My girlfriend has ADHD and I'm not sure how to deal with it...?

My gf of 10 months has ADHD. I care for her very much and want to be there for her. She is in her 4th yr of college and has at least another 2 yrs. She is a very smart person and has a ton of common sense. She has a hard time concentrating at school and has no desire to do homework, much less finish college. She has three sisters who also all have ADD. I get the feeling she doesnt have much passion for things such as school and having a job. She is very passionate about being with me, id like to see that same fire for other things too. I feel she is very irresponsible a lot of times. All her life, everything has been handed to her by people such as her parents and now me. I get frustrated when I say something about her getting a job or doing her schoolwork and she uses her ADHD as a crutch and says I just dont understand. I have searched and read about ADHD. I want to be more understanding, but at the same time, I want her to work harder and find her own way to win against ADHD.

You sound like a really great guy and I think it's great that you want to be there for her. A lot of people give up on folks with this problem that may be why she says you don't understand. My daughter has ADHD and she's very sensitive about it. Is your girlfriend on medication? If not it might be time. If she does start taking meds. she might find that it's much easier for her to complete tasks such as homework, errands, a complete thought. (My daughter has that problem) I realize that nowadays it seems as though we rely far to much on medications as a "quick fix". However, there are times where it is very necessary. If you can, go to the doctor with her. That will let her know that you do care and it won't be so scary for her. Also try to help her set small goals. Once she gets the hang of it of it then you will see an amazing and wonderfull change. She will be more comfortable with herself and be even more of a joy to be around. Good luck.

Well for a start i think that you are a top bloke and very loving and strong. Just hang in there and let her know that you are there but unless she wants to do things for herself, unfortunately you cannot force her to see things your way. she has to realise for herself. just stay strong and keep encouraging her. thats all you can do.

A lot of patience is key, good luck!!!