7 weeks ..first time abortion?

i know its very wrong and i feel really sick and i've made a huge HUGE mistake ..i've been with my guy for 3 years never have used protection (which am very stupid for ..i dont need to be reminded)..i dont want to have the child because i feel like i wanted it to be different ..i wanted that big house and a great job and be able to take off work to raise my child and not have it be a huge money issue..im 19 work part-time and was looking forward to going to college in sept..my boyfriend says we can do whatever i want ..he has an okay job makes about 800 a week and says he will move us in and we can make this work and that i can finish school ..but i know its easier said then done ..i dont want to have the surgical abortion ..i dont feel right about that ..if i can have the pill abortion which is like a miscarriage then thats the only way i would do it ...i also feel that my boyfriend only wants to have it because he thinks if i get an abortion i might break up with him after .

i feel like i am not mature enough to give this child the best upbringing i would like ..am i so wrong for making a mistake and not wanted to have a child in an average enviroment/upbringing?i dont live in the best of places and i just want things to be different which i know they cant ..thats why i dont know what to do ..i feel i might regret it bigtime if i dont have it but i might regret it even more if i do ..i would never forgive myself if my child couldnt have the best upbringing that i know i can give him when im older

Please look at Yahoo images and type in 7 week abortion...it will show you exactly what you will be doing to your child. I was also 19 when I had my first child and very afraid...I considered abortion because I was in college but once I saw him on the ultrasound with his little heart beating...I couldnt do it.I was 6 weeks when I found out...Your child has a beating heart girl.....I promise you..you wil regret it...I dont care what pro choice people say...you will regret it...especially when you do decide to have children...My bestfriend had an abortion 10 years ago and she still invisions where that child would be today.....Please dont do it!! He's your child...hes counting on you to protect him.....its not just tissue passing like a miscarriage...its your baby ....

are you sure its not because your afraid you'll get fat?

wow.. ur hot ..lol

anyways. u should have the surgical one. i don't think the pill works once u get pregnant. just go to the doctor and ask them what your options are. you can always put the child up for adoption. and be sure to use the pill everyday after whatever u choose.

oh yea. your boyfriend will help you out anyways. you could actually like this experience after a couple of years. right now is probably too soon for you, but you made a mistake and you should try to make the best of it and see it as a blessing. after all, you don't want to tell your daughter that she was not intentional. who knows, she could grow up to make you proud. let her live out your dreams for you. just remember, LET HER LIVE out your dreams for you.

DONT DO AN ABORTION!

first, you need to think about everything that comes with parenthood, formula, diapers, daycare, doctor bills, etc...., it's a lot of responsibility and you need to make sure you are ready for this. you should have your life in order and make sure you can give this child everything that it needs. think about this you want to go to college, but having a child, and trying to get an education, is really hard, been there done that, had to quit, too much that goes on with a child..... you want to wait until you get a career started then think about a family, or you could struggle the rest of your life. good luck. the surgical one is not the way to take, if you can do the one with the pill , that would be the best way......

Do what is right for YOU. If it was you all alone doing this and no one's opinion was involved, what would you do? Your bf can wait for this if it is not the right time for you to have a child. You two can always try again. I am 20 yrs old and 28 weeks pregnant, trust me, school and pregnancy are not easily accomplished together- though it can be done. You still have a few weeks to think about what you're going to do but this is a decision that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life- so be sure and don't do anything for anybody but yourself.

You're not wrong for wanting an abortion. Its your choice. If you feel you're not ready for a child and you can't give it the best upbringing, then have an abortion. Don't bring an unwanted child into the world. Wait until you're ready and can give the child everything it needs. You've got a lot of life ahead of you.

the planned parenthood website has a good comparison of medicated and surgical abortions:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-c...

you and your boyfriend need to have a serious talk and weigh your options.

