I have had a total hysterectomy in 01/07. My husband left me 3 days ago.?

I am 27, my hysterectomy was done in 01/07. My doc did a total complete abdominal. Ever since I have not felt like the same person at all. Before I was in pain alot that is why my husband and I both thought this would be good. But now that I have physically recovered just fine, my hormones are a mess! They can not get me right after giving me many diff. types of hormones. I don't talk to my husband, I haven't had sex with my husband, it's like I am not married. We have been together 10 years and he is the love of my life. He had been telling something had to change or he was going to leave. He thinks that I just don't care and that I use my hysterectomy for an excuse on all of it. Well he left me 3 days ago and my world has come to a total end! He won't talk to me or anything, no matter how much I tell him I love him and want him he will not come home. He says I should have said all that sooner. I really can not take life right now and I feel like it just needs to end. What do i do?

Men cannot live without sex, and should never need to especially if they are married. You blew it. And hysterectomies do not change hormones that radically unless you had your ovaries removed too. I'm with him on this one.

First of all, as much as you want things to work out with your husband, you need to take care of yourself and get your mind back to where it needs to be.
Speak to your MD as soon as possible. Let him know you have been extremely depressed since your surgery and have been having suicidal ideas. It is nothing to be embarrassed about. Depression happens in a very large percentage of young women who have to have a hysterectomy.
Once you have your mind and your life back to a more normal state, get in contact with your husband and talk about your feelings. Let him know exactly what you are going through and how it affects how you express feelings to him.
It honestly sounds like there is more going on with him then feeling slightly rebuffed. To accuse you of using your surgery as an excuse... is just not right.
Good Luck and please contact a medical professional ASAP. Also let a close friend know that you have been feeling very low and ask them to check up on you periodically.

I am so sorry you are going thru this .. and I agree with the last answerer.. you need to see a dr. i have experienced this as well so I know what u are feeling like.. I made it thru and if I can do it so can u.. if u truly want ur hubby back home ask him to go to counselling with u and if he says no then maybe he has moved on .. I know ,I am sorry, I know u dont want to hear this right now .. but u need to take care of u .. if he loves u he will want to help u thru this.. but the absolutly best advice i can give u is to please please please call someone for help .. do it right now .. call family a friend .. a crisis line ,,, a hospital tell them ev erything u told us and they may offfer u some advice.. good luck hun my heart goes out to u

I think the important thing for you to do is to get your issues with yourself straightened out before you try to fix yourself and your marriage all at once. I seriously doubt that a husband who has loved and cared about you for 10 years has just written you off. He's probably frustrated, and feels helpless in this situation, and just can't figure out how to handle it. I think that if you show your husband that you are trying, and especially if you can get some things in your life back to the way you want them to be and show him that you're making progress, then your husband will see that you haven't given up on your marriage.

A hysterectomy at such a young age is always a major thing to deal with, and I am very sorry that you've had to deal with all these issues. I hope everything works out well for you in your life and in your marriage.

WHY WERE YOU NOT HAVING SEX WITH HIM?????
Sex is part of every normal healthy relationship, no sex, no marrige. Get him on the phone and promise him all the sex he ever wanted, do it tonight.