My mom is uhh...mature women only please!!?

So, my mom is 44 years old, in great shape, has 2 kids (10, 18) and she just found out she's 1 week pregnant, the thing is , she doesn't want a third child, because she thinks it will ruin her body again, (she had urinary incontinence, and labia reduction surgery last year) and she has had 5 or 6 abortions in her life (please no rude comments about that, it's not my fault,and we don't talk about that stuff,i was little at that time) so since she's only 1 week along, she wants to take a pill, sorta like the "morning after" pill, i don't want her to, i told her that she should keep the baby, and she wasn't that stubborn this time, she said talk to daddy, and i was like, "mom , this isn't another handbag i want, it's your baby we're talking about!! and a lifetime investment" , so what if my parents decide to keep the baby? is it safe to carry and give birth to a baby at this age ? she's 44. Will it ruin her previous cosmetic surgeries? please no mean comments, thanks

It may ruin her previous plastic surgery, yes, but it's safe for her to carry a child at the age of 44. There are many more complications for a child born to a woman at 40 than a child born to a woman at 30, but it doesn't mean she won't be healthy afterwards. She probably just won't have a great body.

I agree with others that it is her decision, not yours.

Having a child at 44 itself can be dangerous more to the baby than herself, and you have to do alot more tests during pregnancy than if you were younger. Higher risk when you reach 30 years old I think.

I don't think morning pill will work either, because that only works 72 hours after the conception.

I think it will more or less ruin her body again. But personally I think a baby is worth it.

It's her body, not yours. She's the one that's going to be raising the baby, not you. Let her make her own decisions.

Since your mom is in great shape, she should be fine carrying and giving birth to a baby. There are health risks to the child after the mother is older though, like downs syndrome. I dont know anything about the cosmetic part.

It is completely her decision whether to have another baby. To be perfectly frank with you, your opinion doesn't matter here. If you want a baby, you can have your own.

Being pregnant at 44 entails serious risks; the likelihood of a miscarriage or birth defects is significantly higher at that age. And yes, the physical toll on your mother's body would be significant; it would likely ruin the labia reduction surgery; it would cause her to gain weight; it would cause stretch marks because her skin is less elastic.

You may also want to consider that your mom isn't interested in raising a child until she's 62 years old.

Are you sure she's only a week? Thats so impossibly early to find out you're pregnant. Anyway, no having a baby at 44 is not too old. She should have a healthy pregnancy. But if she doesn't want it, its her decision. She should consider having her tubes tied, its a great investment :)

i think you should all have a chat with doctor and talk to see the complication if any would occur during/after preganany, as age, state of body, and cosmetic surgery may have affects during your moms pregnancy or the baby x i hope i've helped x i wish all the best for you guys xxx

At 44 years old she is perfectly capable of having a healthy pregnancy. Yes, it is a little old to be popping out children, but nowadays it is a more common thing that it was way back when. Doctors and hospitals now have the technology to allow older women to give birth without seriously risking the health of the fetus or the mother. Since she is older, there is a chance that she will not carry the baby for the full-term of her pregnancy, but this doesn't necessarily mean that she will not be able to stay healthy and give birth to a normal, healthy baby.

She should talk to her Doctor about her cosmetic concerns. Every pregnancy is different. This one might not do anything to 'ruin' her previous cosmetic procedures, or after the pregnancy is over she might have to do everything she did all over again. This is definitely something she should bring up with her doctor. Her doctor knows her body and has her medical history. He/she would be able to give her some more definite answers.

After age 35, the risk of down's syndrome and other disorders increase greatly, but that doesnt mean that she cannot have a normal child. Its just that theres a greater chance in older women. The surgeries shouldnt matter since theres a life at stake, but I think it should be her and your dad's decision ultimately.

... im sorry if i sound mean im really trying not to be.

Tell your mom if she went in for that many surgeries she should consider getting her tubes tied while she's at it...

It wont really "ruin her" womens bodies go back to normal after child birth - there are also certain excersises to help with the process....

If she really doesnt want her va-j-j to get "ruined" she should consider a c-section with a very good doctor.

I agree with the people who say that this is a decision for your mother, hopefully in consultation with your father. A child is a big tie, and the likelihood of problems is greater with your mother's age. My mother was over 40 when she concieved my sister, and my parents still had a child at school when they were ready to retire. For my sister it was like being brought up by her grandparents.