Getting along with an adult daughter?

I told my 26 yr old dtr she could move into my large home after my parents died. She was living there w/ her son, helping out with them. She is now pregnant w/ her 2nd child, and we don't get along at all. I have managed for almost a year to just stay clear of her, stay as much as possible at work and w/ another daughter. But, I need to be there more often as her due date gets closer. She is just plain "mean", no drugs, no alcohol, never smoked or done any of this. She's lazy in the housekeeping and mothering and daughtering departments. She is a yeller and a screamer, and I just can't take her abuse towards me. any clues on how to get along? Her other choice is to move in w/ her sister and her 2 kids in a much smaller, but a very nice house . THEY have different mothering AND housekeeping styles. I did this mainly for this daughter's 4 year old son, my grandson...who is spoiled rotten by her.

if you think that counseling may be helpful and you do not wish to go for individual counseling, there are family therapies available that would allow for guided dialogue about not getting along, and possible solutions.

Your daughter needs to seek counseling and you my friend need to let her grow up. It is time she learns how to take care of herself.

I'm about the same age as your daughter and have had in the past a pretty problematic relationship with my mother but this has almost all been with resolved with fortnightly sessions of 'Person Centered Counseling'. In just 6 months we are communicating better and resolving issues. We all feel we need to be strong and cope with our own issues and the clutter that goes on in our heads. But the sooner we admit we ALL need a little help the better.