What about giving it up for adoption? There are many many people who would love to adopt a beautiful healthy baby like myself. I can't have kids and i'm 31 due to my health issues. You are blessed to be able to get pregnant. I won't make you feel bad because it is your decision. That is ANOTHER option. It is something that you can make you feel better. That you gave your child a chance. That you gave your child a chance to live and have an opportunity for a family who can't have kids to have a child.

Think about it, it doesn't sound like you're really set on having an abortion either way, surgical or with the abortion pill.

Good luck either way I wish you the best!

First of all, abortions are not a form of birth control.
Just because you think you are unable to raise a child the proper way does not mean that someone else would not want the child. I have a huge problem with using abortion the way that you are. If you are responsible enough to have sex you should be responsible enough to have a child. Also, there are many people like me out there who are physically unable to have children, and people like you who see 'getting rid of it' as an option makes us all sick. Another thing-it does not matter if it is surgical or prescription. IT IS STILL ABORTION AND YOU ARE KILLING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING! Think about adoption. I know it is your choice, but make sure you are doing the right thing. Someday you will have to answer to the big guy upstairs.
Too bad if you wanted it to be different. You should have thought of that before you did the deed. You play with the cards you are dealt.

Hi Sweetie,
I know where r coming from as I had an abortion as well, now I can't have kids at all!
Please think & feel 4 those that can't, & will give a limb, just to have 1, plus the monies to put U through a Good Collage. Please think this more carefully, what would be good 4 the baby, U, & a God Send for a couple of R chose to raise in a Happy Home! Please consider this, which I regret!!
LOL,,,,,,Diana D

First off, you should talk with someone at Planned Parenthood who can help counsel you and support you no matter what your decision is. If you decide to definitely terminate; sooner is better than later for all involved. It is less riskier for your health and a less complicated procedure the earlier it is done. Ask the doctor the risk of the abortion pill vs. a surgical abortion. (Some doctors will not prescribe the abortion pill.) The better informed you are; the better a decision you'll be able to make.
As someone who's been there, it does leave lasting emotional scars. I'd recommend counseling with your clergy or a therapist afterward. And your doctor or clinic will set you up with birth control-once you've been through this you won't ever not use it again. You should also ask the clinic/dr. to test you for STD's/AIDS, since you had unprotected sex. Good luck & take care.

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Take it from me. I have a daughter who is the best thing that could ever happen to me! it's awesome although I am 18 I had my baby at 17. My situation was the same as yours, yes it's hard and times seem as if they are the worse, but hold on. Everything will work out. Go ahead and keep the baby finsish school and anything else that needs to be done. The whole where you live at is nothing compared to the joy your baby will bring your way. I sent you an email, but had to leave a answer. DONT GET AN ABORTION. One of my friends did after I tried to talk her out of it I was willing to babysit and everything for her but nothing could change her mind out of fear! when you think about it that's all there is fear. The what if's...what if this doesn't work, what if that doesn't. What if I do this and that...and so forth. Just endure it all. Let the moment come one at a time once you start going to your appts everything will be like why did I want to give this up? how could I not want this baby? it's wonderful only a love a mother could experience and it will be all yours. Trust God he's all you need to make it. Pray and tell him your fears and trust him and watch how everything will work out. Email me to talk and read the mesg I left you. This is wonderful and comgrats to you. Im here to help you in everyway possible. Take things slow and when you do buy clothes don't get caught up in the new born things remember they have to grow and that the clothes you first have will only last so long. Although your baby is not here yet over the holidays wait until the sales hit...the after the holiday ones too that's when they are giving things away start to stock up now. Have a baby shower and start off slow with whatever you do. DON'T freak too. I stil go like why is she crying?! God, I have given her everything I can think of. Then it hits me to relax may be all she wants is for you to hold her and that's it. The tears fade and she smiles. By the way her name is Spring and she's 4 months I jsut turned 18 this month on the 16 by the way. Well, I have a lot of tips for things as well JUST DON'T HAVE AN ABORTION remember that where you come from has NOTHING to do with where you are going in terms of life. Good things come from places you never would have guessed. And look at you your mom had you-it's the same with your baby. No matter what anyone say's its a human in there. I tell my patients to look at it this way: Would you go and shoot someone? Would you poison them? NO! why you wouldn't want to have to live with that on your back for the rest of your life. When you look back it would be like why did I do that? why did I act the way I did? this could be done and that could of happened. So, what's the point? it's the same you're killing a human- a baby that lives in you with surg. pill. shot whatever. It's the same so why when it comes to abortions it doesn't matter or we say oh that's different? it's the same. The one thing people don't know is that when we have sex the time we have intercourse a baby is formed through sperm the thing is it dies on its own so that's a different story-but yours lived that's the joy.

