Abortion or not?

So I might be pregnant, and the soon-to-be father doesn't want me to keep it. I'm not all about abortion, but I'm not against it either. I think it all depends on the situation. I'm a little confused right now, a part of me wants to keep it, a part of me doesn't. I know if I get an abortion I'll regret it. I already have a 3-year-old and have been kinda wanting another one, just not this soon. But I know if I keep the baby.. I'm gonna be milkin' child support out of his paychecks, and he's gonna have to pay child support considering he's in the navy. But I don't want him to hate me. =( I'm so confused. What should I do.

FYI : I've been raising my 3-year-old daughter all by myself. Her father can't afford to give me child support and I accept that. I'm a hard-worker, and I don't really need a man in my life. I work only for my daughter. I'm not after this guy for his money. He's in the navy, and his rank isn't that high. But once the navy finds out he has a kid, he's going to have to pay childsupport. I know. I'm a military brat. I'm just not sure what to do right now. I want it, but the same time I don't.

well first off having a baby now with your other kid being 3 would be the perfect space, he's old enough to help you and young enough to enjoy the baby, sometimes when they get to old then theres serious rivelry, and just because the dad wants you to kill it dont mean you should if you have been wanting this baby then keep it, who cares that you have to have child support its not like he will have to pay the whole cost of the kid, and its not like you are asking him to, you didnt get into this position alone, so he should have to pay!!! period! You both are smart enough to know what causes it! If i were you i would thank god for allowing you another miricle of life, and keep the baby, either the dad will come around or he will split either way, you have a wonderful baby to cherish, and you give your older kid a playmate!! good luck make the right choice!

okay well, just my opinion, but if you're "adult" enough to be sleeping with some guy than you're old enough to deal with the consequences of your actions...

It's always your choice. But I discuss it with him to make sure of the choice you decide. I don't see why he would hate you. It take two.

It's not about how much money you have or what your circumstances are--it's about a child's life.

At the end of the day, you might be milking a man for child support. Then again, at the end of the day a child may have lost it's life.

I've never been in your situation but I do know that I know alot of women who have had to make decisions like this...and they've kept their kids even though it was hard. Today they say wouldn't have it any other way..even though there were issues, they love their kids more than anything.

And I don't want to sound like a parent or anything here, but if you didn't want to deal with the consequences of sex then you shouldn't have had sex. I know that's very cliche, but it's the truth. It's not like one day you just became pregnant. You made a decision and now you have to deal with the consequences.

Please don't have an abortion. If the father doesn't want the baby, then fine. That's no reason to end it's life, though. God bless.

Follow your heart! If your heart says to keep it, then keep it. I believe every pregnancy happens for a reason, god wants you to have that child for a reason, and he wants you to give him a chance in the world. But if you aren't ready than you aren't ready. DON'T bring a child into the world if you know you can't support it.

keep it (if u r preg.)

I am against abortion...of course I am going to say dont do it. But I think that babies are God's creations and are a beautiful, presicous thing. yes - you will regret it.

If he is mad, I think he isent a very good father. No offense, but all fathers should consider YOUR opnion too. A baby is a wonderful thing, and if you MADE a baby loose its life, well thats a heart-breaking thing. Its NOT about the money, its about a life.

Try talking to him about your feelings towards this - and also his too.

Abortion is a horrible thing to do.
I have met many people. Abortion should be illegal - I say and many other people to. Why end someones life? You ARE KILLING SOMEONE - yes its still your belly, but its still alive!

Maybe people who have had abortions have mental issues from this, they have scar that can never be repaired. :(

I hope this works, consider the babys life.
Good Luck

Wow!!!!

Im all for its your body, its your choice; but damn; you would keep the baby for money and you dont want him to hate you?

Can you raise that baby by yourself? Cuz you are the only one who wants it.

You are so selfish, and so ignorant.

I guess your a milkin shild support from the other baby's father. Do you live from that?

No easy answer for you. However, you say you MIGHT be pregnant. Don't have a test, that way you'll never know, take the abortion pill RU-468 or have a DC and be done with worrying.

Don't have the abortion for 2 reasons. 1) Why end a child's life? 2) Ending the child's life will curse you with deep ridden guilt because of what you've done to the child. I've talked with many people throughout the years who have had the abortion, and more often than not it creates mental scars in the long run for both the mother and the father. God Bless you.

You should discuss this more with him!!! And if he is sure he doesn't want it then look for people who could adopt the baby after he/she is born!!! And while pregnant get to know them!!!!
You can always set up a way to see your baby daily/weekly with the adoptive parents!!!!

Do what you feel will be the best for the child and the child you already have. If you don't want to have an abortion but are unsure about having it think maybe adoption? Don't worry about him hating you, if he does he doesn't deserve to be around you.
In the end its no ones decision but yours, even if the father doesn't want you to keep it that is up to you. Abortion or adoption or keeping it forever do what YOU feel is best.

Keep the baby! You are bringing another life into the world.

The soon-to-be-father is a cold hearted b.a.s.t.a.r.d for saying he doesn't want it. Don't get it because he wants you to. You do it because you want your child to be here.

If it is money issues, still have it but put it up for adoption for something. But that is the cruelest thing to say "I don't want it so get an abortion"

You should have the baby! You won't regret it. You'll figure out a way so you can be happpy.

Once you have the baby, most likely your husband will change his mind and love the baby no matter what.

Everyone mostly changes their mind once something is here!

Good Luck and Make the Right Decision that You Can Live with!

But please keep the baby. You need to let it experience life!

Well first thing first.. find out if you are really pregnant.. and then think.. you already have a baby, and do you love her?? could you possibly kill your child? another baby?...

Please dont do that.. keep your baby! give your daughter a sibling..