diagnosed immediately.

First off- It really sounds like you are growing up in a very rough family setting. I am sorry that you are being treated so bad. You DO NOT deserve this.

I believe that your mother's behavior is a learned behavior. She probably has been this way (maybe not as severe) since she was very young. She is getting something out of acting this way. Perhaps some sort of instant gratification.

You can not change her, you can only change you. You needed to decide how to get away from this abuse. That is actually what is happening. You are being abused.

Perhaps your mother has been abused herself, and she is letting the cycle continue. You seem like you are breaking this cycle. Remember, she may might still be angry about something very bad that happened to her when she was younger. Yet, that doesn't make it okay.

You didn't say if your Grandmother was your mom's mom. If so, looks like her mother might be contributing to her behavior or was a contributor to it. Either way, there isn't much you can do to help her. You need to help yourself. Once you get rid of this sorta drama and negativity in your life, you will finally be able to feel free.

I wish you the best of luck. Hang in there. I know it's rough.

I am truly sorry for your situation. Your mom needs psychiatric help. Sounds like she has addiction problems along with depression and she is abusive. I wish you and your brother the best.

It sounds like your mom is very abusive and has many problems. You did not mention if she heard voices or sees things that are not there. It does not sound like she is psychotic if she does not have hallucinations.

Talk to your doctor about getting into some counselling, so that you can best deal with your mother.
I am sorry