i too agree! dont let anyone make you feel wrong for wanting an abortion, especially if it is the first time you have become pregnant.if you feel that you are not ready, chances are, you probably arent ready.your bf is right too...you guys can make it work, but dont let that pressure you.a surgical abortion is more ideal,and its nothing to be scared about.though i think you have to be strong minded to go through with it. i have had 1 and it was really(as bad as it may sound)no big deal.its over faster than you think.but remember..the sooner you make a decision the better.but please.... dont let any 1 change your mind or tell you that you're wrong for either decision that you may make.only you know whats best for you and you bf right now.you have a long future to decide when you want a family.

Your in a really difficult position right now and I wish you the best no matter what you decide. Only you can know if you're mature enough & ready to have this child. The truth is there's never a perfect time to have a child. If it's not school it'll be trying to get your career started. So it's not really about waiting till everything is perfect & you have the perfect house and everything you want. What really matters is if you're mature enough & the relationship you're in. If you're with someone that's going to be there 4 you it won't seem as hard. As far as school, yeah it would be harder with a baby. But I've seen friends do it, & having a child that depends on them actually pushed them to do better. But that only happens for some people. I do believe in our right to chose, but most of us hope we never have to make this choice. It sounds like your bf is willing to step up if you have the baby, hopefully he'll also be willing to support you emotionally if you decide on an abortion. As far as the method... don't obcess on that too much. The hard truth is that abortion is abortion. Neither way is guilt free. If you decide to do it, consult with a doctor and follow his advice on which option is safest for you.

have your baby--you will not regret it...have it aborted and you will live with that pain forever.
I dont mean to pressure you, but learn from others' mistakes

Many people regret abortions.
How many people have you met that regret not having an abortion?
Whatever type of abortion you have the results is going to be the same. Your baby will be dead. You can never go back. You can never have that same child again.
You say "I would never forgive myself if my child couldnt have the best upbringing that i know i can give him when im older". Do you think you could forgive yourself for ending his/her life?
Money might be hard at first but can you put a price on a life?
What would happen if you had a child later on in life and one of you lost your job etc? Youd get on with it. You wouldnt kill your child.
If you really dont want to bring up the child then consider adoption.
Also consider how this will affect your relationship with your boyfriend. Would things be the same after you ended his childs life?

As some of the others have mentioned, there is no perfect time to have a child. But, frankly, it sounds like now is a pretty good time for you. Your boyfriend is supportive and makes good money. Of course, you could always put your child up for adoption. Now you can choose the parents for your child and even stay in touch if you want.

You seem unsure about whether or not you should abort. You should be aware that if you take the pill, you will expel a really small person--complete with hands, feet, intestines, brain, eyes, etc. Many women find it traumatic and have difficulty dealing with the mental images. But any type of abortion ends the life of a child and can haunt the mother for decades. It often has a negative impact on romantic relationships as well--as one partner blames the other for killing their child or feeling pressure to do so.

(By the way, I was recently talking to a medical researcher and I was told that the best way to avoid breast cancer is to start having children at a young age, have several children, breast feed, avoid hormonal birth control, and don't abort. That's likely the reason that Third World countries don't have the breast cancer rates that we do in America.)

I've talked to women who have had children at a young age and they don't regret it. On the other hand I know of at least four women who had abortions, regretted them, and became pro-life activists.

Remember, you will never be sorry for doing the right thing. Best wishes.

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